TuzaHu makes a good point: really goods folks, especially in a community that is populated by a lot of head-fucked folks, is a challenge, but, lowering your standards is a matter of what you're willing to accept. If you're willing to deal with the baggage (and about everyone has some) I suppose that's your choice (just don't whine about it later). I've been non-married, and only in one 3.5 year relationship with a very wonderful lady my age. I have no regrets about having not dealt with the bullshit that I've seen some people deal with over the years. There are days I'm lonely, but, at least I'm not upset about some head-fucked person in my life.
Having low standards is why, despite modern medicine we see average life span declining instead of increasing. We've "accepted" fat kids. We've "tolerated" pictureless here, and so on. Lowering your standards to allow for a lower quality of person only makes the general population weaker. I.e., rather than make a fuss, we'd rather have fat people dieing young, running up hell care costs, having horrible disease, and so on..all for the sake of avoiding some unpleasantness. Coddling a problem, rather than fixing it, only makes it worse over time. Accepting the lowest common thing out of desperation or a want to avoid confrontation is a cop out.