How to meet young gay guys?

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    Feb 05, 2011 12:37 AM GMT
    First of all, my English is not perfect but I do my best to write well.


    I'm 19, I live in Downtown Seattle and I go to one of seattle colleges.
    I know a lot of gay guys are living in Seattle.
    But I don't know how to meet gay guys who are in my age.
    My friends are all straight and they think I'm straight.
    I want to make gay friends who can be "gay" not straight acting, or
    friends who can talk about guys or sex with each other.
    I'm not saying my straight friends suck but they are soooo straight!
    They love girls, want to fuck girls, and talk about girls. I always pretend like one of them and I so sick of that.
    Not only gay friends, I want to have a boyfriend also.
    But I just don't know how to meet gay guys like me.
    Maybe I can look for gay guy in my school and talk to him
    but that seems weird and I don't want my friends to know I'm gay....It's too risky.
    I don't wanna go to club cuz I'm not looking for hook ups.
    Why is this so hard for me? It's it because I'm in the closet?
    But I'm not sure coming out of the closet will really helps me.
    I really hope I can find the way that I can meet gay guys.
    Cuz the loneliness I have is....just killing me now.
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    Feb 05, 2011 3:39 AM GMT
    Is there a GLBT organization on your campus? Check out a gay support group or club in Seattle.
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    Feb 05, 2011 3:41 AM GMT
    You can go to a club without hooking up, LOL! The good news is that you're living in Seattle--there's a vibrant gay community there. Hell, I'm sure there are whole neighborhoods where you can run into other queer guys (although I can't remember which they are at the moment.)
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    Feb 05, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    BananaSucker

    LOL
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Feb 05, 2011 3:53 AM GMT
    Well, being in the closet doesn't necessarily ruin your chances of meeting other gay guys, but it certainly doesn't help. Coy eye contact at the gym only gets you so far. You have to be willing to put yourself out there a little. A campus LGBT group or a non-sleazy club is a great way to start. Once you start meeting some guys and making some decent friendships, the idea of coming out might not be so scary.
  • UnluckyTitan

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    Feb 05, 2011 4:09 AM GMT
    Not sure if you're a runner or not, but the Seattle frontrunners group is great. Probably not too many your age, but at least you'll meet other gay men and they might know someone.
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    Feb 05, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    "But I just don't know how to meet gay guys like me".
    Unlikely you will meet gay guys like you-which is what by the way?
    In the closet, afraid of taking the risk, don't want my friends to know I am gay". "I don't want to go to clubs"

    You best start in dealing with your homosexuality through self examination as you appear to be uncomfortable with who you are to begin with.

    I'll be blunt- your loneliness is self-generated.
    I have been through it myself.
    Sucking dick isn't the be all end all- good friends and love is.

    embrace your life now.



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    Feb 05, 2011 5:12 AM GMT
    Capital Hill.

    You're gonna have some fun there.

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