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Spontaneous sex and the bottom

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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 5:08 PM GMT
    I think sex would be a hell of a lot more fun if it was spontaneous, but I am caught up with the 'preparations' to the point that I want a few hours advance notice.

    So I'm wondering what the expectations of tops and bottoms are for the condition of the ass when it comes to spontaneous sex, and does it make a difference if it's with a hookup, friend or boyfriend?
  • rnch Posts: 10911
    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 5:53 PM GMT
    a higher fiber diet will minimize getting any "peanut on the popcicle stick" if/when spontaneous sex does occur...you are using a condom, aren't you?

    if a couple doesn't want to run the risk of any "deposits" happening; spontaneous sex should be limited to blow jobs!

    but (no pun intended)..

    since my long term bf and I enjoy long, wet, deep rimming sessions as part of our pre-insertion foreplay; we both make sure we both are properly "backflushed" before any planned intercourse happens. until actual insertion happens, we never know who is doing who. icon_wink.gif
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 6:07 PM GMT
    BUTTSEKS!!!!icon_biggrin.gif

    If youre lactose intolerant, obviously avoid dairy.
    And of course, use protection.


  • Nizzo Posts: 130
    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 6:18 PM GMT
    A couple hours notice, I need at least two days. If I'm going to get smashed on Saturday, I will only eat breakfasts Friday morning and use my Stream Master anal douche Saturday morning.

    But for spontaneous action I just give blow jobs/ hand jobs.
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 6:39 PM GMT
    Thanks for replies, but this thread isn't about advice for a clean ass, it's about expectations.

    For guys that do have spontaneous anal sex, do tops expect it to be a completely sanitary experience? How often does that actually happen? If you want "right here, right now" do you make an allowance for an un-douched ass? Do any bottoms turn down sex because they haven't prepared themselves for it?
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 7:09 PM GMT

    Bttmline, if I even get a hint of "SHIT" it's a wrap. However there are guys that like that shiticon_eek.gif
  • owen19832006 Posts: 1034
    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    rubbish, if its spontaneous and its not 100% clean well unfortunately they should know it is a one way street and he is going against traffic.
  • rnch Posts: 10911
    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 7:21 PM GMT
    owen19832006 saidrubbish, if its spontaneous and its not 100% clean well unfortunately they should know it is a one way street and he is going against traffic.


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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 7:22 PM GMT
    owen19832006 saidrubbish, if its spontaneous and its not 100% clean well unfortunately they should know it is a one way street and he is going against traffic.


    This. As a bottom, if sex is planned or likely to occur, then I will be clean. However if I am playing video games/cooking or some other activity, and a guy wants to fuck me right then and there, he is gonna be dealing with shit.

    If he doesnt like it, then he can go jerk off. I mean seriously tops, if you dont like shit then dont go down the chocolate canal.
  • owen19832006 Posts: 1034
    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 7:23 PM GMT
    damn right, he can go have a wank if he doesnt like dealing with shite and its spontaneous. thats the end
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 7:50 PM GMT
    .....uhhhh i'm completely vers And I've had years of spont sex with a signif o. Dirty D. has never been a problem. You should know if you have to poop or not, it's called potty training icon_rolleyes.gif. Then again, i'm a vegetarian that does lots of cardio and drinks plenty of water so my pipes are usually clean.

    If i'm topping and my bottom happens to be a little full. Take off the condom jack off in the shower, call it a day.
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
    just move it to the shower haha
  • jim_sf Posts: 2094
    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 8:10 PM GMT
    kandsk saidSo I'm wondering what the expectations of tops and bottoms are for the condition of the ass when it comes to spontaneous sex, and does it make a difference if it's with a hookup, friend or boyfriend?


    If it's a hookup, then everything should be clean, end of story. If you're going out to get some, then prep before you leave; if you're going online to get some, then prep before you log in. (for whatever values of "prep" you need.) If you aren't prepped, then don't bottom.

    If it's a live-in BF... well, if you drive on a muddy road, then you're going to get a little dirty. The bottom should be able to beg off or suggest something else if he isn't feeling it, but I wouldn't expect anybody to be super squeaky clean for morning sex or make-up sex or welcome-home-from-work sex (et al.).

    Every other situation falls somewhere between the two (unless you're both into scat).
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    If you are going out to the bar, or on the web surfing, it is not spontaneous.

    Clean it.

    If you are just at a coffee shop or other, make plans for later. Or just no anal.
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 9:32 PM GMT
    With a boyfriend it happens.. If you get suddenly horny and you just need to lay him well you cant expect him to be perfect 24/7.

    Personally it doesn't bother me if it's not perfect all the time especially when it's a quickie. BUT then again if you gotta go to the bathroom I certainly will understand if you reject me cause I'm not wanting to play in the muck.

    So yes as long as you are empty I'm happy for a quickie.

    Oh and eat more fibre fibre is your friend and mine!!!
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 9:55 PM GMT
    arent bottoms aware when its a bad time for spontaneous sex?

    wouldnt it be the same as women when they're on their period? my friend calls his girlfriends period "blow job week"
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    Everybody wants spontaneity but the reality that even spontaneity requires some prep. If "peanut on the popcicle stick" is a worry make cleansing part of the foreplay else go agaisnt your birth desires and aim for a bloody vagina and sometimes fishy. Point is spontaneity is a pipe dream. We just need to communicate our desires more effectively so that moment seems spontaneous though it is not.
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    Spontaneity has it's limits........icon_eek.gif
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    The only thing that should NEVER be done is making a top wait on the bed while you go into your ensuite to douche. Nothing ruines the mood better.
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    QUOTE Feb 05, 2011 11:29 PM GMT
    OMG! This thread is ... Well I feel Educated lol
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    QUOTE Feb 06, 2011 12:03 AM GMT
    Okay, so basically spontaneous anal sex is a myth...
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    QUOTE Feb 06, 2011 12:11 AM GMT
    kandsk saidFor guys that do have spontaneous anal sex, do tops expect it to be a completely sanitary experience?

    I expect if someone agrees to sex, then they will be pretty much clean. If I'm topping and I smell anything (hell, if I'm bottoming and I smell anything...), then I'm done. It's a complete turn-off, and a total deal-breaker. If my diet hasn't been the greatest lately, I don't tend to bottom.

    kandsk said
    Do any bottoms turn down sex because they haven't prepared themselves for it?

    Yes. If I'm not clean, or I think it may not be a very clean experience, then I'll just say "Sorry, I'm not exactly prepared for that" and leave it at that. Or I'll tell them "I have a couple things to do, but meet me at (address) in about 2 hours." Either that, or no anal sex. Not too big of a deal.
  • my8kitso Posts: 59
    QUOTE Feb 07, 2011 2:17 PM GMT
    kandsk saidThanks for replies, but this thread isn't about advice for a clean ass, it's about expectations.

    For guys that do have spontaneous anal sex, do tops expect it to be a completely sanitary experience? How often does that actually happen? If you want "right here, right now" do you make an allowance for an un-douched ass? Do any bottoms turn down sex because they haven't prepared themselves for it?


    I'm a top and if you like fucking ass, you have to be prepared for a little shit on your dick once in awhile. It's not nice, but it's a reality, I deal with it. Trust me, I will do anything to get my dick in your ass and make you howl in pleasure while I massage your prostate with my thick daddie dick. My bf is naturally clean and I almost never have anything on my dick after dumping a load in him, and we never prepare, when I want to fuck him, I just grab his hand and say, "You, now, bedroom".

    However, when my top ass gets hungry and I want to use a toy, I always seem to be dirty. We're just all built differently. Diet makes a difference, but I don't expect my bottom to go without eating for a day first or be eating bran every day just to keep his pooper clean.

    If I just picked up a guy and we got hot and heavy, I wouldn't expect him to be squeeky clean.

    I disagree with the guy who said it breaks the mood for the bottom to slip into the bathroom first, if he has an anal bulb and it's just a quick rinse, that's only 30 seconds or 1 minute, doesn't bother me if the guy wants to rinse out, I actually appreciate it because it gives me time to pick up his underwear and huff on his ball sweat like poppers! I can always amuse myself with a pair of sweaty undies while he's taking a few minutes to rinse!

    Good luck!

    Pete
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    QUOTE Feb 07, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    Shit happens.
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    QUOTE Feb 07, 2011 2:32 PM GMT
    Omg. I think I pukes a little...lol