Serious vs. hookup

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    Feb 06, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    So being young and gay, I have found it hard to find someone who wants a serious relationship. It seems like most gay men are looking for a one-night hookup or a buddy for fun. Is this just me, or are there young gay men like myself that want something real?

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    Feb 06, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
    Gay or straight, most guys your age just want to fuck around. Be patient; You'll eventually find a guy that will actually call you the next day.
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    Feb 06, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    I can't ever seem to find a genuine guy...
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    Feb 06, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    There are a few younger guys out here looking for romance and a relationship. Not very many, but a few! icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 06, 2011 5:51 AM GMT
    The vibe I'm getting from everyone is that everyone wants sex and that is it, which is kind of disheartening.
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    Feb 06, 2011 7:39 AM GMT
    Of course there are! I use to think the search was hopeless too, but we're young and have plenty of time. Don't sleep with the guy on the first date, no matter how attracted to him or drunk you are, or else it will prob just be a hookup. Have fun and be safe.
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    Feb 06, 2011 7:42 AM GMT
    I know exactly what you mean. It seems like all the guys I like, don't like me, or are only interested in a hookup. And I'm definitely ready for a real relationship.
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    Feb 06, 2011 7:50 AM GMT
    I spent several years struggling with a similar question.

    I found it largely depends on the context in which you meet a guy and the correlation to what they're looking for... use common sense to determine what context would lead to what.
  • ohioguy12

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    Feb 06, 2011 8:35 AM GMT
    I feel like all the guys who want something serious just haven't found me yet...icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 11, 2011 9:46 PM GMT
    Stephen109 saidSo being young and gay, I have found it hard to find someone who wants a serious relationship. It seems like most gay men are looking for a one-night hookup or a buddy for fun. Is this just me, or are there young gay men like myself that want something real?

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    (Imo) lust rarely runs along side in unity with romance... serious relationships are flat out inscrutably arduous at times to stream along long term...Sex exclusively has hardly been a good investment prospect, for those thinking more will likely develop out of it, outside the confines of sex itself! On principle I have no qualms about anyone solely interested in sex, but you have a trail ahead of yah young buck... There's clearly guys' who want what you desire, don't cash in your chips' too early now... .. . icon_wink.gificon_wink.gificon_wink.gificon_wink.gif
  • rf_dal

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    Feb 11, 2011 10:01 PM GMT
    Salutay21 said
    serious relationships are flat out inscrutably arduous at times to stream along long term..


    Hm I haven't found that to be the case, maybe you just haven't found the right one. icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 11, 2011 10:27 PM GMT
    rf_dal said
    Salutay21 said
    serious relationships are flat out inscrutably arduous at times to stream along long term..


    Hm I haven't found that to be the case, maybe you just haven't found the right one. icon_razz.gif


    I was in part, referencing the long drawn-out copious mundane durations that come in most serious relationships, via more or less in each couple....You know.... . . the out-right stale shit that's gotta surface @ some given point!
    On the contingency I "found"/ or will "find" the right one....The ride out on the sea isn't constantly smooth sailing... . . Hmmmm....icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif
    I suppose I wreck it in with the rest of them...in stride....icon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gif

    rf_dal, thanks' though that was nice...icon_wink.gificon_wink.gif