Does it really offend you when guys objectify you? Really?!?

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    Mar 31, 2008 2:32 PM GMT
    ...that's coming from a guy who misses being looked at that way: me.
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:13 PM GMT
    To 'objectify' someone is to reduce them to less than total being. I guess this cuts both ways.

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    Mar 31, 2008 4:17 PM GMT
    Considering I objectify myself, I don't see any problem with someone else objectifying me. Bring it on, boys!
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:17 PM GMT
    No it doesn't...and no one here for that matter, just complaining about it warrants MORE attention, which is why some complain.

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    Mar 31, 2008 4:25 PM GMT
    I always suggest one take it as a compliment to pocket for a day when you're feeling less than stellar.
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:29 PM GMT
    it really doesn't make a shit bit of difference whether it offends you or not, since you have ZERO control over people doing it... the only way to avoid being sexually objectified is to be heinous.

    my advice to people who are so distraught at being attractive to other people:

    have a coke and a smile and shut the fuck up.
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:36 PM GMT
    dancerjack saidit really doesn't make a shit bit of difference whether it offends you or not, since you have ZERO control over people doing it... the only way to avoid being sexually objectified is to be heinous.

    my advice to people who are so distraught at being attractive to other people:

    have a coke and a smile and shut the fuck up.


    Well said dancerjack.
    Now, I'm getting my coke... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:38 PM GMT
    l take a Pepsi ok!
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:44 PM GMT
    I always seem to enjoy life more when I don't fill in guys' thought bubbles when they look at me. The post holiday poundage seems to change what I read in their faces from "I'd hit it" to "Sally Struthers shaved her head?" The only guys I'm 100% confident are looking at me "that way" are the furry one eyed hunchbacked octogenarians with pendulous nut-sacks that seem to live in the locker room.icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:49 PM GMT

    pendulous nutsacks?!....mmmmm
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:56 PM GMT
    innerathlete saidConsidering I objectify myself, I don't see any problem with someone else objectifying me. Bring it on, boys!


    Oh, it's already been broughten!



    I wonder if objects object if we personify them??
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:57 PM GMT
    No as long as they do it in a civilized manner.
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:01 PM GMT

    Zdrew78 said
    "I wonder if objects object if we personify them??"

    We do.
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:08 PM GMT
    Theres a difference between someone finding you attractive and objectifying you.
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:12 PM GMT
    zdrew78 saidI wonder if objects object if we personify them??


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    Mar 31, 2008 5:22 PM GMT
    GuiltyGear saidNo it doesn't...and no one here for that matter, just complaining about it warrants MORE attention, which is why some complain.


    Thank you so very much for speaking for the rest of us, GG. Why don't you stick to what you actually have first hand knowledge of, rather than presuming to know what's going on in *our* heads?


    Now, the actual question:

    Does it bother me? Depends. If it's someone I think I'd like to have a real relationship with, yeah it does, 'cause you can't build a relationship on it. If not... well depends on if I'm in the middle of trying to have a real discussion about something of import with them. If so, it can be exceptionally annoying and distracting to be trying to talk about the sociopolitical ramifications of maize evolution and have someone repeatedly interjecting objectifications. Usually results in me shrugging and leaving.
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:28 PM GMT
    DiverUsually results in me shrugging and leaving.


    Does this mean you have had more than one occasion to leave a conversation where you're trying to discuss maize evolution and the other guy keeps interrupting you with sexual innuendo??? If so, Worcester is a lot more interesting city than I originally gave it credit for....
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:28 PM GMT
    Hey... objectify me all you want. It's when you stop looking that it is time to get worried LOL
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:30 PM GMT
    I dont know that the sociopolitical ramifications of maize evolution have ever been brought up in an environment when someone would throw out objectifications.... in my experience I mean. Then again Im not sure Ive ever had a conversation about the sociopolitical ramifications of maize evolution. Hell of a topic though.
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:31 PM GMT
    BigSETXjock saidHey... objectify me all you want. It's when you stop looking that it is time to get worried LOL


    consider it done. DAMN.
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:33 PM GMT
    Objectification's nifty. But really, I'd much much rather be deified, if it's not entirely too much to ask.
    Aiming for objectification is so...small-scale. Just sayin'...
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:38 PM GMT
    innerathlete said

    Does this mean you have had more than one occasion to leave a conversation where you're trying to discuss maize evolution and the other guy keeps interrupting you with sexual innuendo??? If so, Worcester is a lot more interesting city than I originally gave it credit for....


    Not so much in Worcester, but other places, yes I have. Hazard of the geek occupation I suppose?
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:38 PM GMT
    mcwclewis saidI dont know that the sociopolitical ramifications of maize evolution have ever been brought up in an environment when someone would throw out objectifications.... in my experience I mean. Then again Im not sure Ive ever had a conversation about the sociopolitical ramifications of maize evolution. Hell of a topic though.


    I'm a geek. This is a topic I think about. I'll also discuss the economic and biological failings of fictional literary worlds.
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:39 PM GMT
    zdrew78 saidObjectification's nifty. But really, I'd much much rather be deified, if it's not entirely too much to ask.
    Aiming for objectification is so...small-scale. Just sayin'...


    *Genuflect shamelessly*

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    Mar 31, 2008 5:46 PM GMT
    What about an art museum, when you go in and look at the paintings are you objectifying them or are you just admiring them, just doing what the artist would have you do, look at his work?
    This is a comparison to real life, why do gay men who put clearly so much work into their bodies (as this sites meer existance can only attest to) complain so much when observers simply LOOK?

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    Is it really objectification to admire someone, desire someone or to even long for them? I've been prompted to talk with several men before because I caught them looking at me longingly. I've also done the same, and received a positive response. A look can speak just as much as your mouth can and a thing of beauty always draws attention, this is why we press, bedazzle, and electrify ourselves before we go out on the town: it is part of the reason why we push it in the gym.

    Not only that, I believe a look of longing can lead to more than some cheesy pick-up line. It can pull you from across the bar faster than a drunken wave or a shout, both which could easily turn one off. What's more, are we miscounting the look of love? The look from that guy who you just might hit it off with and this could be more than sex?