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A hot PE teacher.

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Feb 06, 2011 3:27 PM GMT

Hey guys,

I grew up in a very tiny international community with not much gay experience, so if my question is totally hideous, please forgive me.

Right, so I am 18, doing final year in high school, and we have this new P.E. guy who has six pacs, is very cute, but claims he is straight.

When around me, he acts gay-ish, as in posing in suggestive ways, doing hand movements no straight guy would do, and wears a smile that could cure cancer. But when around other people, he is distant and barely even looks at me.
He talked to me one time about himself, including he grew up with 3 sisters, etc.

I have a major crush for him. First I was only attracted to him physically, but then later he became so sweet toward me I fell for his personality too.

On general though, he acts straight, is into sports, and barely looks at me.
He is 25, single and always comes with ladies to the local pub. Whenever he gets drunk though, a gay side of him gets revealed.

What should I do, without getting into trouble? As I said, its a tiny international community....

Thank you so much!
Danz

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Feb 06, 2011 3:57 PM GMT

Arrr the joy being young, naive, innocent and ignorant!

Back to the subject, no, he is not gay and he is not into you. It is his job to show concern for his students and care for you guys. Maybe, he may genuinely care for you as a little brother but definitely not as his sexual partner. The most you can be to him as his little brother and vice versa.

The reason why he is distant with you in public is because he doesn't want others to think that you two are too close. You never know who will defame as a pedophile because of genuine relationship you two have with each other. The world is full of nice people but at the same time full of people who will drag you down so you have to watch out your behavior which can cost you your job, your livlihood. Get it?

This crush will grow out and sometimes it can take some time. I still remember my first crush to someone older on the swim team. Now, when I see him now, I don't have any sexual attraction to him anymore but just a good friend that I once knew.

Hope this helps.

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Feb 06, 2011 4:00 PM GMT

You are 18 - he is a teacher in your community; anything you do other than allow him to appropriately mentor you in non-sexual ways risks his professional situation.

After you graduate and give it a one year cooling off period, you could likely approach him with your interest without jeopardizing his career.

I hope you will find out men of all ages that will be positive gay role models. I didn't have that and think it would have been a great blessing to me.

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Feb 06, 2011 4:05 PM GMT

Oh buddy, you asked for it...

HA!! I never realized before that the teacher in the video wore a PHYS ED sash!! How apropos!

CuriousJockAZ

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Feb 06, 2011 4:08 PM GMT

Ahhhh, throw caution to the wind and just go for it -- just call it, uhhhhh, exercising with teacher

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Feb 06, 2011 4:12 PM GMT

If you dont go for it, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

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Feb 06, 2011 4:19 PM GMT

Just go for it- i mean it's your senior year..if it doesn't work, you're out of there in three months anyway...

tell him you wanna work on your "flexibility" or some shit like that

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Feb 06, 2011 4:22 PM GMT

Hey guys,

wow thank you for the quick replies, they are much appreciated.

About his professional situation: yes, I get it, I guess the hidden romance of student-teacher will... remain a wishful thinking.
He is not into me: probably me not. LOL

Should I go for it? I will do all I can within reasonable limits. I am one of those guys who don't want to look back and say... What if? I always try to seize the day.

Once again, thanx for all of you posting replies and spending time on this. You guys are great!

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Feb 06, 2011 4:27 PM GMT

LanceKC saidYou are 18 - he is a teacher in your community; anything you do other than allow him to appropriately mentor you in non-sexual ways risks his professional situation.

After you graduate and give it a one year cooling off period, you could likely approach him with your interest without jeopardizing his career.

I hope you will find out men of all ages that will be positive gay role models. I didn't have that and think it would have been a great blessing to me.

Dear LanceKC,

I am sorry you didn't have role modells, I feel your pain. I am the oldest gay guy here, and while I have to show a responsible guy to my younger, in question peers, I many times fall for very stupid mistakes. I wish I had more gay people around me who could coach a little bit.

Thanx to you guys though, I am half out of the woods already!

I'd never want to screw up his career, I care too much for him. Really.

alphatop

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Feb 06, 2011 4:28 PM GMT

just curious...is ur teacher Chinese or not?

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Feb 06, 2011 4:29 PM GMT

frenchatheart saidArrr the joy being young, naive, innocent and ignorant!

Back to the subject, no, he is not gay and he is not into you. It is his job to show concern for his students and care for you guys. Maybe, he may genuinely care for you as a little brother but definitely not as his sexual partner. The most you can be to him as his little brother and vice versa.

The reason why he is distant with you in public is because he doesn't want others to think that you two are too close. You never know who will defame as a pedophile because of genuine relationship you two have with each other. The world is full of nice people but at the same time full of people who will drag you down so you have to watch out your behavior which can cost you your job, your livlihood. Get it?

This crush will grow out and sometimes it can take some time. I still remember my first crush to someone older on the swim team. Now, when I see him now, I don't have any sexual attraction to him anymore but just a good friend that I once knew.

Hope this helps.

It did help, thank you. And thanx for putting energy into answering. It's a great response, with (sadly) valid points.

Thnx again!

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Feb 06, 2011 4:30 PM GMT

antonomad saidjust curious...is ur teacher Chinese or not?

nope, he is a cuuuute hottie from Wisconsin.

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Feb 06, 2011 4:33 PM GMT

CIKLAMEN said
antonomad saidjust curious...is ur teacher Chinese or not?

nope, he is a cuuuute hottie from Wisconsin.

white guys are so ...boring? Or am I way 2 long in China?

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Feb 06, 2011 4:36 PM GMT

antonomad said
CIKLAMEN said
antonomad saidjust curious...is ur teacher Chinese or not?

nope, he is a cuuuute hottie from Wisconsin.

white guys are so ...boring? Or am I way 2 long in China?

no, you are right. I found him boring too, and thought to myself that this bonehead only has the looks. then a couple of events changed, and sadly im stuck... I like the well travelled guys or the mixtures. they have so much more quality... many white guys, especially in Shanghai, are so very shallow n boring I dun even care to go to a gay bar...

rnch

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Feb 06, 2011 4:38 PM GMT

you're 18, so you are "legal"...wait until after you graduate and then start trying to get close to this hunky guy.

after checking out your profile and pics; i can see why he smiles at you so much.

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Feb 06, 2011 4:41 PM GMT

rnch saidyou're 18, so you are "legal"...wait until after you graduate and then start trying to get close to this hunky guy.

after checking out your profile and pics; i can see why he smiles at you so much.

haha, thnx, ur sweet!

the bad thing is, someone smiles at me three times, and im singing the wedding song. im a mess.

alphatop

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Feb 06, 2011 4:43 PM GMT

CIKLAMEN said
antonomad said
CIKLAMEN said
antonomad saidjust curious...is ur teacher Chinese or not?

nope, he is a cuuuute hottie from Wisconsin.

white guys are so ...boring? Or am I way 2 long in China?

no, you are right. I found him boring too, and thought to myself that this bonehead only has the looks. then a couple of events changed, and sadly im stuck... I like the well travelled guys or the mixtures. they have so much more quality... many white guys, especially in Shanghai, are so very shallow n boring I dun even care to go to a gay bar...

I hear u...I myself prefer mixed or Asian guys, and luckily they find me attractive as much as I find them...But with white guys,khm...not so good. So, instead of PE teacher, check out the local martial arts club, you will be surprised of their teachers and how hot and wise they are.

Btw, u live in Ningbo or HK? I just got from HK, was absolutely crazy...

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Feb 06, 2011 4:46 PM GMT

antonomad said
CIKLAMEN said
antonomad said
CIKLAMEN said
antonomad saidjust curious...is ur teacher Chinese or not?

nope, he is a cuuuute hottie from Wisconsin.

white guys are so ...boring? Or am I way 2 long in China?

no, you are right. I found him boring too, and thought to myself that this bonehead only has the looks. then a couple of events changed, and sadly im stuck... I like the well travelled guys or the mixtures. they have so much more quality... many white guys, especially in Shanghai, are so very shallow n boring I dun even care to go to a gay bar...

I hear u...I myself prefer mixed or Asian guys, and luckily they find me attractive as much as I find them...But with white guys,khm...not so good. So, instead of PE teacher, check out the local martial arts club, you will be surprised of their teachers and how hot and wise they are.
Btw, u live in Ningbo or HK? I just got from HK, was absolutely crazy...

I hear you about the Asian guys, and man some of those martial arts trainers are hot! Sadly ningbo holds a no gay policy, even if u do find a gay guy, they are hungry bottoms. I am a bottom too.

I live in NGB, but love HKG. HKG is like my home in Asia. The people are so very sweet! You in Serbia now, rite?

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Feb 06, 2011 4:47 PM GMT

No, don't go for it. Maybe he has a slightly gay side but he protects himself and if you make a move...he will move away so fast and far.
Just enjoy what you have and like many above have said, wait until you are out of HS to try anything with him.
Best of luck oh young one!!

alphatop

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Feb 06, 2011 4:49 PM GMT

CIKLAMEN said
antonomad said
CIKLAMEN said
antonomad said
CIKLAMEN said
antonomad saidjust curious...is ur teacher Chinese or not?

nope, he is a cuuuute hottie from Wisconsin.

white guys are so ...boring? Or am I way 2 long in China?

no, you are right. I found him boring too, and thought to myself that this bonehead only has the looks. then a couple of events changed, and sadly im stuck... I like the well travelled guys or the mixtures. they have so much more quality... many white guys, especially in Shanghai, are so very shallow n boring I dun even care to go to a gay bar...

I hear u...I myself prefer mixed or Asian guys, and luckily they find me attractive as much as I find them...But with white guys,khm...not so good. So, instead of PE teacher, check out the local martial arts club, you will be surprised of their teachers and how hot and wise they are.
Btw, u live in Ningbo or HK? I just got from HK, was absolutely crazy...

I hear you about the Asian guys, and man some of those martial arts trainers are hot! Sadly ningbo holds a no gay policy, even if u do find a gay guy, they are hungry bottoms. I am a bottom too.
I live in NGB, but love HKG. HKG is like my home in Asia. The people are so very sweet! You in Serbia now, rite?

As a matter of fact, I am in Serbia now, but coming back to HK after 15th of february for a week, and then off to Kunming, Yunnan, China. Where r u right now?

rnch

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Feb 06, 2011 4:50 PM GMT

CIKLAMEN said
rnch saidyou're 18, so you are "legal"...wait until after you graduate and then start trying to get close to this hunky guy.

after checking out your profile and pics; i can see why he smiles at you so much.

haha, thnx, ur sweet!
the bad thing is, someone smiles at me three times, and im singing the wedding song. im a mess.

nahhhh...you're not a "mess"...you're just 18.

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Feb 06, 2011 4:52 PM GMT

rnch said
CIKLAMEN said
rnch saidyou're 18, so you are "legal"...wait until after you graduate and then start trying to get close to this hunky guy.

after checking out your profile and pics; i can see why he smiles at you so much.

haha, thnx, ur sweet!
the bad thing is, someone smiles at me three times, and im singing the wedding song. im a mess.

nahhhh...you're not a "mess"...you're just 18.

hehe. sweet AND charming! ur winning me over, be careful...

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Feb 06, 2011 4:54 PM GMT

TallsdDude saidNo, don't go for it. Maybe he has a slightly gay side but he protects himself and if you make a move...he will move away so fast and far.
Just enjoy what you have and like many above have said, wait until you are out of HS to try anything with him.
Best of luck oh young one!!

thnx!

Even I can feel he is confused.. lol
It's just sooo dead here, a whole semester seems like eternity. But ill do my best.

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Feb 06, 2011 4:57 PM GMT

Id listen to the guy writing in blue, the rest for the most part are bent on sending your ass up a creek without a paddle.

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Feb 06, 2011 5:03 PM GMT

THIS Looks like a porn video waiting to happen! Or a plot for a badly made love story for Logo, lol!

Leave Him. Not worth it.

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