what am I doing?

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    Feb 07, 2011 3:56 AM GMT
    going to a superbowl/potluck party, watching guys try their hardest and act nicest to score girls, girls ignoring all those guys (very rudely), rest of the guys watching the game as if the earth will instantaneously explode based on the result of the game (and I dont give a fuck who is going to win except watch it for the purpose of entertainment), rest of the girls are using the phrases like "that's cute", "oh my god, you look pretty", "and then I was like whatever", "I like your shoes" in abundance, taking shitload of pictures, and acting like the dumbest person alive. what am I doing here? I wish I could just spend some time with my friend who invited me and watch the game ignoring everyone else. but then that's a sure way of getting labeled a douchbag loser. do you think socializing is a pain in the ass if you are mostly closeted and do not have a group of gay friends? why is it so difficult to find another gay guy at a place that's not exclusively gay?

    /rant
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    Feb 07, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    I think there is a difference between socializing and trivial small talk, the latter of which I abhor (maybe since I'm not good at it?). I also think that the mindless drivel can occur in both gay majority and gay minority settings. You're certainly right about striking the balance between anti-social "douchbag loser" and monopolizing your friend's time. Unfortunately I don't have any advice since this is a difficult situation, the kind of which I have dealt with unsuccessfully on multiple occasions.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Feb 07, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    Now you know why it's better to be gay.
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    Feb 07, 2011 4:18 AM GMT
    and to consider rehab.
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    Feb 07, 2011 7:31 AM GMT
    Advaya saidgoing to a superbowl/potluck party, watching guys try their hardest and act nicest to score girls, girls ignoring all those guys (very rudely), rest of the guys watching the game as if the earth will instantaneously explode based on the result of the game (and I dont give a fuck who is going to win except watch it for the purpose of entertainment), rest of the girls are using the phrases like "that's cute", "oh my god, you look pretty", "and then I was like whatever", "I like your shoes" in abundance, taking shitload of pictures, and acting like the dumbest person alive. what am I doing here? I wish I could just spend some time with my friend who invited me and watch the game ignoring everyone else. but then that's a sure way of getting labeled a douchbag loser. do you think socializing is a pain in the ass if you are mostly closeted and do not have a group of gay friends? why is it so difficult to find another gay guy at a place that's not exclusively gay?

    /rant



    You summed up the straight bar scene pretty well. I always found it kind of weird and a little sad. The hottest guys, who, if gay, would have 10 other hot guys hanging all over them, can't get one single plain girl to give them the time of day. Hot straight guys are wasted on women. I think that's why hot straight guys are so much more down to earth and nicer than hot gay guys. They generally aren't aware of how hot they really are because having a great body isn't such a commodity in the straight world if you're a man.
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    Feb 07, 2011 7:56 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidNow you know why it's better to be gay.


    Some not all straight men are very obvious and dumb when your with people like yourself you don't feel so isolated and ostrisized believe me I feel you on some level your straight friends will suffice but not forever you have to be that healthy mixer between the Gays/Straights if it works you'll have the best of both worlds I say if because it only takes 1 straight douchebag to start a Gay Bash not saying it'll happen but there always that possible threat
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    Feb 07, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    Come out, go to your local gaybar, make new friends.
    Dont live your life for other people, they couldnt care less and they dont pay your bills.
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    Feb 08, 2011 12:33 AM GMT
    There's nothing like watching a football game at a gay bar. It seems it's equal parts watching the game and ogling the players. icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 08, 2011 4:53 AM GMT
    dsmith123 saidI think there is a difference between socializing and trivial small talk, the latter of which I abhor (maybe since I'm not good at it?). I also think that the mindless drivel can occur in both gay majority and gay minority settings. You're certainly right about striking the balance between anti-social "douchbag loser" and monopolizing your friend's time. Unfortunately I don't have any advice since this is a difficult situation, the kind of which I have dealt with unsuccessfully on multiple occasions.



    *sigh*
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    Feb 08, 2011 4:53 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidand to consider rehab.


    no, i dont get this?
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    Feb 08, 2011 4:59 AM GMT
    muscles4muscles said
    Advaya saidgoing to a superbowl/potluck party, watching guys try their hardest and act nicest to score girls, girls ignoring all those guys (very rudely), rest of the guys watching the game as if the earth will instantaneously explode based on the result of the game (and I dont give a fuck who is going to win except watch it for the purpose of entertainment), rest of the girls are using the phrases like "that's cute", "oh my god, you look pretty", "and then I was like whatever", "I like your shoes" in abundance, taking shitload of pictures, and acting like the dumbest person alive. what am I doing here? I wish I could just spend some time with my friend who invited me and watch the game ignoring everyone else. but then that's a sure way of getting labeled a douchbag loser. do you think socializing is a pain in the ass if you are mostly closeted and do not have a group of gay friends? why is it so difficult to find another gay guy at a place that's not exclusively gay?

    /rant



    You summed up the straight bar scene pretty well. I always found it kind of weird and a little sad. The hottest guys, who, if gay, would have 10 other hot guys hanging all over them, can't get one single plain girl to give them the time of day. Hot straight guys are wasted on women. I think that's why hot straight guys are so much more down to earth and nicer than hot gay guys. They generally aren't aware of how hot they really are because having a great body isn't such a commodity in the straight world if you're a man.


    seriously! most of those guys hitting on girls are not that "hot" on gay standards. but when they act so nice and talk so smooth, it baffles me how girls dont give a damn. Like this one guy was being so nice to one of the girls talking about how he recently moved to the area and his days in military and in matter of 2 minutes this girl interrupted him trying to talk to other girls with "oh I like your belt", "the dessert is there", "here's the trash". like wtf!
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    Feb 08, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
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    barriehomeboy saidNow you know why it's better to be gay.


    Some not all straight men are very obvious and dumb when your with people like yourself you don't feel so isolated and ostrisized believe me I feel you on some level your straight friends will suffice but not forever you have to be that healthy mixer between the Gays/Straights if it works you'll have the best of both worlds I say if because it only takes 1 straight douchebag to start a Gay Bash not saying it'll happen but there always that possible threat


    I know I need more gay friends. I only have one. Being closeted and hanging out with my friends 24x7 is not getting me anywhere.
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    Feb 08, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    Advaya saidgoing to a superbowl/potluck party, watching guys try their hardest and act nicest to score girls, girls ignoring all those guys (very rudely), rest of the guys watching the game as if the earth will instantaneously explode based on the result of the game (and I dont give a fuck who is going to win except watch it for the purpose of entertainment), rest of the girls are using the phrases like "that's cute", "oh my god, you look pretty", "and then I was like whatever", "I like your shoes" in abundance, taking shitload of pictures, and acting like the dumbest person alive. what am I doing here? I wish I could just spend some time with my friend who invited me and watch the game ignoring everyone else. but then that's a sure way of getting labeled a douchbag loser. do you think socializing is a pain in the ass if you are mostly closeted and do not have a group of gay friends? why is it so difficult to find another gay guy at a place that's not exclusively gay?

    /rant
    wow, i thought you were at a gay party. ha ha ha ha what party did you go to? the party i went to everyone was talking about the game. everyone once in a while we would make small talk during the game if it was a bad play. i am one of those people who was watching the game. maybe its just your experience. i am not out and i never the problem you or having. the only time endured something like you was when i went to a party that was hosted by this gay guy i know. most of the people there were gay and i and two other straight guys were the only one watching the game. everyone else was talking among themselves. they occasionally came in to watch the commercials. anyhow, i have never had this happen any other time but that time
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    Feb 08, 2011 5:23 AM GMT
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    Advaya saidgoing to a superbowl/potluck party, watching guys try their hardest and act nicest to score girls, girls ignoring all those guys (very rudely), rest of the guys watching the game as if the earth will instantaneously explode based on the result of the game (and I dont give a fuck who is going to win except watch it for the purpose of entertainment), rest of the girls are using the phrases like "that's cute", "oh my god, you look pretty", "and then I was like whatever", "I like your shoes" in abundance, taking shitload of pictures, and acting like the dumbest person alive. what am I doing here? I wish I could just spend some time with my friend who invited me and watch the game ignoring everyone else. but then that's a sure way of getting labeled a douchbag loser. do you think socializing is a pain in the ass if you are mostly closeted and do not have a group of gay friends? why is it so difficult to find another gay guy at a place that's not exclusively gay?

    /rant
    wow, i thought you were at a gay party. ha ha ha ha what party did you go to? the party i went to everyone was talking about the game. everyone once in a while we would make small talk during the game if it was a bad play. i am one of those people who was watching the game. maybe its just your experience. i am not out and i never the problem you or having. the only time endured something like you was when i went to a party that was hosted by this gay guy i know. most of the people there were gay and i and two other straight guys were the only one watching the game. everyone else was talking among themselves. they occasionally came in to watch the commercials. anyhow, i have never had this happen any other time but that time


    it was a superbowl with potluck. so there were way too many girls that just came for the potluck. i wouldnt have been surprised if some of them asked what a "superbowl" is. and of course there were guys that came just to score girls.
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    Feb 08, 2011 5:33 AM GMT
    Thats when you "spill your drink" on all the annoying people so they leave.
    My record is 7 :p
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    Feb 08, 2011 5:50 AM GMT
    Advaya saidgoing to a superbowl/potluck party, watching guys try their hardest and act nicest to score girls, girls ignoring all those guys (very rudely), rest of the guys watching the game as if the earth will instantaneously explode based on the result of the game (and I dont give a fuck who is going to win except watch it for the purpose of entertainment), rest of the girls are using the phrases like "that's cute", "oh my god, you look pretty", "and then I was like whatever", "I like your shoes" in abundance, taking shitload of pictures, and acting like the dumbest person alive. what am I doing here? I wish I could just spend some time with my friend who invited me and watch the game ignoring everyone else. but then that's a sure way of getting labeled a douchbag loser. do you think socializing is a pain in the ass if you are mostly closeted and do not have a group of gay friends? why is it so difficult to find another gay guy at a place that's not exclusively gay?

    /rant


    Wait, what's your problem? I don't get it.
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    Advaya saidgoing to a superbowl/potluck party, watching guys try their hardest and act nicest to score girls, girls ignoring all those guys (very rudely), rest of the guys watching the game as if the earth will instantaneously explode based on the result of the game (and I dont give a fuck who is going to win except watch it for the purpose of entertainment), rest of the girls are using the phrases like "that's cute", "oh my god, you look pretty", "and then I was like whatever", "I like your shoes" in abundance, taking shitload of pictures, and acting like the dumbest person alive. what am I doing here? I wish I could just spend some time with my friend who invited me and watch the game ignoring everyone else. but then that's a sure way of getting labeled a douchbag loser. do you think socializing is a pain in the ass if you are mostly closeted and do not have a group of gay friends? why is it so difficult to find another gay guy at a place that's not exclusively gay?

    /rant


    Wait, what's your problem? I don't get it.


    I just like to bitch and moan about life. hence the rant tag. You seem pretty cool with the scene I described. do you want to come hang out with us the next time?
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    Feb 08, 2011 1:53 PM GMT
    Why bother going if u felt such hardship?
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    Feb 08, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    Advaya said
    ohioguy12 said
    Advaya saidgoing to a superbowl/potluck party, watching guys try their hardest and act nicest to score girls, girls ignoring all those guys (very rudely), rest of the guys watching the game as if the earth will instantaneously explode based on the result of the game (and I dont give a fuck who is going to win except watch it for the purpose of entertainment), rest of the girls are using the phrases like "that's cute", "oh my god, you look pretty", "and then I was like whatever", "I like your shoes" in abundance, taking shitload of pictures, and acting like the dumbest person alive. what am I doing here? I wish I could just spend some time with my friend who invited me and watch the game ignoring everyone else. but then that's a sure way of getting labeled a douchbag loser. do you think socializing is a pain in the ass if you are mostly closeted and do not have a group of gay friends? why is it so difficult to find another gay guy at a place that's not exclusively gay?

    /rant


    Wait, what's your problem? I don't get it.


    I just like to bitch and moan about life. hence the rant tag. You seem pretty cool with the scene I described. do you want to come hang out with us the next time?


    Ha definently, just give me a call lol
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    Feb 09, 2011 3:38 AM GMT
    Hillie saidWhy bother going if u felt such hardship?


    yeah dude. i hear ya. my friend invites me to those parties all the time. and this is exactly the reason I never go. i dont get to see him otherwise, so I went this time.
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    Feb 09, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    ohioguy12 said
    Advaya said
    ohioguy12 said
    Advaya saidgoing to a superbowl/potluck party, watching guys try their hardest and act nicest to score girls, girls ignoring all those guys (very rudely), rest of the guys watching the game as if the earth will instantaneously explode based on the result of the game (and I dont give a fuck who is going to win except watch it for the purpose of entertainment), rest of the girls are using the phrases like "that's cute", "oh my god, you look pretty", "and then I was like whatever", "I like your shoes" in abundance, taking shitload of pictures, and acting like the dumbest person alive. what am I doing here? I wish I could just spend some time with my friend who invited me and watch the game ignoring everyone else. but then that's a sure way of getting labeled a douchbag loser. do you think socializing is a pain in the ass if you are mostly closeted and do not have a group of gay friends? why is it so difficult to find another gay guy at a place that's not exclusively gay?

    /rant


    Wait, what's your problem? I don't get it.


    I just like to bitch and moan about life. hence the rant tag. You seem pretty cool with the scene I described. do you want to come hang out with us the next time?


    Ha definently, just give me a call lol


    you're just saying that. i know you will give me a fake number.