Men who hit are not men, they're cowards and less than worthy of your attention, affection, or tears.
I'm so angry reading this post, angry that anyone would hit you. You have great value and worth as a man. You're handsome, clearly have the capacity to feel and care and offer something unique, and so it is that you MUST hear us - free yourself from the prison of someone who does not recognize your true worth and who fails to respect you and treat you with dignity.
Every man here, to a one, will support and encourage you taking your leave of a violent, un-loving, painful relationship to this...THING that hurt you. And frankly, if I was within reasonable proximity, he'd vanish mighty fast for having touched you and left you hurt.
Yeah, I know, violence does not solve violence, but men who hit - they need to be taken to the curb with the rest of the trash. Period.
You are free to love and live and find affection that does not confound or lash out in inhuman ways during the conflicts that arise in a relationship, and you have friends here who will give you direction and guidance and places to go and help you get out and get on with a healthy life.
Do not hesitate at the door - go, and go someplace safe. And let us know when you are there.
Follow this advice from AVP and let us know when you're someplace safe.
What you can do:
Talk with somebody you trust - a friend, relative, someone from work, your house of worship, or a health care practitioner.
Remember everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Don't let your partner control or mistreat you. Help is available.
At some time you may find yourself in trouble, so be prepared and put together an "emergency kit" of things you would really need if you had to leave suddenly.
Sample emergency kit:
Money - store some cash in a secret place where you can easily get to it. Be sure to include some coins for phone calls.
Keys - an extra set if keys should be kept in a safe place (at a friend's or neighbor's) in case you need to leave quickly.
Important papers for you and your children - birth certificates, passports, health insurance documents, photo ID/driver's license, immunization records, checkbook, medication, food stamps, social security cards, etc. (or copies of them) should be kept in a safe place.
Basic items - keep a small bag with your medicines, copies of your legal papers, an extra pair of glasses, and a set of clothes.
If it's an emergency, call 911 for assistance.
If it's not an emergency, you still have the right to file a police report. Call your local police department to have a police officer sent out to you or go into any police station to make a report.
Contact your local Anti-Violence Project or the HATE-CRIME NETWORK:
Online assistance: click here
National Domestic Violence Hotline: