freaking out about unsafe sex

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    Feb 07, 2011 12:37 PM GMT
    so, i did something incredibly foolish.
    i picked up a guy at a bar. he was incredibly hot. we were drunk. he came back to my hotel room. we fooled around. he said he was HIV -ve and tested only days ago. he said he had no STDs. we had a hot soapy bath together. we fooled around more. he stuck his dick in my arse for about 30 seconds. no thrusting. he was condomless. it hurt. i came to my senses and we got condoms and i fucked him. after, there was a small blood spot on the outside of my butt. of course, I need to get tested. but I am freaking out about how stupid i've been. anyone have any empiracle advice/thoughts on my risk? thanks
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    Feb 07, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    rolobongo saidso, i did something incredibly foolish.
    i picked up a guy at a bar. he was incredibly hot. we were drunk. he came back to my hotel room. we fooled around. he said he was HIV -ve and tested only days ago. he said he had no STDs. we had a hot soapy bath together. we fooled around more. he stuck his dick in my arse for about 30 seconds. no thrusting. he was condomless. it hurt. i came to my senses and we got condoms and i fucked him. after, there was a small blood spot on the outside of my butt. of course, I need to get tested. but I am freaking out about how stupid i've been. anyone have any empiracle advice/thoughts on my risk? thanks


    He said he was -ve and said he had no STDs but you don't know that what he is saying is true. You have taken a risk. Depending on when this happened you should maybe consider emergency prophylaxis, but aside from that get tested and get tested again in 3 months to make sure you are fine. You probably are fine given what you described, as the risk would have been much higher if he'd ejaculated inside you obviously, but better to make sure and ALWAYS play safe in future.
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    Feb 07, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    well since you can't change the past and you have apparently smartened up, look to a positive outcome with the HIV test...sounds like you had your parameters realigned to a more safe and sensible location........best thoughts to you,.............Keithicon_wink.gif
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    Feb 08, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    If you're absolutely freaking out about it, go to your doctor the minute you're able to and ask for PEP.
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-exposure_prophylaxis
    It'll be hard on your body for a while, but it should destroy the virus before it kicks in, if this man did give you something (if you were bleeding there's a much higher risk).
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    Feb 08, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    You just described a very real and rapidly occurring scenario. I hope you've learned a valuable lesson and don't plan on doing that again. Mixing sex with random drunk people is never a good thing as you can see since it's got you freaking out.
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    Feb 12, 2011 8:01 AM GMT
    You say he penetrated you for about 30secs? Sounds like that is why you had the spot of blood on your anus. If his ejaculate/pre-cum did not come into contact with that wound, the chances of you contracting HIV are low. But you should get tested asap and in about 12 weeks time again, just to be sure.

    The fact that he had tested negative just days before means nothing, because he could be in the +-12 week window period, and also because some men lie, especially when they have had too much alcohol.

    Most of us have done stupid things like this in the past. All I can say is don't ever put yourself in a situation like this again. Learn from this mistake.

    Also, most of the times I put myself at risk in the past was after I had had a few drinks )not even to the point of drunkennes). You don't even have to be drunk to make stupid decisions.
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    Feb 12, 2011 8:03 AM GMT
    get PEP like others have said.