Internet Dating: Am I so unlovable?!

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    Mar 31, 2008 9:34 PM GMT
    I think it might be that I lack the ability of making small talk with people online, but I'm starting to think that my low-self confidence has caused me to be much more unappealing to other people too..

    Also, if anyone's heard of that "BeautifulPeople" website? I applied there, and I wasn't accepted because I'm not "beautiful enough" - What a piece of morale-degrading shit.

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    Mar 31, 2008 9:45 PM GMT
    yeah, I saw that sight (beautifulpeople) and mostly thought it was BS. don't be put out by them, whatever you do, for God's sake.

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    Mar 31, 2008 9:48 PM GMT
    Hmph, well it's based on what other people think of you. So I guess in the eyes of people that internet-date, I'm not attractive. But there again, I don't think you can say someone isn't attractive just because they aren't visually attractive, I mean I *could* have a wonderful personality.

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    Mar 31, 2008 9:57 PM GMT
    AlluringAnxiety said
    Also, if anyone's heard of that "BeautifulPeople" website? I applied there, and I wasn't accepted because I'm not "beautiful enough" - What a piece of morale-degrading shit.

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    Mar 31, 2008 10:10 PM GMT
    Yeah, you have to apply with a picture of yourself, and then they tell you in a few days whether or not you're good looking enough.


    >.> I never felt comfortable with the idea when I applied in the first place..
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    Mar 31, 2008 11:02 PM GMT
    Beautiful people website??

    Wasn't there an episode of Family Guy about something like that?

    And you worry about these people REJECTING you?
    Geez, I'd seriously examine my life if these people ACCEPTED me.
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    Mar 31, 2008 11:10 PM GMT
    You are not unlovable, you seem fine to me. Just a piece of advice though. Avoid applying to websites like "Beautiful People" unless you are sure you can tolerate the possibility of rejection.

    Do you really need to add to your "low self-confidence" that you say you have?

    There are a lot of young interesting guys on RJ or MySpace or Facebook, that I am sure would be happy to talk to you.
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    Mar 31, 2008 11:12 PM GMT
    I'm not a Beautiful Person, but I play one on Real Jock.

    There's no rule that says you have to make small talk. Just talk and ask about the things that interest you. Someone who's interested in the same things will respond in kind.
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    Mar 31, 2008 11:27 PM GMT
    OK about the site (just went to it, had never heard of it untill now) I am officially offended. It is such a perversion of Classical ideal beauty that, once again, Western Civilization picks and chooses, and at the end of the melting pot comes out with something that is in two words an "idiotic synchretism." So fuck 'em.

    Now, small talk...it's just talking about what comes to mind and interests you. There really is no formula, though you could try finding one that works for you for the few couple times.

    Yet, that's my opinion...
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Mar 31, 2008 11:39 PM GMT
    AlluringAnxiety,

    If they rejected you based on you looks, there is some seriously messed up people on that site, and your better off without them.

    RJ is the site for beautiful people and you are here, so you are in the right place.

    Don't let those snobs on that site get to you.

    You are beautiful and lovable.

    Mike
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    Mar 31, 2008 11:44 PM GMT
    Online dating sounds like a hoot. I wish I knew how to be better at it but I always get that creeped out feeling that the mostly guys only have one intention and it really turns me off to the whole internet dating thing.

    "BeautifulPeople" website. Forget that dude. Everyone has some type of beauty within them. Just hum to yourself that Christina Aguiellera song and you'll be fine.
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    Apr 01, 2008 12:22 AM GMT
    I'm not a fan of dating people online. I prefer to meet people the old-fashioned way: drunk at a sleazy gay bar. You're cute and British (accents are hot), I think it's a good combination.
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    Apr 01, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    To MikePhil: What you said in that post actually make me feel the best I have today, really. Earlier on I was in an alright mood and then I recieved an email that said "sorry you've been rejected by the BeautifulPeople community", and it just made me go into a total downer. I mean I did think to myself it's not a big deal, but these things just sort of get to you, sometimes..

    To jprichva: I don't know if there was an episode of Family Guy, but there must have been some jest at it somewhere on something icon_smile.gif Thinking about it.

    To jbedwards: About not being able to take rejection, I was once incredibly nervous and scared about the way other people saw me, up until this beginning of this year I've never been able to go out without taking anything up to an hour in the bathroom. But it's getting better.. I just shouldn't have applied to the site. At the time I was talking to my friend about it, since he linked me and I said it made me feel uncomfortable, yet I still applied. Silly really.. icon_neutral.gif

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    Apr 01, 2008 2:32 AM GMT
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    that being said, I think your totally hot! fuck that web site, everyone finds drifferent things attractive in different ppl. and if they didnt find YOU attractive, what kind of shitty taste do they have?

  • Kirby_Atwood

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    Apr 01, 2008 12:59 PM GMT
    The guy on the other side of beautifulpeople website who reviews all applications must be straight.So actually you don;t need to worry about that much,and you are hot enough.
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    Apr 02, 2008 4:37 AM GMT
    Beatifulpeople.com? UGH! Awful, awful site. Nothing but a circlejerk.
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    Apr 02, 2008 6:20 AM GMT
    What a horrible website and what a horrible idea. Stick with realjock.
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    Apr 02, 2008 6:26 AM GMT
    Complexity saidOK about the site (just went to it, had never heard of it untill now) I am officially offended. It is such a perversion of Classical ideal beauty that, once again, Western Civilization picks and chooses, and at the end of the melting pot comes out with something that is in two words an "idiotic synchretism." So fuck 'em.

    Now, small talk...it's just talking about what comes to mind and interests you. There really is no formula, though you could try finding one that works for you for the few couple times.

    Yet, that's my opinion...



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    Apr 02, 2008 2:11 PM GMT
    beautiful people website? LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL! thats very messed up and hurts people's morales and esteem, what bullshit...


    i think u look pretty, so from my perspective, u have nothing to worry about icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 02, 2008 7:04 PM GMT
    I try not to seek validation through social network sites, they're just a bit of fun.
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    Apr 02, 2008 7:05 PM GMT
    Why is everyone being so nice to me about this? Heh. You're all very nice people, really icon_smile.gif Thanks.

    I'm a lot happier about it now actually, because of your support icon_biggrin.gif Everyone in this thread who's replied are attractive to me anyhow, so there's the compliment returned icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 06, 2008 12:29 PM GMT
    I am not going to even look at that site. Its sounds like a rediculous piece of crap. What makes the people reviewing your picture any more attractive than you? We all have certain things that make us attractive. And someones personality goes a long way. It's all in the way you carry yourself. If you go around acting unattractive, people will pick up on it. Were all attractive men here.
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    Apr 06, 2008 12:45 PM GMT
    Online dating? It's an oxymoron... but it's worth the try at least once. But nothing beats a face to face conversation with someone new. The trick is to quit expecting the dates to start, run or end perfectly. The best connections take some trial and error before they're made. But this is just my experience talking. Who knows where the road will take you...
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    Apr 06, 2008 12:52 PM GMT
    I went to that site to take a look. It's kind of like knowing that there's a horrible car accident and you need to see the carnage. It's more like a train wreck!

    It's hideous! The men aren't all that great. I wasn't impressed at ALL! There idea of "beautiful" blows.

    Honestly, AlluringAnxiety....you're very attractive! You'd out-class them anyways =) Stay here instead. =)

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    Apr 06, 2008 4:51 PM GMT
    Jeez, don't worry so much about what you look like. You're cute, but seriously, is your goal simply to be one of the "beautiful people"?
    Its a cliche, but your personality and who you actually are is a hell of a lot more important than anything else.