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    Feb 09, 2011 3:21 AM GMT
    I just found out that as much as i THOUGHt it was a non discussed topic is my family it seems, they've been gossiping about me being gay long before i really "realized" i was. Is that even fair?

    i kinda feel... well i don't know how to feel. this ever happen to any of you?
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    Feb 09, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    who cares they might tease you about it, but move on n dont feel weird out....
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    Feb 09, 2011 3:51 AM GMT
    They gossip about you and you probably gossip about family members with other family members,so meehh lol
  • Webster666

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    Feb 09, 2011 4:25 AM GMT
    That's funny.
    I remember my little sister kind of whispering to me that, "everybody knows, but nobody talks about it." LOL.

    Years later, I received a letter from my mother telling me, in all caps, that I needed to get right with god. LOL. I sent to her a copy of the video that explains what the bible really says about homosexuality. I never got a response.
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    Feb 09, 2011 4:44 AM GMT
    well, consider it as having the closet door OPENED for YOU, instead of having to pry on it yourself......................Keithicon_wink.gif
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    Feb 09, 2011 6:58 AM GMT
    People are either going to talk about you or they're not. So live your life, regardless of what others say.

    As long as your family loves you, who cares what they say to each other. They have to come to grips with having a gay family member and if they do that by 'gossiping' then it's ok.
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    Feb 09, 2011 12:40 PM GMT
    My family talked about it long before I knew or wanted to tell anyone. Now they are like " why did it take so long to tell us"

    Family knows.
  • jgymnast733

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    Feb 09, 2011 3:35 PM GMT
    sure, and all those who downed me and gossiped--lives are in the toilet now.. they've spent so much time on talking about me when they should have focused on themselves....
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    Feb 09, 2011 4:19 PM GMT
    The_Dollarwine saidI just found out that as much as i THOUGHt it was a non discussed topic is my family it seems, they've been gossiping about me being gay long before i really "realized" i was. Is that even fair?



    Yes, I think it is. Think of how you would have felt if they'd come to you and said they thought you were gay before you were coming to terms with it yourself.

    -Doug
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    Feb 09, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    I didn't really have the chance to come out either. My mom confronted me and said "I know you're gay, and it's ok."

    I still let her know how much that upset me to this day.

    She went on to tell my entire family, who are over-the-top conservative, without my permission. And now I'm not close with anyone in my family except for two of my cousins, one of which is by marriage.

    It is quite unfair, in my opinion. I think having your own chance to come out is like being able to lift a burden, and I never got to lift that burden.
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    Feb 09, 2011 4:33 PM GMT
    Doesn't matter what they said or thought, you aren't until you figure it out on your own. You did that and you're better for it, despite what they thought or how many times you here, I knew it. Be happy.
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    Feb 09, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    Chattrbox saidI didn't really have the chance to come out either. My mom confronted me and said "I know you're gay, and it's ok."

    I still let her know how much that upset me to this day.

    She went on to tell my entire family, who are over-the-top conservative, without my permission. And now I'm not close with anyone in my family except for two of my cousins, one of which is by marriage.

    It is quite unfair, in my opinion. I think having your own chance to come out is like being able to lift a burden, and I never got to lift that burden.


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    Feb 09, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    Chattrbox saidI didn't really have the chance to come out either. My mom confronted me and said "I know you're gay, and it's ok."

    I still let her know how much that upset me to this day.

    She went on to tell my entire family, who are over-the-top conservative, without my permission. And now I'm not close with anyone in my family except for two of my cousins, one of which is by marriage.

    It is quite unfair, in my opinion. I think having your own chance to come out is like being able to lift a burden, and I never got to lift that burden.
    It would have been nice (and I think more appropriate) for her to confront you in conversation and confidentiality. Telling everyone else is really out of place for her, even if she is your mom.

    Hang in there. Sorry you had to go through this.
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    Feb 09, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Chattrbox saidI didn't really have the chance to come out either. My mom confronted me and said "I know you're gay, and it's ok."

    I still let her know how much that upset me to this day.

    She went on to tell my entire family, who are over-the-top conservative, without my permission. And now I'm not close with anyone in my family except for two of my cousins, one of which is by marriage.

    It is quite unfair, in my opinion. I think having your own chance to come out is like being able to lift a burden, and I never got to lift that burden.


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    Well not in the sense that I would still want to be in the closet. BUt more of I feel like I would be a stronger, different, person today if I had had the chance to do it in my own time.
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    Feb 09, 2011 4:39 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidThat's funny.
    I remember my little sister kind of whispering to me that, "everybody knows, but nobody talks about it." LOL.

    Years later, I received a letter from my mother telling me, in all caps, that I needed to get right with god. LOL. I sent to her a copy of the video that explains what the bible really says about homosexuality. I never got a response.


    Send me that video
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 09, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    Sure, my being gay has been discussed, mostly by my disturbed achoholic
    brother, trying to make some financial point with my Dad..... or as a means of making himself look better or trying to diminish views of me. It doesn't bother me... he already dug his grave.