My guy doesn't cum...

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    Feb 10, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    ...and I'd like to change that. I am having a long distance relationship with a good looking buy on the East Coast. Long story short, I am married, he's single, he's really good looking and seems to be a genuine person. We do everything and last time I came 4 times and he said he was having a good time. He moaned, he got really hard, he f...... my brains out, I sucked him for a long time, but he never came. When sucking him, he said he could do it all night long. I worry that there's something missing or that I could do to have him reach orgasm when we are together. Help!
  • LeeBee

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    Feb 10, 2011 5:43 AM GMT
    I just want to say this:

    I don't enjoy cumming. Because of this I have naturally developed a really long sex-life-span-thingy. I do not cum. It's nothing against the other person it is just my preference. When i feel the need to masturbate i even force a dry orgasm. I do however cum once a week because of a phobia of some sort of build up- prostatey- cancery thingy.

    So, yeah, what i'm saying is this: Maybe you should just open up to him. He could be just like me and is not comfortable with cumming. Or you could be extremely lucky and have bagged yourself a winner that can go for ages!!!
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    Feb 12, 2011 7:59 AM GMT
    many men don't feel enough stimulation to reach orgasm when being sucked .
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    Feb 12, 2011 8:35 AM GMT
    LeeBee saidI just want to say this:

    I don't enjoy cumming. Because of this I have naturally developed a really long sex-life-span-thingy. I do not cum. It's nothing against the other person it is just my preference. When i feel the need to masturbate i even force a dry orgasm. I do however cum once a week because of a phobia of some sort of build up- prostatey- cancery thingy.

    So, yeah, what i'm saying is this: Maybe you should just open up to him. He could be just like me and is not comfortable with cumming. Or you could be extremely lucky and have bagged yourself a winner that can go for ages!!!


    wtf? How do you force a dry orgasm?
  • rnch

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    Feb 12, 2011 5:17 PM GMT
    decades of porno flicks have brainwashed many of us that we "must" jizz in order to be a "success".

    bullshit!

    "getting there" is much more enjoyable for me.
  • LeeBee

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    Feb 13, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    KardioKing said
    LeeBee saidI just want to say this:

    I don't enjoy cumming. Because of this I have naturally developed a really long sex-life-span-thingy. I do not cum. It's nothing against the other person it is just my preference. When i feel the need to masturbate i even force a dry orgasm. I do however cum once a week because of a phobia of some sort of build up- prostatey- cancery thingy.

    So, yeah, what i'm saying is this: Maybe you should just open up to him. He could be just like me and is not comfortable with cumming. Or you could be extremely lucky and have bagged yourself a winner that can go for ages!!!


    wtf? How do you force a dry orgasm?


    When you feel yourself about to cum push down on your gouche until the feelings ebb away. Some people believe this leads to further stamina and the possibility of multiple orgasms. I agree. Others believe it is unhealthy and can lead to prostate problems. I don't know about that.
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    Feb 15, 2011 1:29 PM GMT
    About 17 years ago I dated a guy who didn't cum. When I asked him it turned out it was medical. Something to do with a birth defect or a botched circumcision.... I don't recall which.
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    Feb 15, 2011 2:09 PM GMT
    curious_coguy said...I worry that there's something missing or that I could do to have him reach orgasm when we are together. Help!

    Does he himself say he's not reaching orgasm? Do you believe he can ejaculate when he orgasms? Does he claim he can orgasm, and if so, how?

    As I got older I encountered men my age who no longer came, or came very little, but they still had orgasms. In most cases it was was due to prostate issues, some having had infections over the years, or cancer treatments. And of course removing the prostate can really dry things up, except for small amounts from other sources like the Cowpers gland.

    Another problem I had was when I was given anti-depressants as part the VA's treatment for my epilepsy. Apparently about 60% of epileptics have depression, so they just gave me this stuff, and I tried just about everything currently available, because I didn't like any of them, kept asking the docs switch to something different without as many side effects.

    The varying results on my sex life were curious. I remember some meds wouldn't let me get hard, but I could still have a weak orgasm and sort of dribble-cum. One in particular let me get rock hard, but then I couldn't reach orgasm, no matter how hard & long I tried.

    Now that was very frustrating, and they'd tell me these negative effects "should" wear off with time, but they really didn't after months. Maybe your friend is taking something like that.

    BTW, I finally told the VA docs they could keep their meds, I didn't think I was depressed anyway. And as I said to them, I can't think of a better way to MAKE a man depressed than to make him impotent. LOL!
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    Feb 15, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    I hate cuming, cuz it's so final so what normally happens is I try to prolong the sex for so long that the interest in getting off for me is lost. As long as my partner gets off I'm sexually satisfied.