A short story about love

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    Feb 10, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    It's a love story I just read, I might be silly but it's touching so I posted my translation:

    The day he engaged her, he said " trust me" to her
    The day their daughter was born he said "thank you" to her
    The day their daughter got married he said "I am still here" to her
    The day she was diagnosed with cancer he said "I will take care" to her
    The day she left to heaven he kissed her and said "wait for me there" to her

    He never said " I love you"yet his love never left her

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    Feb 10, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    What does <> mean?

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    Feb 10, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    torontoblue saidIt's a love story I just read, I might be silly but it's touching so I posted my translation:

    The day he engaged her, he said <> to her
    The day their daughter was born he said <> to her
    The day their daughter got married he said <> to her
    The day she was diagnosed with cancer he said <> to her
    The day she left to heaven he kissed her and said <> to her

    He never said " I love you"yet his love never left her


    <> means "nothing"

    His love transcended words.
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    Feb 10, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    I think it means he said nothing, or anything else besides 'I love you'.
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    Feb 10, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    Well then, that's a sad love story. Nowhere did it mention she understood he loved her.

    Stories like this romanticize the silence, yet real and good relationships are based on communication.

    I once went out with a man like this. He told me that just because he'd never say I love you didn't mean that he didn't love me. So, I asked him how would I know if he did? He said actions speak louder than words. I said, "Then you're going to be a rather exhausted man having to constantly act out your feelings rather than explain them."

    Here's the kicker, when he broke up with me he told me he was tired of constantly showing me he loved me. I grinned, gave him a hug, explained that a few words could have saved him a lot of unnecessary work, and wished him happiness in his next relationship. I also suggested he find another man who was silent.

    -Doug
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    Feb 10, 2011 4:48 PM GMT
    meninlove said Well then, that's a sad love story. Nowhere did it mention she understood he loved her.

    Stories like this romanticize the silence, yet real and good relationships are based on communication.

    I once went out with a man like this. He told me that just because he'd never say I love you didn't mean that he didn't love me. So, I asked him how would I know if he did? He said actions speak louder than words. I said, "Then you're going to be a rather exhausted man having to constantly act out your feelings rather than explain them."

    Here's the kicker, when he broke up with me he told me he was tired of constantly showing me he loved me. I grinned, gave him a hug, explained that a few words could have saved him a lot of unnecessary work, and wished him happiness in his next relationship. I also suggested he find another man who was silent.

    -Doug



    Doug ,
    I wish i could be as wise as you are .....icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 10, 2011 4:49 PM GMT
    sorry, folks, I just realized that <> blocked the contents inside it.

    I changed of the <> quote sign to " " and the contents showed up.
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    Feb 10, 2011 4:50 PM GMT
    I don't necessarily agree with the above poster.
    Saying I love you is just using empty words, if they are not backed up with actions.
    Love doesn't necessarily have to be validated by words, but rather with action showing the love.


    -EDIT was meant for meninlove
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    Feb 10, 2011 4:54 PM GMT
    Love is in your actions, not your words.
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    Feb 10, 2011 4:57 PM GMT
    I think actions and the three words "I love you" work together hand in hand. Neither one can be complete without the other one.
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    Feb 10, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    torontoblue saidsorry, folks, I just realized that <> blocked the contents inside it.

    I changed of the <> quote sign to " " and the contents showed up.



    AHA! Thanks torontoblue, those are wonderful and true words of love.

    Lux_ the words are only empty if you don't mean them. I know a couple that had this issue. He didn't believe Mel when Mel said, 'I love you' to him. Mel had to show it. Mel finally gave up. "If he doesn't believe what I say, then what's the point of talking?"

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    Feb 10, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    I've demonstrated my love, concern and compassion to plenty of my friends and family without ever vocalizing it with "I love you." The context of "I love you" is neither as widespread nor as necessary as some might think.

    The variation often comes from the recipient. Some people like to hear it. Some need to hear it. Some like the actions' implications.
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    Feb 10, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    To the two guys above my last post. In relationships, long distance ones as an example, often saying it IS the action.

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    Feb 10, 2011 5:16 PM GMT
    All talk and no actions...sounds like a party. icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 10, 2011 5:19 PM GMT
    In my opinion action>words

    Not everything has to be said in order to gain validation.
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    Feb 10, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    Another fantasy that drives the gay delusion of finding a Mr. Right.
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    Feb 10, 2011 5:51 PM GMT
    RunintheCity saidAll talk and no actions...sounds like a party. icon_confused.gif


    Well, don't think in extremes then. The original premise before Torontoblue made a correction was that <> meant the man said nothing in each situation.

    It doesn't work. Actions alone can be misread. I've been witness to both sides of it.

    In one couple, the guy did all kinds of things, never saying I love you or its equivalent. She went merrily along thinking it was love demonstrated. Turned out he'd do (and often did) the same for his bud and his niece. Did he love his bud and his niece? Yep. Was he in love with them? Nope.

    -Doug


    Interesting topic.