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  • usfalaskan

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    Apr 01, 2008 5:22 AM GMT
    So, for sometime, I noticed that I don't have a lot of friends that are gay. Most of my friends are straight guys, and really, I don't know how to act around other gay guys.
    Anyone else experience this? It's not like it's a big deal, just something I noticed.
  • geebus

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    Apr 01, 2008 7:29 AM GMT
    yep, I have zero gay friends. But I don't act differently around other people anyway so no worries for me there ^_^
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    Apr 01, 2008 11:26 AM GMT
    Zero gay friends too. Not even in the past, though I have gay acquaintances. icon_razz.gif
  • Kirby_Atwood

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    Apr 01, 2008 12:46 PM GMT
    i don't think there will be some behaviors differences, only expect for some extreme hobbies or in terms of sex, cuz all are gay right? whether you are gay or straight.
  • jarhead5536

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    Apr 01, 2008 4:20 PM GMT
    Haven't had gay friends in decades. I hadn't thought too much about it though. I suppose I just haven't really been immersed in situations where I meet lots of gay men for a very long time...
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    Apr 01, 2008 4:26 PM GMT
    No none either!
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    Apr 01, 2008 4:49 PM GMT
    Just my buds here, and I wouldn't trade any of y'all.
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    Apr 01, 2008 4:50 PM GMT
    I have a couple of good gay friends besides my partner. I am on friendly terms with a lot of gay people in the volleyball and softball leagues I play in. I would not want to associate just with straight people or with gay people, I like to mix things up in life.
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    Apr 02, 2008 4:48 PM GMT
    I used to have absolutely no gay friends up until about six months ago. Now they seem to outnumber my straight friends 2:1. It's...different...I feel like there's things I can tell my gay friends that I simply can't tell my straight friends.
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    Apr 02, 2008 5:09 PM GMT
    Kharlo109 saidIt's...different...I feel like there's things I can tell my gay friends that I simply can't tell my straight friends.


    EXACTLY!

    I mean...I'm lucky to have some great, very open-minded straight friends. They are always asking me if i'm seeing anyone (they want me to get "married" again), and stuff like that...sometimes they ask about sex things too, haha!

    I think it's great and all, but really...I feel more comfortable talking to my gay friends about a lot of things.
  • MattyC0709

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    Apr 02, 2008 5:16 PM GMT
    Well, considering that I joined here to make some gay friends... I'm surrounded by gays now! Haha joking. Just the 5 or so friends I've made here I got.

    Waiting for more gay friends... icon_biggrin.gificon_lol.gificon_razz.gificon_wink.gif
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    Apr 02, 2008 5:17 PM GMT
    I now only have a few gay friends. When I lived in Indy for several months, practically all my friends were gay. After having no other gay friends my entire life (small town Idaho is a bitch), it was an eye opener, and I realized that I couldn't deal with not having at least a couple gay friends to talk to. There are indeed some things that you can talk about with gay friends that you just can't with straight ones.

    As I said, I only have a few gay friends now. Fortunately, I've just picked up a boy so maybe I'll make some new ones in the next couple months that I'm still here in the states.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Apr 02, 2008 5:20 PM GMT
    Just be you! If those gay guys don't like that, move on! Screw 'em! Well ... if you have, kudos to you!

    But seriously, just be yourself. Cliched, but TRUE!

    notyravgfratboy saidSo, for sometime, I noticed that I don't have a lot of friends that are gay. Most of my friends are straight guys, and really, I don't know how to act around other gay guys.
    Anyone else experience this? It's not like it's a big deal, just something I noticed.
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    Apr 02, 2008 5:20 PM GMT
    You don't know how to act around other gay men? Why, you suck their penises and bottom or top for them. Pretty easy, really.
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    Apr 02, 2008 6:19 PM GMT
    McGay saidYou don't know how to act around other gay men? Why, you suck their penises and bottom or top for them. Pretty easy, really.


    Oh man...I've been doing this all wrong for YEARS!

    Thanks McGay! What would I do without you icon_smile.gif

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    Apr 02, 2008 6:42 PM GMT
    McGay saidYou don't know how to act around other gay men? Why, you suck their penises and bottom or top for them. Pretty easy, really.


    ...and that's what they'll call you. Pretty easy.
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    Apr 02, 2008 8:51 PM GMT
    I don't have any breeder friends. I live in a gay ghetto, eat in gay restaurants and only watch gay films.
  • Csrobbie2000

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    Apr 03, 2008 6:20 PM GMT
    The majority of my friends are gay, and I love them. They're fun to hang out with. I can't even imagine my life without them.
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    Apr 03, 2008 6:24 PM GMT
    Joe, you haven't been tossing the football to them, have you?
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    Apr 03, 2008 6:32 PM GMT
    notyravgfratboy saidSo, for sometime, I noticed that I don't have a lot of friends that are gay. Most of my friends are straight guys, and really, I don't know how to act around other gay guys.
    Anyone else experience this? It's not like it's a big deal, just something I noticed.


    It's not really a big deal to me if my friends are gay or not, but more a matter of at least having at least two gay or lesbian friends.

    It's the quality and continuity of the friendship that's most relevant, I believe. As long as you've got good friends and someone to call your best friend, than sexuality isn't really an issue.

    I'm sure some people think that lovey dovey stuff is besides the point. So, if you feel you would like to have some gay or lesbian friends, go out and make a few. Be yourself and enjoy yourself =D
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 03, 2008 6:40 PM GMT
    Well I tend to be very eclectic with my friends and have an odd assortment in many cases. I like it that way and its always funny when some of them are around others from various points in my life and watch them react.

    Sure I have gay friends and in Wichita I been associated with a group.. I'll call them a "professional, educated group". Interesting bunch of guys, loosely grouped. There are things I like and some I don't, about some of these guys. There can be a "group mentality" at times (albeit that can occur with any group, nothing "gay" about that). For me, I tend to develop good close friendships from a variety of sources.. and nothing different about the gay scene.
    Last night at 10:45 p.m. I got a call from a gay catholic priest friend.. wanted to talk to me about something and while he is a great friend, for clear reasons, he has little exposure to the gay .. anything.

    I tend to have priorities different than many and am comfortable with my approach. Its uniquely me.


    I would find your way and go with it. If you are comfortable in the gay scene and making friends, I would do so... but it certainly isn't the end of the world. Being able to confide and share with several gay friends would be healthy... but do what makes sense to you.
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    Apr 03, 2008 6:41 PM GMT
    Wasn't here already a thread about this????
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    Apr 03, 2008 7:26 PM GMT
    McGay saidJoe, you haven't been tossing the football to them, have you?


    No, but trying to strike up intelligent conversations with them proves to be just as bad. Next time, I'll just drop trou.



  • jetswa737

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    Apr 04, 2008 7:10 PM GMT
    What if I dont have any friends...LOLicon_evil.gif
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    Apr 06, 2008 8:31 PM GMT
    jarhead5536 saidHaven't had gay friends in decades. I hadn't thought too much about it though. I suppose I just haven't really been immersed in situations where I meet lots of gay men for a very long time...


    Jarhead - you can consider us your gay friends -- you're well worth knowing.

    I'm lucky to have some really good gay friends (see my group pic) and they're from my fraternity, alumni association, gym, and friends I met through friends. I also have a small group of straight friends, but not that many and not that close.