My old boyfriend

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    Feb 11, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    sorry guys, I'm so down right now and don't know if you guys will welcome me.
    My boyfriend and I have broken up for 2 months.
    We met eachother in july 2010, and our relationship has lasted till Septembre...that's such a happy time in my life, he's my first love, he's older than me 14 years old but he looks as at age 25. He's a Master of Marketing, work for inisurance company in day and sing at bar at night. He has so many talents and I love him not for sex, I love him because that;s him.
    He used to tell me he would never leave me eventhough I was wrong in every cases.
    But during our time, I made too many mistakes, and then he left , and now, he's gonna get married with a woman and he told me, he will be back in man life, that needs for his long life.........I was so hollow for 2 months till now, I don't know what to do......eventhough I don't feel interested in other guys...I still miss him too much, I still love him too much...
    What should I do to get him back??? icon_sad.gif
  • nessthing

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    Feb 11, 2011 5:52 AM GMT
    Everyone dies alone.
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    Feb 11, 2011 9:43 AM GMT
    nessthing saidEveryone dies alone.


    Really? Seriously icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 11, 2011 1:48 PM GMT
    I would say move on...if he doesn't want you back in his life it won't happen and you will just go crazy waiting for him. Concentrate on your friends, family and hobbies right now and eventually you will be ready to date someone again.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 11, 2011 1:51 PM GMT
    You sound like a great guy who needs someone who's dedicated... not to a woman, but to you. Don't go living your life by "what might be". Put your energy elsewhere into finding a new guy.
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    Feb 11, 2011 1:51 PM GMT


    "He used to tell me he would never leave me eventhough I was wrong in every cases.
    But during our time, I made too many mistakes, and then he left"


    ...and now he's getting married, so learn from your mistakes and don't repeat them with the next man. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
  • fitdude62

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    Feb 11, 2011 2:00 PM GMT
    If he is going to marry a woman then he doesn't know where he is either.

    Don't fault yourself too much. You are young and you can chalk this up to another learning experiance.

    You don't forget your first love but you move on. Learn from this and the next one will be much better.

    Peace
  • alby

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    Feb 11, 2011 4:05 PM GMT
    I'll say this boys come and go but your friends will always be there for you icon_smile.gif enjoy your life still you still have a ways to go icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 11, 2011 4:17 PM GMT
    fitdude62 saidIf he is going to marry a woman then he doesn't know where he is either.

    Don't fault yourself too much. You are young and you can chalk this up to another learning experiance.

    You don't forget your first love but you move on. Learn from this and the next one will be much better.

    Peace
    Totally agree. This guy does not know what he wants or who he is, let alone ready for ANY relationship. You're best to cherish the memories and continue to try and find someone stable and loving for yourself. Good luck!
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    Feb 11, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    tell me about it
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    Feb 11, 2011 4:33 PM GMT
    Wish him good luck and then focus on your life. Allow him to make his own mistakes--he's not infallible, and neither are you. Sometimes we need to make that one mistake so we can learn from it. If he decides to marry the girl and it turns out to have been a mistake on his part, he will figure that out. And if or when he does, hopefully he will remember you fondly. If you ever get back together, don't judge him...rather, accept him and be happy. Have fun, enjoy life...life is too short!
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    Feb 11, 2011 11:30 PM GMT
    nessthing saidEveryone dies alone.


    Pfft- I won't.

    God invented fruit punch for a reason- and it wasn't to stay hydrated.
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    Feb 19, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    thankyou guys, I feel better, but I still miss him...I thought at that age of 35, so he had decided which way to go before he came to my life...but one thing I'm sure that he never cheats on me, I know him so well, I can understand his leaving and won't blame him, I just feel so sad....
    Now I have to stand up and work again. I get 3 jobs to work and study more foreign languages, I need to fill full my time, so I won't have any spare time to think of him any more....