I don't know if you're reading any of the responses, CajunGuy, but here's something to keep in mind: just realizing and accepting that you are gay, and that means we already live a much different life than 'everyone else', you DON'T HAVE TO play by the same expectations and rules. For one, most of us don't have kids, and very few of us ever find relationships that last.
Yea, it sucks, but guess what? We don't have kids to slow us down or make our lives so complicated that we can't afford other things. We have so much time on our hands that most straight people would envy that - particularly as we hit our 30's. While they are dealing with 1-2 kids and a marriage they may or may not be interested in anymore, we get to bypass that and do what WE want to do with our lives. A college degree in 2011 is basically the same as a high school diploma in 1996. It is a necessity for some people but ask a lot of new graduates and they'll tell you that, no, they didn't find a job and now they're doing the same job they did before going to college (telemarketing, supermarket checker, etc) and have $25 grand in loans to pay back. You have to look, but there are other roads to success besides a degree, especially now that everyone and their Aunt Linda has one.
Also, don't buy into the gay men's idea that you have to be successful, rich, perfect, urban-chic with a $1 million condo, etc...the problem with most gay men is because they've spent so much time isolating themselves they've built this image of what another gay man (their ideal) is supposed to be, yet there are few if any gay men who are that young, that successful, and that mentally/emotionally stable. We also have a culture of young gay men who have been mislead by the porn industry to believe that gay men are supposed to look a certain way, and in real life, very few gay men actually look like that. This is why so many young gay men aren't coming out, since they feel they either don't look like that so why bother, or they'll never find someone who looks like that so they give up. It's ironic because in theory, 'coming out' used to be a celebration of differences and acknowledging that it's okay to not be like everyone else...now, it's buying into an over-privileged, overeducated group of arrogant, narcissistic men who are nastier than any of the straight bullies you would have encountered while closeted.
I am starting to meet gay men who regret ever coming out in the first place because they're seeing a selection that has dwindled down to nothing. If they would have 'lied' and stayed with a woman, they figure, at least they could have had a chance to be a father. Now, since coming out and realizing how few gay men are really out there, how few are really ready for a relationship and a lifelong partner, they've found nobody. We have caviar tastes on a hot dog budget - sure, it's fine to be picky and know exactly what you want, but having so few gay men who are at the same place in life, want the same things, and are equally interested in you, it's gonna be a long wait.