When is it an "affair"?

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    Feb 12, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    This question was asked on another forum I frequent (yeah, I actually type fast enough to post on two of them...frequently). I thought it was pretty fucking interesting (because it was asked by a girl I know IRL), so I thought I'd post it here to see what kind of fucked up responses it will get...so here it is:

    "What makes it an affair, and not just simple cheating? Are the terms interchangeable?

    Does it have to be recurring, consistent with the same person, or is one time enough?"
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    Feb 12, 2011 2:18 AM GMT

    Both hook-ups just for sex and affairs can be cheating, but only if there's a third party being cheated on.
    Hook-ups for sex are only that.

    Affairs are, well...


    Show her this Paul:

    When two lovers meet in Mayfair So the legends tell
    Songbirds sing and winter turns to spring
    Every winding street in Mayfair falls beneath the spell
    I know such enchantment can be
    'Cause it happened one evening to me

    That certain night, the night we met,
    There was magic abroad in the air,
    There were angels dining at the Ritz
    And A Nightingale Sang In Berkley Square

    I may be right, I may be wrong,
    But I'm perfectly willing to swear
    That when you turn'd and smiled at me
    A Nightingale Sang In Berkley Square

    The moon that lingered over London town;
    Poor puzzled moon, he wore a frown
    How could he know we two were so in love,
    The whole darn world seemed upside down

    The streets of town were paved with stars,
    It was such a romantic affair,
    And as we kissed and said goodnight,
    A Nightingale Sang In Berkley Square

    Our homeward step was just as light
    As the tap dancing feet of Astair
    And like an echo far away,
    A Nightingale Sang In Berkley Square

    I know 'cause I was there, that night in Berkley Square


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    Feb 12, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    ifn you be steppin out on yo ho or yo mo and be dippin da wick in sombuddy's dick, den meetin is cheetin, if its here or its dere, its a fukken affair...............................tupac shakespeare..............................icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 12, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    If you are trying to differentiate affair and cheating, then the affair is an emotional involvement outside the relationship. Cheating is simply doing anything that breaks the commitment of the relationship (usually by some action). Someone could cheat without being emotionally invested in the cheating, He could be carrying on an affair while cheating. He could even carry on an affair without having technically cheated.
    If, for example, the man found someone online and had an emotional connection outside his relationship, even if the two of them never physically met, then he would be having an affair.
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    Feb 12, 2011 6:43 AM GMT
    "affair" = cheating with the same person more than once.
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    Feb 12, 2011 6:44 AM GMT
    mindgarden said"affair" = cheating with the same person more than once.


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    Feb 12, 2011 6:45 AM GMT
    When they have a wife sitting at home that "doesn't understand me".....icon_confused.gif

    And your emotions get involved........
  • mybud

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    Feb 12, 2011 6:55 AM GMT
    An affair is a long term situation..cheating...is when your bf is out of town...You decide to go to the bar... you get drunk...it's 2:50am..pick up a guy...fuck his brains out..wake up 5 hours later...regretting it all and never do it again.....BUD
  • coolarmydude

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    Feb 12, 2011 7:51 AM GMT
    An affair is when you keep a certain intimate relationship a secret or DL from someone else that you are in an intimate relationship with.
  • LJay

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    Feb 12, 2011 1:39 PM GMT
    Longevity and development. All affairs are cheating. Cheating is more on the order of once or twice.
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    Feb 12, 2011 1:45 PM GMT
    Ermine saidIf you are trying to differentiate affair and cheating, then the affair is an emotional involvement outside the relationship. Cheating is simply doing anything that breaks the commitment of the relationship (usually by some action). Someone could cheat without being emotionally invested in the cheating, He could be carrying on an affair while cheating. He could even carry on an affair without having technically cheated.
    If, for example, the man found someone online and had an emotional connection outside his relationship, even if the two of them never physically met, then he would be having an affair.



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    Feb 12, 2011 1:48 PM GMT
    An affair is cheating with one or more people on multiple occasions for a duration without your significant other knowing. Basically it's on ongoing sexual secret your aren't aware of until the last minute.