how do YOU define "masculine"?

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    Feb 12, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    i just went on a date with a self-described "masculine guy". he did not meet my standards of "masculine"

    [edit] okay, and i understand most gay men who have fought to meet the stereotypical standards of "masculinity" at some point in their lives have discovered it's only a word and then they get dreamy eyed redefining it for themselves and want to say that "masculine" is the epitome of human perfection, but i'm not talking about that, or sassy comments. i'm sorry if i've made anyone seem as if they contradict my personal definition (which i will now consider changing....), but in the first place, i understood it to be my own personal definition and not an absolute truth, so, with that in mind:

    sean eble's [IDEA] of "masculine" [when he asks a guy on a website about his mannerisms]: no lisp, no lilt of the voice, and no extended pinkies or flailing hands UNLESS absolutely necessary
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    Feb 12, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    Let me get a bowl of POPCORN this should be interesting......
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    Feb 12, 2011 3:27 AM GMT
    This topic is redundant, but masculinity is a state of being. It's all relative. Someone having a lisp or flailing arms doesn't make you less of a man, just like beating someone up just because you can does not make you more of a man.

    For the record I know so called "flaming" effeminate men who are third degree black belts. icon_twisted.gif
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    Feb 12, 2011 3:27 AM GMT
    My definition of masculine is a man who is true to himself and takes care of his responsibilities. Everything beyond that is mannerisms.

    Every gentleman knows that you extend your pinkie when having tea with the Queen, or with any queens.
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    Feb 12, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
    Damn it didn't finish popin yet.....but were off to a good starticon_lol.gif
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    Feb 12, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    LOL, i met this guy [at a club] who claimed to be a top but after a few drinks he started walking the runway in the club....He actually thought i was gonna take him home, i said '' Na, i dont put pussy on my back''.....
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    Feb 12, 2011 3:31 AM GMT
    I define masculine as someone who does his due diligence and checks before asking an intentionally provocative question whether it's already been asked and answered.
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    Feb 12, 2011 3:31 AM GMT
    Hillie saidDamn it didn't finish popin yet.....but were off to a good starticon_lol.gif

    Sure hope its butter lovers popcorn.....
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    Feb 12, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    DodgedBullet saidThis topic is redundant, but masculinity is a state of being. It's all relative. Someone having a lisp or flailing arms doesn't make you less of a man, just like beating someone up just because you can does not make you more of a man.

    For the record I know so called "flaming" effeminate men who are third degree black belts. icon_twisted.gif


    quite
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    Feb 12, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidI define masculine as someone who does his due diligence and checks before asking an intentionally provocative question whether it's already been asked and answered.


    lol, ok, i get it
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    Feb 12, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
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    Feb 12, 2011 4:07 AM GMT
    dick, balls, hair, usually talks lower than femine, but not all the time...doesn't bleed and can write his name in the snow.....icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 12, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    I dunno, I don't have a checklist for masculinity. But I know a real man when I meet him. And he's a man because he's not a woman, nor a faux woman, and not prone to feminine weaknesses. As strong as me in personality, able to stand up to me, and match me.

    Oh fuck, we all know what a masculine man is -- he exudes it from his pores. Self-confident, in-charge, he conveys it at first glance. It's more attitude than athletics, or arbitrary attributes. A masculine guy is defined by his presence, not by his points.
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    Feb 12, 2011 4:43 AM GMT
    hmm that's odd; this thread seams to missing something, something of the ornithological variety.

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    Feb 12, 2011 6:06 AM GMT
    Here's how you find out if your guy fits the definition of masculine. Hide in the closet and surprise him. If he screams like a scared little girl, he's a girl. If he growls, check his pinky finger. If his pinky finger is raised while he's growling, he's a girl.
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    Feb 12, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    The smell of him.
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    Feb 12, 2011 6:19 AM GMT
    seante saidi just went on a date with a self-described "masculine guy". he did not meet my standards of "masculine"


    How did he not meet your standards of "masculine"?

  • rdberg1957

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    Feb 12, 2011 6:32 AM GMT
    I dated a guy who was outwardly very fem by most standards--appearance, mannerisms, voice. But his mind was very masculine. He was a medical scientist and rather brilliant.
  • sea_buddy

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    Feb 12, 2011 6:36 AM GMT
    Masculinity is a characteristic that describes male qualities. There's a lot of socialized thinking behind this characteristic. It all relates to how the society you are in values the perceived traits of men.
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    Feb 12, 2011 6:38 AM GMT
    I swear I just caught a whiff of waffles with butter. GIMMEH.
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    Feb 12, 2011 7:01 AM GMT
    Just be a man!
    Get some balls
    Raise some kids
    Dig your gadgets
    Play a sport or two
    Kind,loving prove the most!
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    Feb 12, 2011 7:04 AM GMT
    meninlove said The smell of him.


    I think I get that now!!

    It's called phermones right?

    :-)

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    Feb 12, 2011 7:30 AM GMT
    This is what happens when people label themselves.
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    Feb 12, 2011 7:36 AM GMT
    penis
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    Feb 12, 2011 9:08 AM GMT
    No matter what masculine really is, my experience is that 9 out 10 times "masculine" on a dating site means ungroomed.