Am I single because I am not on Grindr?

  • italguynj

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    Feb 12, 2011 4:34 AM GMT
    I know Grindr is more of a hook up site but aren't most [90-95%] of all gay apps and websites designed for sex? It seems like the vast majority of gay guys are on that site exclusively and if you are not, you are lost in the shuffle. RJ does not count because it's a social site for athletically minded guys and Match.com is seems to be filled with the same group of unattractive and/or socially challenged guys. I know because I tried it already. So should I just break the bank and get a smart phone or will it be a waste of time and money??
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    Feb 12, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    I was raised not far from you, in Upper Montclair, born in Glen Ridge. You have every opportunity right there, with or without Grindr, or a smartphone. Use your computer to search for gay social places near you. Clubs, bars, organizations, social groups, meetings, activities, churches, synagogues, whatever. You're really sitting on a gay treasure trove, if you learn how to mine it. Grindr may help, but it's not essential, and actually may only lead you to bottom feeders.

    As for gay apps, I have a few for my iPhone, but they're all functional, not for hooking up. GayCities is one of my favorites when I'm away from south Florida.
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    Feb 12, 2011 5:13 AM GMT
    For crying out loud, and what is wrong in wanting to meet single gay men the old fashion way! like through friends, co-workers, family members, or a gay community center! The Grindr is no different then A4A, or any hook-up way of meeting men! besides I find it hard to believe that an attractive guy like yourself would have any problem finding quality gay men to date!! so what gives!?


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    Feb 12, 2011 5:17 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI was raised not far from you, in Upper Montclair, born in Glen Ridge. You have every opportunity right there, with or without Grindr, or a smartphone. Use your computer to search for gay social places near you. Clubs, bars, organizations, social groups, meetings, activities, churches, synagogues, whatever. You're really sitting on a gay treasure trove, if you learn how to mine it. Grindr may help, but it's not essential, and actually may only lead you to bottom feeders.

    As for gay apps, I have a few for my iPhone, but they're all functional, not for hooking up. GayCities is one of my favorites when I'm away from south Florida.


    True! especially the Montclair area, which for most gays in Jersey it is consider the Gay Mecca of the state. Nice town to visit and live in too!

    Oh my gosh Wilton, is that you in the picture!? I didn't recognize you! I love the new pic, you look great my dear friend!


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  • italguynj

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    Feb 12, 2011 5:51 PM GMT
    Thanks guys. A few questions/comments.

    @ Art Deco: The problem is that the only bar in NJ is Feathers and it sucks. So I go to NYC and NYC guys don't want to be bothered with NJ guys. I don't believe in God..so churches are out & can you expand on meetings, activities, organizations and social groups? I do not know what that means in your world.

    @Alezandar: Thanks for the kind words and I have done the "old fashion" way but no one does that anymore. I have noticed that in social situations people just want to be left alone with their friend most of the time. I feel people are not blending their social lives with dating lives like they used to. Everything seems to have this silly compartmentalized system of "bars=friends and drinks, online=sex and if I meet someone hot, local & nice in between MAYBE I will date them". As for work, I do not shit where I eat, my family does not know other gay people and the LGBT center is a great source of information but NOT the place for dating.