Would you be upset?-Club drama

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    Feb 12, 2011 1:57 PM GMT
    First off let me say, I don't like going out to the club, however I do it because it makes my boyfriend happy. I try to be understanding and because he enjoys it so much I go out on the dance floor with him and dance the night away. I don't complain at all as he already knows I do this for him.

    Last night however, just really upset me. To begin with I'm dancing with my boyfriend and everything is going well until another guy starts dancing with my boyfriend. At first I don't care, since it's just dancing. The guy then starts putting his hands on my boyfriend ( on his ass and over his thighs). I grit my teeth and still remaining calm. The guy then starts inquiring about taking my boyfriend home. The guy is totally into my boyfriend and at this point I'm about to deck this guy in the face. I'm not exactly sure what my boyfriend says to this guy next but the dude starts running his hands in my hair. In my mind I had enough and tell the guy that "this is my boyfriend" the guy then seems to understand backs off a bit until the song is over.

    If that would have been it, I probably wouldn't have cared. About an hour later we start dancing with a guy and a girl. The guy is grinding against my boyfriend in the front and I'm in the back of him. I'm once again cool with everything, even when this guy's girl wedges herself between me and my boyfriend. The 4 of us are dancing together. The guy starts touching my boyfriend again and I'm a bit upset especially with what happened an hour ago. The girl turns around and yells in my ear "You should leave these two a lone.... You should know when you aren't wanted". The girl leaves and I tell my boyfriend we need to get off the floor for a bit.

    I tell him what is going on and he offers this explanation. "You should know when we go to the club this kind of thing always happens. I can't help it that I'm attractive and guys want to dance with me. You should know I'm really only interested in you but you need to get over these feelings because I want to go to the club a lot"

    Questions: Is it wrong that I got upset? How should I've handled these situations? Is it understandable that I probably will not want to go out to the club for another month or two?
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    Feb 12, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    You handled yourself like a gentleman cuz I would have told that bitch she needed to check herself. 2ndly I don't kno what to say about your boyfriends behavior except it seems there is a level of respect that is missing for you. During the times I've been in relationships and similar events happened I always remain true to my relationship. Harmless flirting is no big deal but full hands on assault needs to be addressed. It also seems like your bf values his looks more than you as a person.