Is it normal to be gay and not like giving/receiving anal sex?

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    Feb 12, 2011 9:43 PM GMT
    ... and to prefer non penetrative sex like frot.
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    Feb 12, 2011 9:46 PM GMT
    Absolutely 100% normal. What makes you think otherwise?

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    Feb 12, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    of course
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    Feb 12, 2011 9:50 PM GMT
    Case in point: Paulflexes

    oh wait, you said normal... nevermind!

    icon_lol.gif I kid Paul, I kid.
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    Feb 12, 2011 9:51 PM GMT
    meninlove said Absolutely 100% normal. What makes you think otherwise?

    It just seems like the only kind of sex I hear/ see the majority of the gay population talking about is anal,and not that there's anything wrong with it, but anal kind of turns me off b/c I see it as more of an exit.
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    Feb 12, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    HotCollegeDude said... and to prefer non penetrative sex like frot.


    You're likely in the minority, but there's nothing abnormal about not liking anal sex. Abnormal would be fanatic, over-the-top, all-consuming hatred of anal sex.
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    Feb 12, 2011 10:04 PM GMT
    In my humble opinion it's never acceptable for a card carrying gay guy to despise bending over--with the exception of myself. Oops, time to go to church to confess my sins!
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    Feb 12, 2011 10:09 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidIn my humble opinion it's never acceptable for a card carrying gay guy to despise bending over--with the exception of myself. Oops, time to go to church to confess my sins!


    lol, so I'm guessing you don't like it either? Well there's one example
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    Feb 12, 2011 10:17 PM GMT
    There's a significant minority of gay men who are like this, there's lots of frot sites to help you. Also look into thigh fucking, apparently thats fun if you can pull it off.

    Just don't turn into one of those unbearably obnoxious frot advocates who spend 90% of their time disparaging anal sex and anyone who's ever practiced it and only 10% of their time advocating frot.
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    Feb 12, 2011 10:19 PM GMT
    russnipp saidThere's a significant minority of gay men who are like this, there's lots of frot sites to help you. Also look into thigh fucking, apparently thats fun if you can pull it off.

    Just don't turn into one of those unbearably obnoxious frot advocates who spend 90% of their time disparaging anal sex and anyone who's ever practiced it and only 10% of their time advocating frot.


    Oh I wouldn't become one of those people, I don't think there's anything wrong with it, it just isn't for me and doesn't turn me on sexually.
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    Feb 12, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    To me anal sex is extremely intimate and I have only enjoyed it on a few occasions in my 30 years of being out. You want to keep an open mind for those few occasions but I feel you really have to connect at deep and trusting level with your partner to enjoy it. Everyone is different but you may find one day you meet a guy and become so intimate you want to try something new. Don't ever feel you are obliged to have anal sex. If you're not comfortable with it just don't do it. It is that simple. I had a guy try to force me to be a bottom and I just pinned him and said "you're not going to get your way on this one now if you want me to leave I will." Funny thing is, he really wanted to bottom after I said that.
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    Feb 12, 2011 10:54 PM GMT
    friendormate saidTo me anal sex is extremely intimate and I have only enjoyed it on a few occasions in my 30 years of being out. You want to keep an open mind for those few occasions but I feel you really have to connect at deep and trusting level with your partner to enjoy it. Everyone is different but you may find one day you meet a guy and become so intimate you want to try something new. Don't ever feel you are obliged to have anal sex. If you're not comfortable with it just don't do it. It is that simple. I had a guy try to force me to be a bottom and I just pinned him and said "you're not going to get your way on this one now if you want me to leave I will." Funny thing is, he really wanted to bottom after I said that.


    Same story here...

    totally normal...stop watching so much porn or get on Paul's site now.
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    Feb 12, 2011 10:59 PM GMT
    Is it normal to be gay and not like giving/receiving anal sex?

    I will add to the general consensus here: perfectly normal.
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    Feb 12, 2011 11:44 PM GMT
    I think this gay-anal-sex thing is a stereotype that Westboro "Baptist Church" (religulous cult), Brokeback Mountain, and porn stars perpetuated.
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    Feb 13, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
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    DOMINUS saidIn my humble opinion it's never acceptable for a card carrying gay guy to despise bending over--with the exception of myself. Oops, time to go to church to confess my sins!


    lol, so I'm guessing you don't like it either? Well there's one example


    jockdude, don't get me wrong. i love violating a hot, clean bunghole, but i won't let anyone come come within 2 feet of mine unless he's hiding a commitment ring in his. yup.
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    Feb 13, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    Agree with the other folks - it's not uncommon. To each their own, eh.
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    Feb 13, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
    Yeah its in the minority, but it's totally normal. I woundn't worry about it. And who knows, someday you might me some big masculine stud that pushes all your buttons and then it might be a possibility too!

    I've dated guys that weren't into anal, but were more oral, that was cool with me if I was into them.
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    Feb 13, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    HotCollegeDude said... and to prefer non penetrative sex like frot.

    I only knew 1 guy who was heavily into frot. He had moved to NYC in 1980 when he was barely 20, and lived through the worst of the AIDS crisis through that decade and into the 90s. It totally traumatized him about gay sex, and he only felt safe with frottage.

    By the time I met him 20 years later it was still his favorite forms of sex, no anal at all, but he'd also jerk me off, rarely blew me, and I did both on him.

    BTW, I would be wary of the personal motives of guys who claim that you really aren't gay if you don't do anal. First, that statement is totally false, but frequently made. Second, their own agenda is suspect, their argument a way to persuade reluctant gays to do anal with them for their own enjoyment, if not that of their virgin sex partner.

    Learn what women know: that men will say anything to get their way when it comes to sex. And it's when you let another guy start calling the shots in your sex life that you can find yourself unhappy and maybe getting into trouble. Stick to your guns, and on an important issue like anal, and certainly safe sex practices, only do what you want to do.
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    Feb 13, 2011 7:43 AM GMT
    You must be straight!
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    Feb 13, 2011 7:47 AM GMT
    Homosexuality=/=anal sex.

    People often mistake that.
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    Feb 13, 2011 7:58 AM GMT
    Not to prefer either, and your gay?? Who are we kidding.
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    Feb 13, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    BoulderingBum saidAgree with the other folks - it's not uncommon. To each their own, eh.



    lol, that was so Canadian (right down to the eh).

    -Doug
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    Feb 13, 2011 5:33 PM GMT
    HotCollegeDude said... and to prefer non penetrative sex like frot.


    thats HOT!
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    Feb 17, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    About the only thing I'd say that would be truly abnormal for a gay man would be to have no interest in sexual contact with other men, no matter the kind.

    As such, you seem pretty normal.

    I've known plenty of guys in your position (so to speak). The key to sexual liberation is recognizing that there are all sorts of folks out there with all sorts of interests and hangups and learning to accept that fact and not judging folks for it.
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    Feb 22, 2011 7:35 PM GMT
    Koaa2 saidNot to prefer either, and your gay?? Who are we kidding.


    A rather biased opinion, in my belief. I do not enjoy anal sex, either as a pitcher OR a catcher...
    What you are saying is that in order to be GAY, you MUST enjoy anal sex...
    Bullshit!!!