Tall or short or average? How important is height to you?

  • NicoTheGreat

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    Jun 21, 2007 1:47 AM GMT
    When you are looking at a guy, whether it's for sex, for a relationship, or just checking out someone walking past you on the street, how important is height to you?
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    Jun 21, 2007 1:56 AM GMT
    my idea is simple, as long as you're not six inches either taller or shorter than me, you're good. Then again, I'm six foot. So that includes almost everyone. it's not that I don't like shorter or taller men. I think it's just a personal choice.
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    Jun 21, 2007 2:06 AM GMT
    Height never really mattered much. Then again, I'm 5-foot-6, everyone's taller than me.
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    Jun 21, 2007 2:11 AM GMT
    I always find a short well built guy particularly attractive, but my LTRs were tall.
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    Jun 21, 2007 3:16 AM GMT
    Well I'm 6'4", so most guys are shorter than me and therefore it's a non-issue for me. I have no problem finding shorter guys sexy. However, I have dated a couple of guys taller than me...and get why some guys find it sexy to date taller guys :-)
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    Jun 21, 2007 4:55 AM GMT
    I find it difficult to have passionate kiss with someone to tall or to short than me. However when we are laying down in bed or sitting down there no problem. Other than that height no issue for me,
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    Jun 21, 2007 4:59 AM GMT
    I find myself attracted to shorter guys. But ultimately it doesn't figure much into my thinking. But a shorter guy will definitely catch my eye first...
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 21, 2007 5:23 AM GMT
    As they say in Italian "height is half the beauty" 5'11 here and he's 5'9- that works though!
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    Jun 21, 2007 5:38 AM GMT
    I've noticed that I have a thing for short guys. Like 5'5" - 5'7". I seem to attract them... I don't know if I'm drawn to them, or they're drawn to me. But I don't mind! As long as they've got some muscle on them.

    That said... I'm not against bigger guys too. I used to crush after football players all the time. Just as long as you take care of yourself, height isn't too much of an issue with me.
  • jokbod

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    Jun 21, 2007 6:33 AM GMT
    Height's a total non-issue for me. That said, I've heard that quite a few porn stars are kinda short, it makes them appear more muscular on camera.
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    Jun 21, 2007 7:52 AM GMT
    The height of what? =) Just kidding.

    Height is not important at all...on both counts.
  • GQjock

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    Jun 21, 2007 10:58 AM GMT
    There's a range that's comfortable for me...
    and it's generally from 5'8"-6'5"
    I had a date with a guy who was 7 feet tall once
    he was very hot - intelligent but I couldn't get around the height thing...call me Goldilocks :)
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    Jun 21, 2007 11:07 AM GMT
    It's never been important to me but it also mustn't be important to the person I'm with. I don't want to be dealing with all the drama of "I'm too short/tall, and so I'll never be able to...."

    Every height has it's advantages and disadvantages, it's a matter of accepting them or not. It's like hair, you've got it or you don't, or its strait instead of curly. People so often seem to want what they don't have rather than focus on what they do. None of it has to do with your personal value. If it is perceived that way, then you ought to be talking to someone who's a little less shallow.

    It's not your job to change someone's personal taste. I've been rejected for some of the most ridiculous reasons but that doesn't matter since I don't want to be with someone who doesn't what to be with me.
  • bootbrushpup

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    Jun 21, 2007 12:19 PM GMT
    Being only 5'3" I've kinda got used to having to stand on tiptoe when kissing... ;)

    Must admit that I've always found "difference" to be sexy - and so find shorter guys than me cute,a and taller guys very sexy. *Substantially* taller *and* stronger (i.e. 6'+) will *really* turn my head.

    It probably has something psych about idolising my older (body-building) brother as a kid - and *definitely* has a lot to do with the implied balance of power - but if you can pick me up and carry me, well then "i'll be your dog...!" ;)
    (my "Handler" is 6'4", and there ain't much that makes me feel happier or safer than nuzzling into His chest, or being carried in His arms up to bed...)
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    Jun 21, 2007 12:33 PM GMT
    height's not a make or break category for me, but i have a tendency to notice guys taller than me. and so far, the guys i've dated have all been taller than me, or at least my height.
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Jun 21, 2007 1:50 PM GMT
    The guys I've been out with have ranged from 5'5" to 6'7" thus far. As I stand at a height most are comfortable with, I get the advantage that taller men don't see me as unduly short, nor do shorter men have issues with me towering past them. For me, height is something like eye color--I have a slight preference for a given range, but the preference is only slight and *way* less important than a lot of other features, mental, character, or physical.

    That being said, I can easily understand why people who are either very short or very tall do have strong height preferences. At the extremes, there are some practical issues involved. I'm reminded of a very tall friend from high school (doublebassist here) being very happy one day he spent shadowing someone in his chosen profession because that man was taller than him, and it was a relief to his neck and back to be looking up rather than down for a change.
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    Jun 21, 2007 3:10 PM GMT
    Is there a correlation between taller guys being tops and shorter guys being bottoms?
  • NicoTheGreat

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    Jun 21, 2007 5:13 PM GMT
    All very good points.

    Peronsally, the shortest person that I've ever dated was 5'5", and the tallest person was 6'5"-ish.

    I myself am 6'6", and find it difficult (maybe even impossible) to find someone that is taller than me. Though I think that it might be a little interesting to find someone taller than me. Could be fun.

    As for the last post, about height connecting to sexual role preference...I honestly couldn't tell you. I know some guys that are tall and are ONLY tops, and I know a few other taller guys that are versatile. I don't think I've ever been with a taller guy that was a bottom.

    As for shorter guys...majority of them seem to be all over the field with their preference. I have noticed that shorter guys who are really muscular and defined tend to be more toppish.

    Any input on that matter?
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    Jun 21, 2007 5:19 PM GMT
    Man, taller guys send me to the moon...but a buff shorty can do that too! At 5'7/5'6, I've had both though the majority of men who go after me are much taller than me (over 6'). I think the stereotype is that the shorter man is the bottom, while the tall one is the top; as someone who's had his share of men, I can tell you that's a stereotype which tends to be more myth than reality.
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    Jun 21, 2007 7:39 PM GMT
    I'll second that Jackal. I've happily done the duty of lifting some awfully long legs in the air in my time!

    That being said, I don't have a 'type'. Someone that is what you're looking for can come in any type of package. My experience has taught me that, and has encouraged me to always keep an open mind.

    I think that people who explicitly call out a laundry list of things they are looking for, of which height is usually included, might be missing out on one of the best things to happen to them.

    However, taller guys always do seem to catch my eye more for some reason. I'm sure there is some psychological reasoning behind that tucked neatly away in my brain. Man, where is obscenewish when you need him? :)



  • masculineone

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    Jun 21, 2007 11:14 PM GMT
    For me, I have dated from 4'11" to 6'10", and I have been knocked out by both. My only concern is that you demonstrate concern for your own health, body and be comfortable with it. As was said before, every hieght has its advantages. ^^)
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    Jun 22, 2007 12:09 AM GMT
    I'm 6'0 and make it a rule to only go after guys 5'8 or below. That's just my thing.

    ~sP
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    Jun 22, 2007 8:56 AM GMT
    Rules are made to be broken.

    I take each guy on a bloke by bloke basis. It's only fair and doesn't breach my sense of equal opportunities.
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    Jun 27, 2007 9:07 AM GMT
    ^ Agreed I do however think short guys are hot.
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    Jun 27, 2007 9:21 AM GMT

    Depends on the guy.

    Like in my post looking the "1". There is no "1".

    People box themselves in. Like the closeted friend I have. He so scared, he jump from seeing his own shadow.

    6'6. Now that is tall. Might be hard to sneak a kiss. LOL