Specific differences between sex and 'making love'?..... When is one/the other approriate for you?

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    Feb 15, 2011 9:16 AM GMT
    OK, do you think there is an intrinsic difference between having sex and 'making love'? If so, what exactly, for you, are those differences?

    .Q. Would you do/say particular things with somebody you made love with that you wouldn't be inclined to do if it was just sex with a NSA hook-up? Would you save the former exclusively for a partner? If not always the case, then when?


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  • brycetippe

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    Feb 15, 2011 9:18 AM GMT
    I wouldn't know. icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 15, 2011 9:34 AM GMT
    brycetippe saidI wouldn't know. icon_cool.gif



    Still holding on to your V card? Or only experience one and not the other? Curious.

    BTW, your cool smiley emoticon was directly antithetical to your statement, just sayin' (shrugs) ;]
  • brycetippe

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    Feb 15, 2011 9:50 AM GMT
    _SAGE_ said
    brycetippe saidI wouldn't know. icon_cool.gif



    Still holding on to your V card? Or only experience one and not the other? Curious.

    BTW, your cool smiley emoticon was directly antithetical to your statement, just sayin' (shrugs) ;]

    Oh I'm fully aware, it was on purpose!
    And I'm holding onto my v-card hypothetically as I'm not willing to hook up, sleep with anyone I'm not really into, and would like it to be really great and not uncomfortable. Unfortunately I haven't met anyone in that criteria yet.
  • Webster666

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    Feb 15, 2011 10:40 AM GMT
    Sex is the animalistic urge.
    Making love is all the thoughtful, considerate things you do for someone you care about.
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    Feb 15, 2011 10:44 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidMaking love is all the thoughtful, considerate things you do for someone you care about.



    i.e., specifically?

    If you somebody was to do the above things that you consider to be thoughtful and caring during a hook-up, would you appreciate it? Or would you see it as mixed signals/inapparopriate?
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    Feb 15, 2011 11:24 AM GMT
    "Sex with another man is good, but sex with the man you love is beyond comparison."

    As i am a virgin,and i want to make love with my man i just don't have any icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 15, 2011 12:21 PM GMT
    its the same thing, its just an illusion its different
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Feb 15, 2011 12:32 PM GMT
    Isn't making love reserved for when you're in love?
  • massbuildah

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    Feb 15, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
    Sex is what you have with as many guys as you want as often as you want it, making love is what you have with that 1 guy you love as often as he wants it!
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    Feb 15, 2011 1:05 PM GMT
    Just sex = No boyfriend icon_cry.gif
    Making love = Having a boyfriend icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 15, 2011 1:07 PM GMT
    Again, as above:

    Q. Would you do/say particular things exclusively with somebody you made love with that you wouldn't be inclined to do if it was just sex with a NSA hook-up?
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    Feb 15, 2011 1:43 PM GMT
    _SAGE_ saidAgain, as above:

    Q. Would you do/say particular things exclusively with somebody you made love with that you wouldn't be inclined to do if it was just sex with a NSA hook-up?


    Well, "I Love You" for starters. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 15, 2011 1:48 PM GMT
    Squarepeg said
    _SAGE_ saidAgain, as above:

    Q. Would you do/say particular things exclusively with somebody you made love with that you wouldn't be inclined to do if it was just sex with a NSA hook-up?


    Well, "I Love You" for starters. icon_lol.gif



    So aside from those three superfluous words, not much then? icon_rolleyes.gif
  • fitdude62

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    Feb 15, 2011 2:32 PM GMT
    First of all, sex is easy. Men are men and can have sex anytime.

    For me, it is faster, maybe even rougher. Sex has alot to do with ego. More about the individuals and not about the other person/persons. It's all about the physical rush and the release of tension.

    Making love, on the other hand, is more about communication. Connection with another soul, heart, person. Tends to be much slower or long lasting. More touching, kissing, looking into the others eyes, taking care of the others needs before my own.

    Sex does not require any personal attachment, love does. This is why sex is easier to find and gets acted upon more often. Finding the "one" that you really want to make love to is much more difficult and requires much more work to maintain.

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    Feb 15, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    I have no clues. However, of all the responses, I think fitdude62 got it as close as I imagined what the difference could have been.

    fitdude62 saidFirst of all, sex is easy. Men are men and can have sex anytime.

    For me, it is faster, maybe even rougher. Sex has alot to do with ego. More about the individuals and not about the other person/persons. It's all about the physical rush and the release of tension.

    Making love, on the other hand, is more about communication. Connection with another soul, heart, person. Tends to be much slower or long lasting. More touching, kissing, looking into the others eyes, taking care of the others needs before my own.

    Sex does not require any personal attachment, love does. This is why sex is easier to find and gets acted upon more often. Finding the "one" that you really want to make love to is much more difficult and requires much more work to maintain.

    Peace
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    Feb 15, 2011 2:38 PM GMT
    massbuildah saidSex is what you have with as many guys as you want as often as you want it, making love is what you have with that 1 guy you love as often as he wants it!


    So sweet!

    My opinion: pump + dump = sex; pump + dump + x = making love.

    There are definitely things I would do with someone with whom I'm making love that I would never do with someone with whom I'm just having sex. For example, I won't kiss if it's a one-time NSA hookup. If it's a repeat hookup but still NSA (like an FB or FWB situation), I might kiss but not passionately, and with less tongue action. If it's a "lover" or a "bf," he gets the full menu (and usually that includes my trademark hurricane/-tornado tongue action and more--lol!). Just saying.
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    Feb 15, 2011 2:44 PM GMT
    fitdude62 saidFirst of all, sex is easy. Men are men and can have sex anytime.

    For me, it is faster, maybe even rougher. Sex has alot to do with ego. More about the individuals and not about the other person/persons. It's all about the physical rush and the release of tension.

    Making love, on the other hand, is more about communication. Connection with another soul, heart, person. Tends to be much slower or long lasting. More touching, kissing, looking into the others eyes, taking care of the others needs before my own.

    Sex does not require any personal attachment, love does. This is why sex is easier to find and gets acted upon more often. Finding the "one" that you really want to make love to is much more difficult and requires much more work to maintain.

    Peace



    Yh, I was thinking along these line also =]
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    Feb 15, 2011 2:45 PM GMT
    _SAGE_ saidOK, do you think there is an intrinsic difference between having sex and 'making love'? If so, what exactly, for you, are those differences?

    .Q. Would you do/say particular things with somebody you made love with that you wouldn't be inclined to do if it was just sex with a NSA hook-up? Would you save the former exclusively for a partner? If not always the case, then when?


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    It's all in the eyes and the kiss.
  • massbuildah

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    Feb 15, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    DOMINUS said
    massbuildah saidSex is what you have with as many guys as you want as often as you want it, making love is what you have with that 1 guy you love as often as he wants it!


    So sweet!

    My opinion: pump + dump = sex; pump + dump + x = making love.

    There are definitely things I would do with someone with whom I'm making love that I would never do with someone with whom I'm just having sex. For example, I won't kiss if it's a one-time NSA hookup. If it's a repeat hookup but still NSA (like an FB or FWB situation), I might kiss but not passionately, and with less tongue action. If it's a "lover" or a "bf," he gets the full menu (and usually that includes my trademark hurricane/-tornado tongue action and more--lol!). Just saying.



    Hurrincane/tornado tongue action??? Wait, what???
    ....oh yeah, that! mmmmmmmmm
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    Feb 15, 2011 3:28 PM GMT
    massbuildah saidSex is what you have with as many guys as you want as often as you want it, making love is what you have with that 1 guy you love as often as he wants it!


    Two thumbs up!!
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    Feb 15, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    sex is physical

    love is emotional

    happiness is a combination of both with a lot of communications, understanding and patience sprinkled on top!
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    Feb 15, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidsex is physical

    love is emotional

    happiness is a combination of both with a lot of communications, understanding and patience sprinkled on top!


    +1

    Cause a guy who knows how to Fuck feverishly and change pace to gentle romantic rhythms is a GOD SENDicon_lol.gif
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    Feb 15, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    I don't see why guys hold back the kiss when it's just sex... That's one of the best parts for me.
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    Feb 15, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    kandsk saidI don't see why guys hold back the kiss when it's just sex... That's one of the best parts for me.
    Not me, I never do. I'm with you there, prerequisite for sex is kissing. Sort of a warm up for the pistons to start shooting icon_smile.gif