do you ever get tired of having to tell people you're gay?

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    Feb 15, 2011 8:10 PM GMT
    This has nothing to do with being closeted or ashamed or any of that, but it gets annoying after a while. Like when you meet a new person and you don't tell them right away (because its awkward to be like "hi my name is ...and I'm gay!") But then weeks/months after you meet them they might point out a "hot girl" or ask you if you have a girlfriend and you say "no I'm gay." Then you have to deal with their reaction. Even if its positive they'll talk about how surprised they are or ask you stupid questions. Just annoying to have to do over and over. does anyone else feel like this? icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 15, 2011 8:13 PM GMT
    Tons of people know I'm gay. I don't think I actually had to verbalize to them at any point that I was. Hell my parents know and I never had to verbalize it, I just talked about guys I was going out with.
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    Feb 15, 2011 10:36 PM GMT
    I would, I'm glad that the fact I don't talk much about females n the fact I don't hit on them speaks louder then actually telling them.....if that makes sense
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    Feb 15, 2011 10:52 PM GMT
    I got so tired of it that now when people ask, I don't answer.
    Instead, I ask them "why are you so interested in knowing?"
    That gets the point across, and shuts them up (and embarrasses them). icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 15, 2011 10:58 PM GMT
    i hear ya man.
    People upon meeting me dont typically think "gay"

    Sometimes people have said to me "so, u got a girl?" or "damn, that girls fine, huh?" and i just sigh and say yeah or "shes ok."

    I'm out and everything, but im not visibly gay. Hell, some people and even been like "oh, i bet ur girlfriends loves that!" assuming I even have a girlfriend. If they're not someone im gonna get to know or see again, I just nod politely, otherwise I'll mention im gay and just tell them.



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    Feb 15, 2011 11:01 PM GMT
    I hate having to flat out say it all the time so I just assume everyone knows and talk about whatever I want, like my partner. It's easier for me that way. I never use terms like "my roommate" for my partner. I find that when I don't make a big deal about it other people really couldn't care less (and if they do they don't make a big deal out of it with me).
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    Feb 15, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    do you ever get tired of having to tell people you're gay?

    Never get tired. Either I'm at a gay place or a party, and it's a given, or someplace else, where it's not relevant. Should anybody ask me I tell them, but really they seldom ask,

    I don't flaunt it in non-gay situations, but neither do I deny it, if someone asks me. To me it's like: "What do you do? Live near here? How do you know our hosts?" etc, etc. I'm a little surprised when someone asks me if I'm gay, but no one seldom does. And I don't walk up to them and announce it. Should I also tell them I'm right handed?

    I don't TELL people I'm gay. There's no reason. No more than their telling me they're straight. I never HAVE to tell people I'm gay.
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    Feb 16, 2011 1:21 AM GMT
    I get sick of females coming on to me, using their body parts and trying to establish eye contact in an attempt to seduce me at the gym, the club , or on the subway.... I could care less how much they shake their asses, i'm not interested...and they have the nerve to get an attitude when you ignore them.... I had a neighbor bring to my attention that a young lady on the next block 'LIKES ME'... i told my neighbor that i'm 100% Gay, and she said ' I want to bring you to my church''.... and i told her '' I'd like to bring you to MY church too''.......DEAD SILENCE...icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 16, 2011 1:36 AM GMT
    jgymnast733 saidI get sick of females coming on to me, using their body parts and trying to establish eye contact in an attempt to seduce me at the gym, the club , or on the subway.... I could care less how much they shake their asses, i'm not interested...and they have the nerve to get an attitude when you ignore them.... I had a neighbor bring to my attention that a young lady on the next block 'LIKES ME'... i told my neighbor that i'm 100% Gay, and she said ' I want to bring you to my church''.... and i told her '' I'd like to bring you to MY church too''.......DEAD SILENCE...icon_eek.gif


    lol I wish i had the luck with men that i do with girls.icon_neutral.gif