people say im 'getting too big"...

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    Feb 16, 2011 8:42 PM GMT
    so lately people like my parents and some friends have said ive gotten pretty big, and my parents in particular said i shouldnt get any bigger or im 'too muscular.' thing is, i love working out because its basically the only exercise i get to do while at school. it takes away a lot of anger and actually helps me focus. and the best part is i still want to gain another 40-50 lbs before ill be satisfied with size.

    what should i do/say?
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    Feb 16, 2011 8:51 PM GMT
    Do what YOU want to do. When I restarted just over 1.5 years ago the first thing my mom and later my sister both said was along the lines of "oh you're not going to get that big fat neck again are you?
    I never thought I had a big fat neck before LOL

    So tell them what you told us.. you enjoy it.. it helps with your focus and anger blah blah blah
  • Hunkymonkey

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    Feb 17, 2011 6:51 AM GMT
    Hahaha, What're they gonna say when you get those extra 40 to 50 lbs? Don't pay attention to them. Maybe your folks are threatened that their little boy is taking his life into his own hands? That definitely happens. Maybe your friends are a little jealous that you are changing yourself and don't fit their image of you? Unauthorized and unconsulted changes. That's very possible.Just a thought. How you will look at 200, 210, 220, or 230 really depends on what kind of body type and muscles you have. I am 5'9", just like you, and 212 right now. But because I have compact muscles, I probably look about 200. Yet, I know guys who at 5'9" and 210 look like they are 225 or more. Different body types. So, just go down your own road and stop to evaluate yourself at the mileposts. Just remember, the bigger you get, the more you have to eat to maintain it, so maybe you should hold off on the last 10 or 20 pounds until you're out of school, have a job, and can afford them. icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 17, 2011 6:53 AM GMT
    Your doing this for your health/benefit. I wouldn't let them try to convince you otherwise; if they can't understand the reasoning as to why your making yourself more healthy, then that is their problem, not yours.
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    Feb 17, 2011 6:55 AM GMT
    I heard that the entire journey from 165 to 285lbs... its because they don't understand the lifestyle of bodybuilding and what it can mean to you. Eventually they will get it.... my family did... now when I don't go to the gym I get questioned what is wrong with me...lol...
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    Feb 17, 2011 6:57 AM GMT
    Just do what you want to do. Especially if it makes you feel good.

    My dad actually asked me the other day if I am taking steroids and that he is going to send me to the doctor if I am. Funny thing is that I am not even that big. I just laughed in his face and am going to continue doing what I am doing (which is not roids btw..)
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    Feb 17, 2011 7:24 AM GMT
    Ure 5'9....if ure interested in becoming a body buildert hen go for it but personally I think anything over 200lbs for u is way too much weight. I'm 6'0 180lbs and I'm not aiming for anything over 190lbs, but that's a personal preference. You can still work out every day while keeping ur current weight and gaining definition, you don't have to stop working out in order to maintain your weight.
  • EricLA

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    Feb 17, 2011 7:29 AM GMT
    Who are you working out for, them or you? You. If you're happy with where you're at and where you're going, that's all that matters. As long as working out for you isn't truly obsessive, and you're doing it for healthy reasons, then you don't owe anyone an explanation. Just say, "Thanks, but I'm not done yet."

    My mom always tells me I look too skinny and that I should eat more. I think she mistakes seeing my abs for being malnourished.
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    Feb 17, 2011 7:39 AM GMT
    Dude, do what you want to do. You look quite good in your profile pics so if working out more is what you enjoy then don't let others stop you,
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    Feb 17, 2011 8:24 AM GMT
    They're just telling you as politely as they can that the Christmas sweaters they pre-bought you for the next five years can't be returned.
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    Feb 17, 2011 8:25 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidThey're just telling you as politely as they can that the Christmas sweaters they pre-bought you for the next five years can't be returned.


    You are so my hero.
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    Feb 17, 2011 8:34 AM GMT
    My mom didn't like me bulking up because she said I ate too much food and it was a waste. Yay mom!
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    Feb 17, 2011 10:30 AM GMT
    Your parents are saying things like that to you b/c they think you're juicing. Srsly. How do I know? I'm a fucking psychic.

    Your friends are saying things like that to you b/c they're jealous. How do I know? I've been there.

    I recommend that you continue doing what you're doing, but stand up straight. Based on the pics you've posted, you have terrible posture.
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    Feb 17, 2011 10:30 AM GMT
    5'9" and 178+50lbs = 228lbs
    I'm not in the do what you want to do crowd.
    It seems too big to me for 5'9". That could just be my opinion, but you should also ask yourself why you need to be close to 230lbs to be satisfied with your size.
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    Feb 17, 2011 10:52 AM GMT
    tell em its for the boys
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    Feb 17, 2011 11:09 AM GMT
    Give 'em a hug, say something sarcastic but only slightly condescending.


    Q: How do you intend to hit 100kg when you're 1.75 tall? Roids or fat?
  • somedaytoo

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    Feb 17, 2011 11:21 AM GMT
    You look GREAT to me!
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    Feb 17, 2011 11:33 AM GMT
    somedaytoo saidYou look GREAT to me!


    I think so too. But adding 50 lbs more is probably a bit much. But at 5'9 you can easily go for 200 lbs and still look great.
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    Feb 17, 2011 11:38 AM GMT
    Nothing to worry about, you look great... Just don't do steroids to get where you want IMO
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    Feb 17, 2011 3:29 PM GMT
    do what you want to do not what they want. My mother still does not like that I spend so much time working out and ive been out of her house for 16 years1

    you look like you definitely have a solid frame and proportion. Not too big now and you have room for refinement as you get older. I know I just told you do what you want but I would caution about gaining 50 lbs at your height. Keeping it around the 200 lb level may be better for leanness and to keep yourself proportionate.

    What are goals? Do you want to be a professional bodybuilder?
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    Feb 17, 2011 4:45 PM GMT
    Do what you want. You're fine to get bigger if you want to get bigger.
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    Feb 17, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidMy mom didn't like me bulking up because she said I ate too much food and it was a waste. Yay mom!


    In all fairness, you DO burn up more than your fair share of oxygen.
  • NerdLifter

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    Feb 17, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    I wish I could boast "I'm getting too big," icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 17, 2011 5:24 PM GMT
    Don't tell them 40-50 anymore....just tell them 20 more pounds.....but keep your goal of 40-50.

    ( Be glad as to how far you've come...you're in better shape than probably 95% of the guys your age. )



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    Feb 17, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    I agree with a lot of other guys when they suggest that you do what you like best. The one thing I'd consider though, is HWP. Personally, I wouldn't want to bulk up so much that I looked out of proportion for my height. I knew a guy in college who was not happy that he wasn't taller, so he bulked up a whole lot more than he should have - trying to look his best. Eventually he realized that looking wider was not as good as looking cut - and he corrected the situation and ended up looking terrific.
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