If you are physically unattractive, is there really a point to working out?

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    Feb 17, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    I understand working out can make you feel better and be healthier, but I am talking more about doing extreme workouts to make your body look great as opposed to just being in shape.

    Personally, I prefer the outdoors, sports, and running over the gym, but I will never get the results doing the activities I like doing. I think I am at that moment in my life where I think, what's the point? I highly doubt an 8 pack, biceps, and a built chest will compensate for my looks (and I am not getting any better looking as I age) ;)

    Maybe I need something new to motivate me in the gym, because the prospect of finding someone who finds me attractive is pretty much nil,
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    Feb 17, 2011 4:45 AM GMT
    Plenty of ugly guys work out at the gym. In fact, most of the guys at the gyms here in Hollywood/West Hollywood the guys have phenomenal bodies and horrifyingly ugly faces at the same time.

    You're face is definitely in the top 10% attractiveness category IMHO.
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    Feb 17, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    Are you fishing for compliments?
    I'm feeling generous, so I'll bite. You look handsome. You have a nice smile.

    As to your question, if you don't see the point in working towards an 8 pack or a rock hard chest, then don't do it. Spend time exercising (not necessarily at the gym) for your health. There are some things that people tend to forget when thinking about health. Muscle strength leads to bone strength, so spending time doing exercises that promote muscle strength is important. Make sure to stretch properly. Balance is an often-times ignored part of fitness.

    Oh yeah, and you can find plenty of profiles here and elsewhere with really fine bodies and no head shot. Ever wonder why? Some of them are ugly, but they still work on their bodies.
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    Feb 17, 2011 4:51 AM GMT
    a great body can often overcome a so so face at least for me Im more of a body guy than a face guy and there are others that appreciate the hard work a guy does to build muscles
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    Feb 17, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    Why not post a real picture of yourself so we can better judge.
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    Feb 17, 2011 4:59 AM GMT
    Well like I said, I love being active, playing sports, and running. Training for a couple of marathons and hope to do a triathlon soon.

    I have had bad experiences with the guys around my city, it was definitely based on looks. I even had a date come pick me up and as soon as he saw my face he said "No thanks" and walked away. Yeah that one burned...icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 17, 2011 5:38 AM GMT
    "Attractive" is in the eye of the beerholder.
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    Feb 17, 2011 7:54 AM GMT
    faceless saidI understand working out can make you feel better and be healthier, but I am talking more about doing extreme workouts to make your body look great as opposed to just being in shape.

    Personally, I prefer the outdoors, sports, and running over the gym, but I will never get the results doing the activities I like doing. I think I am at that moment in my life where I think, what's the point? I highly doubt an 8 pack, biceps, and a built chest will compensate for my looks (and I am not getting any better looking as I age) ;)

    Maybe I need something new to motivate me in the gym, because the prospect of finding someone who finds me attractive is pretty much nil,


    They is nothing wrong with you. I would be hard pressed to not call you friend. Best regards and hang in there ....David
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    Feb 17, 2011 7:58 AM GMT
    Surplus of either can out-weigh the other,
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    Feb 17, 2011 8:02 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI think the OP is "fishing."


    Perhaps, but a compliment is nice every once in a while.
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    Feb 17, 2011 8:08 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidPlenty of ugly guys work out at the gym. In fact, most of the guys at the gyms here in Hollywood/West Hollywood the guys have phenomenal bodies and horrifyingly ugly faces at the same time.

    You're face is definitely in the top 10% attractiveness category IMHO.




    I second this. not saying i'm pretty by any means....probably validating the point....anywho. I second this. hahaha
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    Feb 17, 2011 8:16 AM GMT
    Be happy with yourself and what you do. If you think you are ugly then others are gonna think that of you without fail. Be positive and be you.
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    Feb 17, 2011 8:29 AM GMT
    OK, so you aren't Carey Grant. Neither is 99.5% of all other guys. Most men grow into their looks through their 20's and 30's. Extreme work outs should be for the sports you play or I guess body building. Work on your body for yourself and your health not for anyone else. A nice body is sweet but no one does a repeats w/a beautiful but shallow and intellectually vacant dildo but who does "look marvelous". Those guys stay single forever.
    Good luck meeting your man bud.
  • thebigtwist

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    Feb 17, 2011 8:41 AM GMT
    I like bodies better than faces anyway. I wrote a literotica story about Hephaestus once that focused on that.
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    Feb 17, 2011 8:48 AM GMT
    The fact of the matter is, a guy with a nice body and an attractively challenged face is still likely to get play.
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    Feb 17, 2011 9:33 AM GMT
    faceless saidI understand working out can make you feel better and be healthier, but I am talking more about doing extreme workouts to make your body look great as opposed to just being in shape.

    Personally, I prefer the outdoors, sports, and running over the gym, but I will never get the results doing the activities I like doing. I think I am at that moment in my life where I think, what's the point? I highly doubt an 8 pack, biceps, and a built chest will compensate for my looks (and I am not getting any better looking as I age) ;)

    Maybe I need something new to motivate me in the gym, because the prospect of finding someone who finds me attractive is pretty much nil,


    THERE IS A POINT TO WORKING OUT and you don't have to do extreme stuff to look good. Your ramble is just an excuse not to be committed or consistent with you health and fitness, period.
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    Feb 17, 2011 9:33 AM GMT
    beneful1 saidWhy not post a real picture of yourself so we can better judge.


    ^ This


    You probably are not the cream of the crop, so you should focus on connecting with people on a mental and social level. You should also be a bit more optomistic, there are people out there who aren't looking for the pretty boys. They make them feel self-conscious. Many guys also want to be the pretty one anyways, it gives them more control in the relationship.

    Good luck, but I think you should start with an honest pic. Getting false compliments can't improve your self-esteem.

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    Feb 17, 2011 9:38 AM GMT
    Gym or cross-country workouts (including triathlons), whether extreme or moderate, will always be beneficial to one's health.
    When I started both gym workouts and cross-country running about two years ago, not only did I begin to lose weight but there was a big improvement on both body and facial appearance.
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    Feb 17, 2011 9:42 AM GMT
    How recent is that picture?...because you're definitely not 'physically unattractive' by any means. :/

    To answer your question though...you shouldn't work out to please other people...do it for yourself.
  • alphatop

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    Feb 17, 2011 10:36 AM GMT
    I think working out is something u do for yourself, not for somebody else. If u r not attractive to someone, that doesn't mean u cant be attractive to someone else. Besides, some people, such as myself, don't mind people who r not so beautiful, as long as they have brainicon_lol.gif
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    Feb 17, 2011 10:38 AM GMT
    To the OP - if you regularly play sports and run, you've probably got the cardio part of the equation taken care of, health wise. Still, I think there is something to be said for strength training. Even if you aren't striving for ripped abs or a massive chest, strength training will benefit you in ways that running and other, primarily cardio related activities can't. So yes, I encourage you to do the "extreme" workouts.

    And like a lot of the other guys, I think you are pretty damn good looking already.
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    Feb 17, 2011 11:43 AM GMT
    Yes.. a fit person is considerably more attractive
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    Feb 17, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    faceless saidI understand working out can make you feel better and be healthier, but I am talking more about doing extreme workouts to make your body look great as opposed to just being in shape.

    Personally, I prefer the outdoors, sports, and running over the gym, but I will never get the results doing the activities I like doing. I think I am at that moment in my life where I think, what's the point? I highly doubt an 8 pack, biceps, and a built chest will compensate for my looks (and I am not getting any better looking as I age) ;)

    Maybe I need something new to motivate me in the gym, because the prospect of finding someone who finds me attractive is pretty much nil,

    ok, I'm not following. Your pic and posting don't jive. What's up with this?

    If that's your pic and this is your post, then you're right. Nobody is going to like you cuz of your personality. It's very unattractive!
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    Feb 17, 2011 1:34 PM GMT
    Muscles are sexy, no denying that.

    Whether you want to work for them, or not, is up to you.

    The way your face looks really isn't a factor in the weight room.
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    Feb 17, 2011 2:13 PM GMT
    I never thought of myself as unattractive, but it seems like I am physically unattractive in the "gay world." I've been hit on by women and asked to go out by women, but never guys. I even established a profile on an online date site with no bites. I realize bitching about not looking good is unattractive in and of itself, but that is why I am expressing such an opinion online - I don't talk like this in person...just needed to vent.

    And again, I don't mind being physically active - I just don't like going to the gym. Plus the dieting is not fun either.

    Oh and the pic is me....I am verified.