Marriage Becoming Obsolete

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    Feb 17, 2011 10:58 PM GMT
    http://www.the-spearhead.com/2010/01/08/the-end-of-marriage-2/

    Are marriages becoming obsolete today? About 40% seem to think so. So perhaps gay marriage will become obsolete, too.

    My bf and I aren't into marriage at all. in my opinion marriage causes more problems than it's worth, so it's not something we would even want. I have no problems with gays marrying, if they want, but I think they will find that it will cause more problems just as it has among the str8's.
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    Feb 17, 2011 11:02 PM GMT
    I agree with you 100%. The desire to get gay married is simply putting too much energy towards the wrong fight.
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    Feb 18, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    I think marriage is a curse and gays should have no part in it, but each his own. If they want this curse, let them have it, but I can't understand anyone wanting marriage when they see what it does to str8's.
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    Feb 18, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    I really think marriage is like living in the stone age and can't imagine why gays even want this. I avoid it like the plague. haha.
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    Feb 18, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    Such a question begs that another question be asked: What is the true point/meaning/reason for marriage?
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    Feb 18, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    define marriage..
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    Feb 18, 2011 2:32 AM GMT
    Marriage is gay. icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 18, 2011 3:11 AM GMT
    It seems to me that gays aren't really looking to marrying, but it's more of the principle of the thing. It seems to me in a few years there won't be many marriages and this whole gay marriage issue will just fade away and it won't matter to anyone anymore whether they can marry or not.
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    Feb 18, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    Columbusite saidSuch a question begs that another question be asked: What is the true point/meaning/reason for marriage?


    It seems to be more of a custom than anything else and many are finding that it's a custom we can do without. Perhaps instead of seeking gay marriage rights, we should be seeking the abolition of marriage rather than living in the stone age.
  • Gaymer

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    Feb 18, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    Marriage did not exist in the stone age. Pairing of mates may have existed, but the institution of marriage did not. Marriage is not obsolete, nor will it ever be. It, as all social institutions, may face a period of time during which it must adapt and change to meet the needs of the societies that practice the institution, but that does not mean it will disappear.

    Just because there are so many stupid "Monogamy can't work for gays" threads on these forums doesn't mean jack. Yes, the divorce rate is at its highest rates, but we also have the largest population in quite a while. Simply proportionally, it is guaranteed that divorce numbers will go up.
  • danielek

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    Feb 18, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    Regardless of whether you think marriage works for you or not, it should have no bearing on what other people want to do with their own lives.

    What right do you have to tell anyone they can or can't get married, or that marriages should be abolished. No one is forcing you to have one.

    This thread reminds me of those gays who are deadset against gay marriage even more so than straights, which I have never understood.

    Marriage doesn't ruin peoples lives. People ruin peoples lives. If a marriage doesn't work, there is divorce. Nothing wrong with that.
  • joarky123

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    Feb 18, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    something that i posted in another forum topic:

    on a side note that i found rather interesting (somewhat related):

    http://www.fastcodesign.com/1663227/infographic-of-the-day-marriage-is-still-a-dying-institution

    The main point of the article above? That Marraige is a dying institution because people Fail to see its importance. This pretty much silences all those arguments from the far right conservatives who claim that allowing gays the right to marry erodes the institution of marraige. How can it when its already eroding away itself?!
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    Feb 18, 2011 4:01 AM GMT
    jockgymboy saidhttp://www.the-spearhead.com/2010/01/08/the-end-of-marriage-2/

    Are marriages becoming obsolete today? About 40% seem to think so. So perhaps gay marriage will become obsolete, too.

    My bf and I aren't into marriage at all. in my opinion marriage causes more problems than it's worth, so it's not something we would even want. I have no problems with gays marrying, if they want, but I think they will find that it will cause more problems just as it has among the str8's.



    To me, its a bit inscrutable to align the mechanics/dynamics' of Hetero Matrimony and place it on an equal footing with its counter-part of Homo Matrimony The construct of the two may render a healthy commonality, but since Homo marriage is not philosophically/socially treated on an equal -playing field,(most likely never will, to the Str8, Bi, and Mo alike), its arduous to have or attain sound judgment with the promptings people have with any given fortitude in the bonds' of marriage icon_exclaim.gif Gay and Str8 marriage has its own set of tapestry to either fail or withstand the trials of what got it going in the very first place, ( L O V E )
    Straight up.... . or gayly forward... . icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 18, 2011 4:51 AM GMT
    danielek saidRegardless of whether you think marriage works for you or not, it should have no bearing on what other people want to do with their own lives.

    What right do you have to tell anyone they can or can't get married, or that marriages should be abolished. No one is forcing you to have one.

    This thread reminds me of those gays who are deadset against gay marriage even more so than straights, which I have never understood.

    Marriage doesn't ruin peoples lives. People ruin peoples lives. If a marriage doesn't work, there is divorce. Nothing wrong with that.



    This ^

    And with that we can close this thread. Thanks.
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    Feb 18, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    *vomit aaaaalllllllll over this thread* - that is all

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    Feb 18, 2011 5:13 AM GMT
    I think a big part of the reason many same-sex couples want to get married is because of the legal advantages. You get a tax break, people and institutions can't (or it's harder to) disregard your relationship when doing business with you. I think the piece of paper has very little bearing on how real your relationship is, but as long as society gives perks to those who have it, it should be available to any couple who wants one, regardless of plumbing.

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    Feb 18, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    ROFL!
  • Celticmusl

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    Feb 18, 2011 5:29 AM GMT
    I think there is a correlation between less committed marriages/long term friendships and more suicides, stress disorders, incidences of depression, substance abuse, etc. The new society wants humans to be happy working robots that live well but have no emotions or moral conflicts, and I think a great many people are buying into it.

    I know I sound like a really bad episode of the twilight zone but everywhere I go it seems everyone wants to deny people the ability to feel or have an emotional response to life experiences.
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    Feb 18, 2011 5:33 AM GMT
    Celticmusl saidI think there is a correlation between less committed marriages/long term friendships and more suicides, stress disorders, incidences of depression, substance abuse, etc. The new society wants humans to be happy working robots that live well but have no emotions or moral conflicts, and I think a great many people are buying into it.

    I know I sound like a really bad episode of the twilight zone but everywhere I go it seems everyone wants to deny people the ability to feel or have an emotional response to life experiences.


    You clever guy. *blinks admiringly*

    -Doug
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    Feb 18, 2011 10:36 AM GMT
    jockgymboy saidhttp://www.the-spearhead.com/2010/01/08/the-end-of-marriage-2/

    Are marriages becoming obsolete today? About 40% seem to think so. So perhaps gay marriage will become obsolete, too.

    My bf and I aren't into marriage at all. in my opinion marriage causes more problems than it's worth, so it's not something we would even want. I have no problems with gays marrying, if they want, but I think they will find that it will cause more problems just as it has among the str8's.


    Well still be nice to have the right..!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • coolarmydude

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    Feb 18, 2011 11:35 AM GMT
    I disagree that marriage is becoming obsolete, at least in the US where you have a financial incentive (tax breaks/credits) to get married. There are many people in the military who get married solely for the financial perks that go with it.

    Marriage rates are decreasing, but that doesn't mean they're obsolete.