Are gay Marines big pussies when it comes to relationships?

  • manpit209

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    Feb 18, 2011 6:38 AM GMT
    I'm asking because there's guy who's very cruisey with me at the gym. I don't know if he's gay or not. I have been able to speak to him once but only to ask if he's using a station I wanted to use. I tried to use that as a conversation started to perhaps break the ice and get to know him. It didn't work since he just shook his head and walked away. The times that I have seen him, I've seen that he wore a shirt that says something about Marine Sniper Recruiter. I'm assuming that means he's a Marine.

    I've already talked to him even if it was super brief but that means that I know he exists. Wouldn't that prompt someone that I'm easy to talk to? I've already done it. I talked to my friends and some of them who have hooked up with a Marine told me that they have issues kissing or being intimate. So I guess maybe they just feel too masculine to talk to another dude that they may have an interest in. That's the only thing I can think of.

    I don't really know what to do at this point. I figure if I come across him next week, I need to make another move. I just find it frustrating that I make an effort and he's either too shy to respond or not interested and I'm misreading him.
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    Feb 18, 2011 10:16 AM GMT
    Not sure if all of them are big pussies, but I do know that they end up playing a lot of mental games with themselves in order to meet the demands of their career, and their work is not easy. Denial probably runs very deep. A couple USMC guys I've known have been very sweet and passionate about lots of things, just clueless about m4m anything except hardcore sex.

    It is definitely not cool to objectify him or act weird, or act sexually threatening or menacing in any way. But the interaction you describe probably gave you enough info to determine his interest level, and it doesn't sound like he was captivated by you at all, unfortunately. If you get more indifference next time you see him, maybe you'll want to abandon this mission and find someone else to focus on.
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    Feb 18, 2011 2:10 PM GMT
    No.
  • gallus81

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    Feb 18, 2011 2:15 PM GMT
    yalemarine saidNo.


    nope, not pussies; just freakin HOT!
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    Feb 18, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    manpit209 saidI'm asking because there's guy who's very cruisey with me at the gym. I don't know if he's gay or not. I have been able to speak to him once but only to ask if he's using a station I wanted to use. I tried to use that as a conversation started to perhaps break the ice and get to know him. It didn't work since he just shook his head and walked away. The times that I have seen him, I've seen that he wore a shirt that says something about Marine Sniper Recruiter. I'm assuming that means he's a Marine.

    I've already talked to him even if it was super brief but that means that I know he exists. Wouldn't that prompt someone that I'm easy to talk to? I've already done it. I talked to my friends and some of them who have hooked up with a Marine told me that they have issues kissing or being intimate. So I guess maybe they just feel too masculine to talk to another dude that they may have an interest in. That's the only thing I can think of.

    I don't really know what to do at this point. I figure if I come across him next week, I need to make another move. I just find it frustrating that I make an effort and he's either too shy to respond or not interested and I'm misreading him.


    Or you could just leave him alone and move on
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    Feb 18, 2011 2:33 PM GMT
    You dont even kno if he's gay.... You've jumped two steps ahead of yourself. The other could be maybe you got your signals crossed and what you percieve as cruising might be glimpses of ur wrkout routine and now wishful thinking on ur part.
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    Feb 18, 2011 2:43 PM GMT
    No, they're not big pussies--but they are BIG bottoms! Love them. Whooahh!!!
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Feb 18, 2011 4:09 PM GMT
    gallus81 said
    yalemarine saidNo.


    nope, not pussies; just freakin HOT!



    i hear u on this one their dress uniform is the best of all of them and they look great out of clothes also icon_twisted.gif
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    Feb 18, 2011 4:50 PM GMT
    Some people don't like to talk to anyone else at the gym. It is nice to workout in peace.
  • jaded57

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    Feb 18, 2011 4:52 PM GMT
    Marines are great hook ups. Anything other than that and they are just batshit crazy.
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    Feb 18, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    most of them shy away from relationships, but not family, so chicks have it easier with then getting into relationshionships, they just gotta get knocked up
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    Feb 18, 2011 5:22 PM GMT
    Blackguy4you said
    manpit209 saidI'm asking because there's guy who's very cruisey with me at the gym. I don't know if he's gay or not. I have been able to speak to him once but only to ask if he's using a station I wanted to use. I tried to use that as a conversation started to perhaps break the ice and get to know him. It didn't work since he just shook his head and walked away. The times that I have seen him, I've seen that he wore a shirt that says something about Marine Sniper Recruiter. I'm assuming that means he's a Marine.

    I've already talked to him even if it was super brief but that means that I know he exists. Wouldn't that prompt someone that I'm easy to talk to? I've already done it. I talked to my friends and some of them who have hooked up with a Marine told me that they have issues kissing or being intimate. So I guess maybe they just feel too masculine to talk to another dude that they may have an interest in. That's the only thing I can think of.

    I don't really know what to do at this point. I figure if I come across him next week, I need to make another move. I just find it frustrating that I make an effort and he's either too shy to respond or not interested and I'm misreading him.


    Or you could just leave him alone and move on


    DITTO.
    First of all, why are you so interested in him? Is he really that hot?
    Second, youre in the gym. Some guys dont want to be bothered/cruised when working out. I know I dont like being bothered.
    Concentrate on what youre really there for. Leave him alone.
  • mybud

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    Feb 18, 2011 5:54 PM GMT
    My opinion...if you need to plan or prod a guy..it's ain't worth my time....Listen...if he was indeed interested in ya...he would act...move on....head games lead to one night of fucking then endless nights of no calls...heartache...BUD
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    Feb 18, 2011 5:59 PM GMT
    The one Marine I was ever with was a hugely hung, muscle stud and great kisser. Blew me in a bathroom stall. One night he thought I was playing games with him because I wouldn't leave a club and go home with him. I would have eventually but I was having fun dancing. Never heard from him since.

    So since I have only one data point to reference, it wouldn't be fair to weigh in on this. But that's my Marine story.
  • FredMG

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    Feb 18, 2011 6:05 PM GMT
    Marine, Sailor, Airmen or Soldier doesn't dictate how one will act in a relationship. That behaviour comes from who they are as a person.

    One thing I'd say, is don't assume that someone is a millitary member because they wear a shirt. Just like wearing the shirt doesn't make you a New York Policeman or Fireman. Some guys do it to show honor to hereos, some guys do it to bask in reflected glory or a million other reasons.

    Being retired navy, I try and take it as a compliment when I see civillian (and all most all military guys can tell a civilian from a ex-military guy) sporting some kind of military bling. But really, those guys aren't fooling anyone.
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    Feb 18, 2011 6:21 PM GMT
    Are gay Marines big pussies?

    Why not go up to one and ask him? I'm sure he will give you a calm and thoughtful response.
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    Feb 18, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    You have talked to this guy once and you are calling him a pussies.
    You got some serious issues.
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    Feb 18, 2011 8:55 PM GMT
    mnboy saidYou have talked to this guy once and you are calling him a pussies.
    You got some serious issues.


    No, he asked him a simple query- one with only two possibly responses- Yes or No.
    Maybe next time ask him about his routine or his diet- people love talking about themselves.
    ...and no, a simple, "Hi/hey/hello, how's it going?" does not count.

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    Feb 18, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    You don't even know if he's gay or maybe he's just not that into you.
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    Feb 18, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
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    lol
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    Feb 18, 2011 9:27 PM GMT
    FightOn86 saidSome people don't like to talk to anyone else at the gym. It is nice to workout in peace.


    That or he is straight.
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    Feb 19, 2011 12:37 AM GMT
    jaded57 saidMarines are great hook ups. Anything other than that and they are just batshit crazy.



    QFT

    They are intense, and their lifestyle is so regimented that when they let loose, it's like Guys Gone Wild on steroids.

    So I admire them from a distance.

    But back to OP, you're not even sure he's gay! I mean when working out, his eyes are bound to look somewhere...

  • manpit209

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    Feb 19, 2011 12:47 AM GMT
    I only noticed him because he kept looking at me. He's not super hot but I don't like to just have someone keep looking at me. It's uncomfortable and to make it better, I think it'd be best if I just talk to the guy. If he's gay, cool. If not, cool too.I just want to stop the guessing and cat and mouse game here. Sorry if I offended anybody by my topic title. I was just frustrated. I respect Marines and they really help to let us have the freedoms we enjoy.
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Feb 19, 2011 12:51 AM GMT
    In my experience, anybody who advertises that they are/were a Marine, is not what most Marines would claim as one of their own.

    There's a price of admission to that experience, and respect, discretion, and willingness to understand the rules is part of it. It's steep, but in my opinion, well worth it.

    Pussies? Fuck no. Doing it on their terms? Fuck yes. And if you don't understand why, chances are you never will.

    Time and place for everything. When claimed or laying claim, nobody will honor you more, wear you out faster, and keep you guessing but claim you like first-found gold. He knows if you're interested. Trust me. The real deal is damned smart, and they know how to get what they want.

    If you're in it for real, then I strongly advise patience, great beer, exceptional red meat, and the shredding of all other agendas, lists, expectations or rules.

    If you're in it for sport - well...just don't. Respect.
  • manpit209

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    Feb 19, 2011 12:58 AM GMT
    MuscleComeBack saidIn my experience, anybody who advertises that they are/were a Marine, is not what most Marines would claim as one of their own.

    There's a price of admission to that experience, and respect, discretion, and willingness to understand the rules is part of it. It's steep, but in my opinion, well worth it.

    Pussies? Fuck no. Doing it on their terms? Fuck yes. And if you don't understand why, chances are you never will.

    Time and place for everything. When claimed or laying claim, nobody will honor you more, wear you out faster, and keep you guessing but claim you like first-found gold. He knows if you're interested. Trust me. The real deal is damned smart, and they know how to get what they want.

    If you're in it for real, then I strongly advise patience, great beer, exceptional red meat, and the shredding of all other agendas, lists, expectations or rules.

    If you're in it for sport - well...just don't. Respect.


    Thanks that's good advice. I have been fairly patient but I'll continue to do so. I believe he has patience but I just don't like dragging this out. I'm sure other people have been in my position. Being in the dark about this stuff makes me stressed out. Hopefully good things to come. As they say, patience is a virtue!!