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    Feb 19, 2011 1:15 PM GMT
    why do some people buddy list you when they've never even spoken to you!!??
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    Feb 19, 2011 1:45 PM GMT
    They same reason it's done in Elementry school thru High School......... They want to be POPULARicon_rolleyes.gif

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    Feb 19, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    divvy198509 saidwhy do some people buddy list you when they've never even spoken to you!!??


    I think it's something that has been going on since the beginning of RJ.....
    BUT, more importantly, how do YOU respond???
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    Feb 19, 2011 5:16 PM GMT
    I've had that happen as well. If I don't know them, I don't add them.
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    Feb 19, 2011 7:29 PM GMT
    Theyre desperate for attention. I have no tolerance for people like that.
    DELETE!
  • rioriz

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    Feb 19, 2011 7:33 PM GMT
    I question that often also...
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    Feb 19, 2011 7:34 PM GMT
    did you ask them ?
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    Feb 19, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    maybe they would like to talk to you but are too shy to say something first?
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    Feb 19, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    AdriantheRN saidmaybe they would like to talk to you but are too shy to say something first?

    ^ this
    I get it a lot.


    there ya go icon_smile.gif

    and maybe there's the headgame goin on with them too: "I wanna say hi, but i dont want him to think i'm being creepy/looking for sex/etc etc etc etc" and then it escalates. oh, human tendencies icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 19, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    AdriantheRN said
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    AdriantheRN saidmaybe they would like to talk to you but are too shy to say something first?

    ^ this
    I get it a lot.


    there ya go icon_smile.gif

    and maybe there's the headgame goin on with them too: "I wanna say hi, but i dont want him to think i'm being creepy/looking for sex/etc etc etc etc" and then it escalates. oh, human tendencies icon_smile.gif


    Really?
    This is the internet, what do they have to lose? I think its creepier if they dont talk to you and blist you, especially if they have no face pics.
    Seriously, a simple HELLO doesnt hurt. And get to know each other a bit before deciding if you want to be 'buddies.'
  • Glorfindel

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    Feb 19, 2011 8:31 PM GMT
    If they hotlist me, I'll send a reply thanking them for the hotlist. If they buddylist me, then... well... whatever. That's cool. icon_lol.gif If they want to chat with me, they're more than welcome to send me a message.

    Not on this site, but another one, I use the buddy list as a way to remind myself of people I want to message but either don't have the time to right then or I'm out of messages for the day. Luckily that one doesn't send them a message when I buddylist them. That would be awkward because I really do intend on sending them a message and I don't want them to think I'm too lazy to actually write a message. icon_sad.gif But maybe that's what guys on here use the buddylist for... as a way to keep someone on their mind to message eventually. Or maybe they're using it as a wink (though hotlisting would be more to the point).

    So all in all... who knows. haha
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    Feb 19, 2011 8:40 PM GMT
    I usually buddy list people who are the same height and body structure as me to use as inspiration to get in shape...if they can do it so can I is my philosophy. Of course I have sent most of them some sort or correspondence, and they are usually cool about it.

    Take it as a compliment, we can all do with some now and then...icon_biggrin.gif
  • roadbikeRob

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    Feb 19, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    I am thankful to anyone who buddy lists me regardless of whether or not I know them.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Feb 19, 2011 8:43 PM GMT
    One can never have to many buddies whether online or in real life, but of course if they are bad friends kick them to the curb. - Ryan
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    Feb 19, 2011 8:58 PM GMT
    Mixleanmachine saidOne can never have to many buddies whether online or in real life, but of course if they are bad friends kick them to the curb. - Ryan


    And thats why people should get to know each other first because that the deciding factor.
    We're relying too much on the internet to establish relationships for us, so the etiquette for social interaction declines. Thats actually a little scary. We're beginning to lose a very valuable aspect of being human.
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    Feb 19, 2011 9:01 PM GMT
    I honestly don't see it as a big deal because it's just a website. People add random people on MySpace, Facebook, etc. Why should it be any different on RJ or any other gay social networking website.? icon_idea.gif
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    Feb 19, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    TheLetterD saidI honestly don't see it as a big deal because it's just a website. People add random people on MySpace, Facebook, etc. Why should it be any different on RJ or any other gay social networking website.? icon_idea.gif


    Real jock does not fit in the same category as Facebook and Myspace.

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    Feb 19, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    Lenoxx said
    TheLetterD saidI honestly don't see it as a big deal because it's just a website. People add random people on MySpace, Facebook, etc. Why should it be any different on RJ or any other gay social networking website.? icon_idea.gif


    Real jock does not fit in the same category as Facebook and Myspace.


    It's just a niche social networking website about gay fitness health and life. But it's still a social networking website all the same.
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    Feb 19, 2011 10:52 PM GMT
    Yeah I stopped caring after awhile. ....doesn't bother me
  • momewrath

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    Feb 19, 2011 11:11 PM GMT
    divvy198509 saidwhy do some people buddy list you when they've never even spoken to you!!??


    One time it was because I was rather drunk and clicked on the wrong button. That's pretty much the only time I ever did it.
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    Feb 20, 2011 12:44 AM GMT
    Most of the people that buddy-list me don't ever talk to me. And ironically the guys that I talk to the most on here aren't even on my buddy or hot lists (nor am I on theirs).

    I don't really get the point of buddy lists

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    Feb 20, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    Gbob saidMost of the people that buddy-list me don't ever talk to me. And ironically the guys that I talk to the most on here aren't even on my buddy or hot lists (nor am I on theirs).

    I don't really get the point of buddy lists



    same, its so pointless
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    Feb 20, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    I'm with Gigolo all the way, when there has been NO correspondence, then why the hell would i be ur buddy?? I just delete the email telling me they listed me, i think that means they are still my buddy, but it doesnt fuss me, its not like ill go and spend my afternoon, deleting people that have buddy listed me.

    Im kinda laid back with these things, but just thought it rather odd, or maybe in the UK, we're just used to people saying 'hello' to u first before they claim to be ur friend.
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    Feb 20, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    They think it's a Facebook friend request.

    "You look cool! LET'S BE FRIENDS!!!!! *buddylist*"
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    Feb 20, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    divvy198509 saidI'm with Gigolo all the way, when there has been NO correspondence, then why the hell would i be ur buddy?? I just delete the email telling me they listed me, i think that means they are still my buddy, but it doesnt fuss me, its not like ill go and spend my afternoon, deleting people that have buddy listed me.

    Im kinda laid back with these things, but just thought it rather odd, or maybe in the UK, we're just used to people saying 'hello' to u first before they claim to be ur friend.


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