Relationship Panic?

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    Feb 20, 2011 12:06 AM GMT
    I reconnected with an old flame a few monthes ago. Went to visit him for the holidays. Since then, we've been trying the long distance thing, until I can relocate to Chicago. He is crazy sexy, smart, sweet natured, we share a lot of the same general goals, morals, etc.. The physical connection is intense.. The sex is Landmark! And because of the long distance deal, we talk & text often. I care about him, but I feel like he talks a little too much about how I'm on his mind, how he misses me. I think we have a lot of potential together; I just get this sense of panic sometimes, like maybe I can't catch my breath..

    I don't know if I'm getting a warning sign about this potential/relationship, or if I maybe have undercover commitment issues?
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    Feb 20, 2011 12:10 AM GMT
    everyone should be so lucky...said the jewish grandmother....count your blessings and quit the deer in the headlight stuff...................Keithicon_wink.gif
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    Feb 20, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    You can't catch your breath because you're exhilarated and may well be in love. It's a great feeling. Enjoy it and roll the dice. Personally, I think nothing is more reassuring and heartwarming than getting tens of "I miss you" and "I love you" messages from the person with whom you're in love.
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    Feb 20, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
    I think you may have some undercover commitment issues, but nothing serious.

    Try this:

    Imagine two hands pressed against each other equally. One pushes. The other recedes. Push back in a particular and equal way. Declare your feelings for him, to him, in equal strength. His need is sated. You discover how deep your feelings are by validating them with self expression. icon_wink.gif


    It's a long distance relationship. Declarations of love and missing each other is partly what you make do with.
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    Feb 22, 2011 3:41 AM GMT
    meninlove said it best...

    dude, my parnter and I talk/text often. We even tell each other when we're leaving the office during the evening and text good morning messages during the day. Is that bad? No! Think about it this way, what would you say to someone living in the same home as you during the day? if you remind them how much you care, trust me,it means more.

    Talk to him and let him know you care. You may want to revisit previous feelings or commitment issues help, too.

    Mike
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Feb 22, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    An old flame? Have you dated the guy before? If so what went wrong? Why do you have commitment issues have you been in a serious relationship before? Why would you be scared to commit?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 22, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    Sounds like alot has happened pretty fast and your talking about big changes in your life. Perhaps you just need a little time to put it all in perspective.
  • danisnotstr8

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    Feb 22, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    Stay away from him, he's MINE
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Feb 22, 2011 3:51 AM GMT
    The guy above me sounds I dunno.. Crazy? Is that him? Or are you guys both fighting for the same man?