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    Feb 20, 2011 6:27 AM GMT
    I'm probably going to get blasted for this but I don't really give a damn! And believe me, I've done my 'whoring' days to be sure.

    *I am speaking strictly in regards to the gay male community only!

    I was having a conversation with one of my best friends about sex this evening, as we were driving back from a party, and how a number of gay men have little respect for the beauty and intimacy that is sex. I mean, I've talked with and/or met SO many gay men who won't even date a guy if they don't put out after the first or second date! When did another gay man become nothing more than sex object to be used for sexual purposes only and if they don't fulfill that need, are subsequently tossed to the side? How can we scream and shout from the rooftops for respect when we, as a community, don't, at times, treat and see our fellow peers as human beings worthy of respect, compassion, and fairness? I understand that as men we have needs, but still. I think it's absolutely disgusting the way so many gay men treat other gay men as nothing more than a piece of ass; a piece of meat that is only good for, and made for, sex.
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    Feb 20, 2011 6:38 AM GMT
    you're right. I dont think people are gonna hate on you for just acknowledging the truth about the attitude that many gay men have toward sex. I don't think you have to be madly in love with someone, but you should at least be friends.
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    Feb 20, 2011 6:42 AM GMT
    Social Conditioning and Media Brainwashing. Also if you hear something enough whether it is true or not you will begin to believe it and even perpetuate it. The Cycle can be broken with each generation, by practicing cherishing intimate emotional relationships over physically fulfilling ones until it becomes a normal day to day habit. Essentially one needs to entrain themselves from their current habits and work on improving the kind of relationship you want to have, instead of the one you don't want to have.

    I truly don't believe gay men are more promiscuous necessarily. It's a stereotype. Stereotypes can change because people can change. One first has to change their thinking.
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    Feb 20, 2011 6:42 AM GMT
    Broad strokes my friend and you know everyone doesn't feel that way. I believe we attract certain ppl in our lives. Ask yourself how your meeting so many men w/ the same outlook and where it is your meeting them.
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    Feb 20, 2011 6:45 AM GMT
    Hillie saidBroad strokes my friend and you know everyone doesn't feel that way. I believe we attract certain ppl in our lives. Ask yourself how your meeting so many men w/ the same outlook and where it is your meeting them.


    Ooohhhh quoted for truth!
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    Feb 20, 2011 6:57 AM GMT
    Columbusite saidI'm probably going to get blasted for this but I don't really give a damn! And believe me, I've done my 'whoring' days to be sure.

    *I am speaking strictly in regards to the gay male community only!

    I was having a conversation with one of my best friends about sex this evening, as we were driving back from a party, and how a number of gay men have little respect for the beauty and intimacy that is sex. I mean, I've talked with and/or met SO many gay men who won't even date a guy if they don't put out after the first or second date! When did another gay man become nothing more than sex object to be used for sexual purposes only and if they don't fulfill that need, are subsequently tossed to the side? How can we scream and shout from the rooftops for respect when we, as a community, don't, at times, treat and see our fellow peers as human beings worthy of respect, compassion, and fairness? I understand that as men we have needs, but still. I think it's absolutely disgusting the way so many gay men treat other gay men as nothing more than a piece of ass; a piece of meat that is only good for, and made for, sex.


    I could not agree with you more Columbusite. This question you asked brought a smile to my face and for good reason. It is a philosophy drenched in obvious wisdom.

    How can we scream and shout from the rooftops for respect when we, as a community, don't, at times, treat and see our fellow peers as human beings worthy of respect, compassion, and fairness?

    Looking at your post you are by far more than a descent Gay man. I commend you for this post and would like to see more like it. If ever there is a man of the Year you are my first choice. The gay culture is a diverse one unfortunately and no 2 are the same. I would say if more people followed your train of thought there would be more couples and less hookups and hence a better world. I would not worry too much about being slammed as this is a site where you are dammed if you do and dammed if you don't.
    Although saying that you have had your whoring days might not work in your favor.



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    Feb 20, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    Thanks for all your responses. I wasn't trying to sound high and mighty or anything like that; I just wanted to express what I've seen and heard too many times. And I guess I'm just sick of hearing about how some friends and people I know have been treated by seemingly decent men. I do understand that there are broad strokes and that men have certain needs and so on and sometimes forget to take those into account.

    Be well.
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    Feb 20, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    ya know, it takes two to tango....................Keithicon_wink.gif
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    Feb 21, 2011 7:07 AM GMT
    I don't see it so much as a disrespect for the intimacy and beauty of sex between men. It is more about expectations and those expectations not being communicated on either side. Sometimes a booty call or hook up is just that, no matter how hot the sex is. And then the whole Friends with Benefits or Sex Buddies....If the people involved in these liason's are clear about their intentions and expectations, I don't see the problem. However, how many guys do you know that can clearly articulate what it is he wants and doesn't want or expect? Honesty in communication is an art sorely lacking. Just an observation.
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    Feb 21, 2011 7:30 AM GMT
    because we all wish we were looked upon as an object of sexual desire.

    and as for the proverbial "gay male community" , has it been yet clearly defined ?
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    Feb 21, 2011 7:33 AM GMT
    What's wrong with sport fucking? Seems like a pretty intimate way to get to know a guy. icon_lol.gif

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    Feb 21, 2011 3:14 PM GMT
    "How can we scream and shout from the rooftops for respect when we, as a community, don't, at times, treat and see our fellow peers as human beings worthy of respect, compassion, and fairness?"


    Respect, compassion and fairness DOES exist among the promiscuous and not promiscuous single guys, those in open relationships, those that are in monogamous ones, and those in polyandrous ones. The trick is meeting them, because they don't wear identifying pins, lol. Every demographic also has their jerks, their shallow flakes, their unkind and cruel ones in varying numbers. Some demographics will have more of them than others.

    Here's a hug, always good at any time *hug*

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    Feb 21, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    It's a fallacy to assume that because gay men want sex, they don't respect other gay men.

    There's a kernel of truth somewhere in there.
    I think gay men might objectivize other men when pursuing their lust because, for one reason or another, they don't want to feel intimate with the other man.

    Straight men have been doing this for years. It's called a strip club.