TheChupacabra said"timmytwister" I have several things for you,
1st: It is very rude for you to judge the character of this man by assuming that he would even hook up with him after just meeting. Just because a man is gay does not automatically mean he can not be in a relationship with someone. That fallacy is what is conducive from your foremost comment.
2nd: For you to make the generalization about all men on all planes is a fallacy. You have no data to support that extreme conclusion, so for you to make that statement and then tell someone to just "move on" is unmerited. If you have nothing encouraging to add to this thread, then kindly refrain from commenting. The truth is you can find the man of your dreams ANYWHERE (plane, train, school, etc.).
3rd: We are not yet in a time where everyone can be completely open. Please do not create a complex against people who are gay and have not come out on the same level you feel is right for them.
Thanks for your comments! However, I had hit the sack so I didn't see your post until now.
I'm sorry you were so offended by what I said, but I think your outrage was an overreaction.
I don't judge the character of a person who would "hook up after just meeting." That's evidently YOUR judgement, not mine. I don't devalue people who "hook up"; and that wasn't my point at all. My point was that it is unrealistic to think any kind of LTR is going to happen from a chance meeting of a fellow airline traveller. Certainly not impossible, but highly unlikely.
You also commented "just because a man is gay does not automatically mean he can not be in a relationship with someone." I agree completely, and I never suggested otherwise.
(your) 2nd:"For you to make the generalization about all men on all planes is a fallacy."
Again, that sounds like you think I was JUDGING airline travellers. I was not. But the mathematical reality is that 2 random passengers are highly unlikely to live in the same geographic area; making a LTR simply unrealistic.
You also commented that telling someone to "move on" is unmerited. I wasn't ORDERING anyone to do anything. Advice is just that... advice. If someone is in the market for a serious relationship (which seems to be the case with shadow9667) I happen to feel it's more pragmatic to focus on finding a guy who is close to home and shares one's values, rather than dreaming of running into Prince Charming in the friendly skies
But after all, I'm not offended if someone chooses to not take my advice - I don't always take the advice of others, myself!
I see you're quite new to RJ.. welcome! But if you think my comments were offensive, you're in for a rude awakening! I am a meek kitten compared to many RJ members, who truly have a "take-no-prisoners" approach... God bless their brutal little hearts!!
(your) 3rd: "Please do not create a complex against people who are gay and have not come out".
That's the trouble with internet conversations: TONE is eradicated. It seems like you are assuming I was accusing the OP of being a shameful closet-case. Again, not at all; I was just curious to know a little background about him. I know full well the danger some people can face for being out, particularly in some parts of the world. I've been a victim of homophobia and marginalization, like many gays. Ever had your face shoved into a chain-link fence? I have. It's not fun.
And as you may have noticed, after the OP stated that in his society being gay is unacceptable, I offered this thought:"I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes we forget how lucky we are in North America. I think you'll find RJ a real source of encouragement and support. Take care."
So, again, Chupacabra, welcome to RJ.. and I'm sorry if you think I was cruel to "shadow9667". I wish him the best, as I do for you. Sometimes we project ourselves in what we hear or read... since you saw my comments as judgemental, maybe you've had to deal with being attacked by judgemental people. I hope that's not the case - there's enough hate in the world.