I'm blinded by love but is he really straight like he says?

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    Feb 22, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    We are both in our early twenties my homie/coworker use to do things that made me think that he was in to me. I came out and told him that I was attracted to him. He responded that he was straight but that we were still cool. Things are different now and sometimes awkward. He moved me closer to his office and now he have me do a lot of his work for him when he can't do it he's my supervisor but there are other workers but he only ask me. Two time he ask me to drop off paper work at the main office for him. I'm always helping him out and he always asking. At the same time he been super nice to me. I'm confused is he using me because he know I'm in love with him. Does he really want to remain my friend am I wishing for more?
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    Feb 22, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    To me, it sounds like this guy is taking advantage of you. What has he done for you besides make you do more work???
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    Feb 22, 2011 3:56 AM GMT
    It could appear that he is using you but at the same time it could be that he knows you'll do the work and is satisfied with the quality of your work. Your first mistake was having feelings for someone who has authority over you and THEN letting them know it. Big mistake on your part.

    he's a friend and you like him and he knows it. Through his eyes he might be doing you a favor with the work he gives you and setting you up for friendship. How does he act outside the work place? if you feel this is a problem then confront him about but just be prepared how you approach the situation and how you respond. It might blow up in your face.
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    Feb 22, 2011 4:08 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidIt could appear that he is using you but at the same time it could be that he knows you'll do the work and is satisfied with the quality of your work. Your first mistake was having feelings for someone who has authority over you and THEN letting them know it. Big mistake on your part.

    he's a friend and you like him and he knows it. Through his eyes he might be doing you a favor with the work he gives you and setting you up for friendship. How does he act outside the work place? if you feel this is a problem then confront him about but just be prepared how you approach the situation and how you respond. It might blow up in your face.


    +1

    I agree... he may also be setting you up to replace him when both he and you are promoted... you just never know. Sometimes you do assign more work to the person who you trust most in your team. It serves a grooming purpose and gets the work done.
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    Feb 22, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidIt could appear that he is using you but at the same time it could be that he knows you'll do the work and is satisfied with the quality of your work. Your first mistake was having feelings for someone who has authority over you and THEN letting them know it. Big mistake on your part.

    he's a friend and you like him and he knows it. Through his eyes he might be doing you a favor with the work he gives you and setting you up for friendship. How does he act outside the work place? if you feel this is a problem then confront him about but just be prepared how you approach the situation and how you respond. It might blow up in your face.


    A little correction to my statement:

    "Through his eyes he might be doing you a favor with the work he gives you and setting you up for success."

    Also at the same it seems you are getting all the work while everyone else isn't. That could be viewed as a negative way since it seems like you are working all the time or it could be viewed as you getting the upper hand on your coworkers. I'm sure they might've noticed you getting the work and they are left with nothing on their plate. I don't know what you do but I say take advantage of him and get all the work and experience you can out of it. It's practically free and it doesn't seem like you have yo work too hard to get it.

    Blessings are often in disguise. On one hand, he's a friend who knows you are gay and that you like him and on the other he's a fellow co-worker/boss who knows you like him. It doesn't seem to bother him either and it's not like he's blackmailing you into doing the work that you would normally be doing anyway.
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    Feb 22, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidIt could appear that he is using you but at the same time it could be that he knows you'll do the work and is satisfied with the quality of your work.


    Couldn't have said it better myself.
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    Feb 22, 2011 6:31 AM GMT
    Paul1987 saidWe are both in our early twenties my homie/coworker use to do things that made me think that he was in to me. I came out and told him that I was attracted to him. He responded that he was straight but that we were still cool. Things are different now and sometimes awkward. He moved me closer to his office and now he have me do a lot of his work for him when he can't do it he's my supervisor but there are other workers but he only ask me. Two time he ask me to drop off paper work at the main office for him. I'm always helping him out and he always asking. At the same time he been super nice to me. I'm confused is he using me because he know I'm in love with him. Does he really want to remain my friend am I wishing for more?
    he is not using you because you and he is not into you. i think you need to try and get over him because it can come back and bite you in the ass
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    Feb 22, 2011 7:06 AM GMT
    What's a homie?
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    Feb 22, 2011 11:16 AM GMT
    "I'm blinded by love but is he really straight like he says?"


    Yes, yes, oh God yes (exhausted tone of voice, not humping).


    The forums should get a sticky for this stuff:

    Yes, he is straight - move on.
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    Feb 22, 2011 1:17 PM GMT
    Paul1987 said... is he using me because he know I'm in love with him.
    Yes.
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    Feb 22, 2011 1:19 PM GMT
    pre_mortem saidThe forums should get a sticky for this stuff:

    Yes, he is straight - move on.
    No shit! icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 22, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    icon_lol.gif Sounds like he is taking advantage of you.... maybe you can exchange droping off his paperwork for a blowjob? ;-)
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    Feb 22, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
    Ooooo you've positioned yourself in a rather precarious position..I think its time you start to tell him that you're tied with your own paperwork...If he does delegate to other people then your problem of him taking advantage should subside....

    Remember help your supervisor out whenever you can but don't compromise your own work. If the problem persists, you should have a frank talk with him (outside of work) or maybe with HR

    However be aware that he might be trying to set you up for a better position..Some people are like that, they punish you in order for you to be successful..... icon_confused.gif