Do you add to your buddy and hot list why or why not

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    Feb 22, 2011 9:23 AM GMT
    do you add to your buddy and hot list why or why not
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    Feb 22, 2011 1:11 PM GMT
    I don't add anyone to my hot list because even though I find a lot of the guys on here physically attractive, I believe that there are certain aspects that are 'hot' about other guys for which I can't tell, because I haven't met them -- so I feel it's unfair and to an extent superficial to just base it on looks alone. Also, if I put certain guys on my hot list and I talk to a really nice guy, I would sort of feel pressured to put him on my hot list because by not doing so, it's kinda saying that he's not 'hot' (even if i didn't find him physically attractive). That is my mentality towards it.

    I buddy-list people when they buddy-list me but to be honest I don't really understand the buddy-list system. Ironically, the people that I talk to the most aren't even on my buddy list.

    I know it seems like I won't give unless I receive sort of thing; it's really not the case. When I like someone and feel that they can be a potential friend I will definitely email them and see where it goes from there. In my opinion, messaging someone is much better than a hot or a buddy list.

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    Feb 22, 2011 1:34 PM GMT
    Oh for crying out loud!!!


    Some of you put waay too much emphasis on hot listing! It's more like an approving glance at a guy on the street or in a restaurant.
    Just because you look and approve doesn't mean you want to jump his bones!

    There are some aspects of guys on here that I find physically attractive: a great pair of abs, pecs or legs....and they may have an butt-ugly face or chicken-legs!!

    It's just a website, guys. Not Dr Fucking Phil! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 22, 2011 2:00 PM GMT
    Yeah, what Studly said.

    Most of the people I put on my hotlist I wouldn't expect to be dating-compatible with anyways.

    I buddy list anybody that I want to remember for future chatting.
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    Feb 22, 2011 2:03 PM GMT
    I've heard some here insinuate that to be "buddy listed" is a 2nd ... meaning that it's a "runner up" to being on ones "hotlist".

    I think the buddy list is important because somebody may be really interested in getting to know you. I add to both, but not frequently.
  • owen19832006

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    Feb 22, 2011 2:06 PM GMT
    never added anyone just yet
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    Feb 22, 2011 2:06 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI've heard some here insinuate that to be "buddy listed" is a 2nd ... meaning that it's a "runner up" to being on ones "hotlist".

    I think the buddy list is important because somebody may be really interested in getting to know you. I add to both, but not frequently.
    Whoever insinuated that is probably just thinking of themselves.
    If you're on my buddy list that actually means I care enough to talk to you, if I add you to my hotlist and don't message you it means I'd probably fuck you but I'm not interested enough to talk to you. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 22, 2011 2:06 PM GMT
    HOTLIST is for someone I think looks hot.
    BUDDYLIST is for someone I've contacted and who has written back.
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    Feb 22, 2011 2:24 PM GMT
    _Anthony1920 saiddo you add to your buddy and hot list why or why not
    Yes and no. Because I either want to or I don't want to.
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    Feb 22, 2011 2:31 PM GMT


    I started putting people on my hot list but realized this is kind of dumb. The reason is that so many guys are hot on this site, my list would be endless and meaningless.

    I find the buddy thing a political situation. Buddies make it sound like you know each other well but many times you don't. If someone buddies me, I have to buddy them for them to claim me as a buddy. I have done this without knowing much about the person, to be friendly. So I have buddies I don't really know that come out of the blue. If I really got to know someone and we became friends, I might buddy them.
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    Feb 22, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
    I make additions when appropriate. The guys on each of my lists already know why they are listed there.
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    Feb 22, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    if a guy looks hot or says something that makes him hot then i add him. sometimes i see a hot guy but forget to add him. i think it all comes down to whether i remember to click on that damn link or not. not that complicated. sounds like people see it as a science.
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    Feb 22, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidsometimes i see a hot guy but forget to add him. i think it all comes down to whether i remember to click on that damn link or not.


    Oh, so that explains it.
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    Feb 22, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    AvadaKedavra saidsometimes i see a hot guy but forget to add him. i think it all comes down to whether i remember to click on that damn link or not.


    Oh, so that explains it.


    explains what
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    Feb 22, 2011 4:20 PM GMT
    It's just a quick way to give someone a compliment IMO when you hot list them. Buddy list should be your buddies. People are to uptight about shit. Just take the compliment if they hot list you.
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    Feb 22, 2011 4:21 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidexplains what


    That you forgot to hotlist me.
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    Feb 22, 2011 4:24 PM GMT
    I haven't added to my hot list since my first day here on RJ. If I added everyone I thought was hot, it would take up way too much of my time! Plus if I really think someone is hot, I prefer to strike up a conversation or tell them personally that they are hot, rather than the generic "you are hot" message from RJ.

    I add people to my buddy list though, if they are my buddy. If I have engaged in some sort of conversation with someone, then a lot of the times I will add them. Sometimes I forget though and if they don't add me, we are just never mutual friends because I have had conversations with a lot more people than are in my buddy list.

    And for the buddy list being the "runner up" to the hot list, that isn't true in my case. Some of the guys I think are the hottest I have come across in RJ are on my buddy list. icon_wink.gif But there would be more if the other hotties replied to my emails...
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    Feb 22, 2011 4:41 PM GMT
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    AvadaKedavra saidexplains what


    That you forgot to hotlist me.
    ooo gurl he tryna sass you!
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    Feb 22, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    i rarely ever search profiles on here unless I'm intrigued by a forum topic or posting. Occassionally, I'll glance at those peoples hot list and bamm...I find one. So, my hot list and buddy list are short.
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    Feb 22, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    No - I don't judge and I can remember who my buddies are. Though hot- and buddy-listing may be great ways to meet members and open dialogues by not doing it no one (or everyone) is offended and I'm not a slave to the button.
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    Feb 22, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    I buddy list people I correspond with only occasionally so they may not be in my current msg lists - rather than search out the profile I can find them in my buddy list.
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    Feb 22, 2011 7:20 PM GMT

    I ONLY add guys to my Buddy List who I have had communication with.
    As far as the Hot List goes.... anybody is fair game...especially if you have a pit shot on your profile.... icon_lol.gif
  • gymlocker

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    Feb 22, 2011 10:52 PM GMT
    If a guy's hot and one or the other of us communicates that, I add him.
    If a guy communicates regularly, he gets buddy listed.
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    Feb 22, 2011 11:28 PM GMT
    I have no one on my hotlist and few on my buddylist and I know the same goes to me being on someone's/ hot/buddy list.

    The Hotlist: I only add people who I find physically and mentally attractive based upon their profile. Lots of people look hot but some personalities and mental states are a total turn off so I don't bother adding them. Plus the Hotlist is sort of a "tell-tell" sign of who a person likes and what they mostly go for (in my opinion). Since I actually read profiles and see their lists, once I figure that out I determine whether it's worth it or not. Most times it isn't based upon what most guys like in others. I usually stay away from guys with a ridiculous amount of guys on their hotlist. I'm not a trophy and I usually block people who just randomly add me to that list. Read my profile...it's legit.

    The Buddylist: As the name implies, someone I can call a buddy. The chemistry is there and we click well enough to engage in talking. Someone I want to stay in contact with and who will want to stay in contact with me. Someone who I can respect and will respect me basically. Not that complicated. It usually starts when I notice something about them and it's usually through the threads. I'll send a message and from there whatever happens happens. I show people the amount respect they give in return and I never just add someone without asking or letting them know "Hey I'd like to be a bud". That's just me though.

    I wish there was a way you could deactivate the hotlist/buddylist thing so people couldn't add you or at least hide it so people couldn't see it.
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    Feb 23, 2011 5:07 AM GMT
    Thanks fourmers. To answer all the questions in one swip I add people to my hot list because they have physical qualities that make the hot, you dont need to be really handsome to be on my hot list. Fyi even the handsome guys have not so good looking features and, guys that may or may not get a second glance still have good looking features, others may not think so but look at most guys on here with high profile cameras even they arent flawless