Question about profile pictures?

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    Feb 22, 2011 12:47 PM GMT
    If you're closeted and have profile pics up, that are visible for everyone to see... Do you ever worry that someone from your town or that you know might see them and out you? I've been wanting to put my profile pic. up for a while now and take it off private, but I'm afraid I'l get outed.
  • Bunjamon

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    Feb 22, 2011 1:06 PM GMT
    That's an unrealistic fear. People in your town aren't trawling the internet looking for people to out. But if you're really paranoid, you can keep face pictures in your private pictures and unlock them for everyone you talk to.
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    Feb 22, 2011 1:12 PM GMT
    Put up your pics.
    Then look at the top of your page and click "preferences."
    Then click the button that says "Allow only members who are signed in to the RealJock site to view my profile."

    Problem solved. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 22, 2011 1:13 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidThat's an unrealistic fear. People in your town aren't trawling the internet looking for people to out. But if you're really paranoid, you can keep face pictures in your private pictures and unlock them for everyone you talk to.


    Yeah, that's what I currently do, I'm always the one one that has to initiate a convo with someone else, no one will ever start ne with me because my pics are all locked.
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    Feb 22, 2011 1:30 PM GMT
    Dude I'm not exactly open about my bisexuality...However I've continued to keep my location status in Toronto. If you see what sort results are Karachi guys on rj, you'd be inclined to keep your location somewhere else. Besides I'm all about fitness, voicing my views and developing friendship . Once I return to T.O things might be different but for now I stand here with my face 'open' to view lol

  • Bunjamon

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    Feb 22, 2011 1:37 PM GMT
    HotCollegeDude said
    Bunjamon saidThat's an unrealistic fear. People in your town aren't trawling the internet looking for people to out. But if you're really paranoid, you can keep face pictures in your private pictures and unlock them for everyone you talk to.


    Yeah, that's what I currently do, I'm always the one one that has to initiate a convo with someone else, no one will ever start ne with me because my pics are all locked.


    That's what you do with all your pictures, not just face pictures, which is why no one initiates a conversation with you. I agree with paulflexes, if only RJ members can see your pictures, at least if someone in your area recognizes your picture he'll be gay too and probably respect your privacy.
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    Feb 22, 2011 1:57 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidDude I'm not exactly open about my bisexuality...However I've continued to keep my location status in Toronto. If you see what sort results are Karachi guys on rj, you'd be inclined to keep your location somewhere else. Besides I'm all about fitness, voicing my views and developing friendship . Once I return to T.O things might be different but for now I stand here with my face 'open' to view lol

    I'm sorry, but what are Karachi guys? lol
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    Feb 22, 2011 3:06 PM GMT
    I wrestled with this issue for a long time because I'm also not completely out. I finally decided to put up a couple of face pictures just because I kept getting requests from guys to unlock my private photos and I got tired of it. I also did what some guys on here suggest, which is to allow only members who are signed in to the RealJock site to view my profile. I think that adds a level of privacy and protection.
  • Bunjamon

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    Feb 22, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    FunCollegeDude said
    Fivealive saidDude I'm not exactly open about my bisexuality...However I've continued to keep my location status in Toronto. If you see what sort results are Karachi guys on rj, you'd be inclined to keep your location somewhere else. Besides I'm all about fitness, voicing my views and developing friendship . Once I return to T.O things might be different but for now I stand here with my face 'open' to view lol

    I'm sorry, but what are Karachi guys? lol


    Guys who live in Karachi, a city in Pakistan.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 22, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    I think we all have to live our lives in ways we are comfortable. If you are not comfortable with your photo on RJ, don't put it on or you can always do a "torso shot" if it still bothers you.

    Sure, could clients, people who know me (and don't know.. or need to know my sexuality) find out? Probably, but I came to the conclusion a long time ago that it was important to live my life my way, not to worry about "what ifs"
    or to lead my life for someone else. I'm proud of who I am, I'm a productive and responsible person and if someone "finds out" I'm on RJ and announces it.. I feel it is really more about them than me... and I'm happy to be here.
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    Feb 22, 2011 4:15 PM GMT
    My profile picture isn't a face pic , i am out everywhere , but at work for good reasons .....
    I keep face pics and others in the private section of the photos , and when asked to unlock , i oblige ...
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    Feb 22, 2011 7:31 PM GMT
    FunCollegeDude said
    Bunjamon saidThat's an unrealistic fear. People in your town aren't trawling the internet looking for people to out. But if you're really paranoid, you can keep face pictures in your private pictures and unlock them for everyone you talk to.


    Yeah, that's what I currently do, I'm always the one one that has to initiate a convo with someone else, no one will ever start ne with me because my pics are all locked.


    It might help if you say in your profile that your face pic is in Private...
    I've chatted with several guys who show NO profile pics, but have their face pics in Private...that really shouldn't deter too many guys from contacting you.
    Unless, of course, they're too lazy to ask....
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    Feb 22, 2011 7:52 PM GMT
    You live in the US. You're not in the military. Being outed is not going to risk your safety or your job.

    Do what you think is best for you. Regardless what you do, some people are here to help and some are here to criticize. Regardless.

    Eventually you'll come to realize that the closet is a bigger deal for you than it is for anyone else.
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    Feb 22, 2011 11:43 PM GMT
    My profile is also set to "Signed in Members Only".