I think we all have to live our lives in ways we are comfortable. If you are not comfortable with your photo on RJ, don't put it on or you can always do a "torso shot" if it still bothers you.
Sure, could clients, people who know me (and don't know.. or need to know my sexuality) find out? Probably, but I came to the conclusion a long time ago that it was important to live my life my way, not to worry about "what ifs"
or to lead my life for someone else. I'm proud of who I am, I'm a productive and responsible person and if someone "finds out" I'm on RJ and announces it.. I feel it is really more about them than me... and I'm happy to be here.