should i tell my psychologist, I'm gay?

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    Feb 22, 2011 6:53 PM GMT
    Would it be wise to my psychologist that I'm homosexual? I been considering it, but I don't know how she would react and I don't need anymore drama in my mess up life. I been seeing her for about three weeks now, and I think that I would get better mentally if I told her. Since that way, we could talk about all of the things that has been bothering me and my "issues".
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    Feb 22, 2011 6:55 PM GMT
    if it bothers her, then shes not a very good psychologist and you need a new one. if it doesnt bother her, then shes great
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    Feb 22, 2011 7:07 PM GMT
    I told a psychologist in my teens that I was gay, he said "oh no, you're not gay."

    II also said to my guardian "I think I am manic depressive (the term for bipolar at the time, as we understood it). He responded "oh no, you;'re not manic."


    So I tend to have a certain specticism about psychologists.


    (I was eventually diagnosed Bipolar, andhad clearly struggled with it all my life.


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    Feb 22, 2011 7:09 PM GMT
    By all means, tell her... how can she help you with anything without knowing the most fundamental "stuff" in your life??
    If she has a problem with it...she wouldn't never be much use to you anyway.
    I would find it totally wrong for her not to accept it....
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    Feb 22, 2011 7:09 PM GMT
    sure, if you think it will help you out. remember this is about you, not her.
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    Feb 22, 2011 7:38 PM GMT
    yes, tell her/him.

    I told my psychologist after the 3rd visit. It will allow him/her to help u cope with whatever issues u are dealing with.

    She's a psychologist, she hears crazier things than whether whos gay or not. dont even worry about it.
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    Feb 22, 2011 7:53 PM GMT
    cromiel34 saidif it bothers her, then shes not a very good psychologist and you need a new one. if it doesnt bother her, then shes great

    I agree. [To the OP] Your being gay is an important fact a psychologist needs to know. If she has a problem with that, and certainly if she says that your BEING gay is any part of your problem that needs to be corrected, then you're lucky to have learned that early-on in your therapy so you can dump her.

    And BTW, you might question her. Does she have a problem with you being gay, and remaining gay? Has she worked with other gay men before? All fair questions, that will help you to judge whether she's the best therapist for you.

    I do not know what issue brings you to her, nor do I want to know. Even in Mobile I would think there must be some gay psychologists, or psychologists who often work with gay men, if she doesn't pan out for you.
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    Feb 22, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    Yes.

    What good is it to hold things back from your psychologist? By all means, tell her.

    If she has an issue with your sexuality, she is not a very good psychologist and quite unprofessional.
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    Feb 22, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    Tell her. It's something she needs to know. It probably won't even phase her. If it upsets her (?!?) -- which I can't imagine -- then you need a new therapist.
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    Feb 22, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    these are the absolute most loving responses ive ever seen on here icon_wink.gif good job guys
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    honestly, what is to say he doesnt already know? It is totally about HOW you ask someone something and not WHAT you ask them.

    I came out to mine, and he was happy for me. The funny thing was I obtained a copy of his notes for an evaluation and I read some of the notes he wrote. icon_eek.gif he didnt make any judgments but he did make notes that I apparently questioned romantic interest. HAHAHahaha....so apparently he was asking the right questions.

    Looking back 10 years, I now see some of the 2+2=GAY and I laugh. I wasnt ever obvious but some things really pointed to the fact that I wasnt wasting my time trying to impress girls. My religious upbringing is probably the only thing that kept me from exploring any other possibilities.

    oh yea, and if your going to tell her, use a less technical term than homosexual, it makes you sound like a republican politician..LOL
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:07 AM GMT
    YEEEES!
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:08 AM GMT
    Yes, otherwise you are just wasting your money by not being fully honest with her...
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:15 AM GMT
    no, she'll think youre crazy
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    I am in my last year of training to be a psychologist.

    By all means, yes, you should tell her. I'm not going to bore you with details... but it's clearly important to you. And if it's important to you - then by nature, it is important to her doing her job correctly. Tell her! :-)

    She will be accepting and will ask you questions... but just tell her how you feel about disclosing this.... it will be a good thing.

    Any Psychologist who is professional and who practices according to the APA (American Psychological Association) guidelines will practice therapy that is gay affirmative. Plain and simple.
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidno, she'll think youre crazy


    huh?! you scare me...

    When i had to gom back in my teens when my parents were getting divorced the shrink asked for a solo session and she asked me straight up... if she can't see it yet after three (guessing 1 session/week) sessions you haven't been talking about what's bothering you. and the fast that you posted that says that it's part of the reason your there.

    snd if she can't deal, she shouldn't be doing that job, Unless it's that she's been comming on to you... then that's a diffrent issue.
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
    i think you should if it will help you to open up to her my parents made me go to one after i came out mostly to help them understand or to turn me straight.
  • justarunner

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    Feb 23, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    Tell her, Tell her , Tell Him/her !! It will help to bring out future issues or concerns and not feel as if you need to mask your stories icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
    depending on what you're talking about(and since you're seeing a psychologist, it probably deals with emotions and how you "feel"-i've been to one or two) That should be one of the first things covered when you meet a psychologist.
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    cromiel34 saidthese are the absolute most loving responses ive ever seen on here icon_wink.gif good job guys


    You are just adorable!!! icon_smile.gif

    To the OP, tell them if it's something you feel they should know about...as the overwhelming number of psychiatrists and psychologists believe that our sexual orientation is something we were programmed with at birth, I think you'll find that they will not treat you any different, and it may make it easier to share things in your private life that you normally hide.
  • Syphon

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    Feb 23, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    Yes, if it doesn't go over well, get a new one.
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    you should without a doubt tell her..i told mine and it went well its what their there for and its gunna help make you feel better cause your gunna talk about it
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    Such an easy question to answer - YES, tell her.
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:48 AM GMT
    bahaha my high school guidance counselor told me i was gay, inadvertantly, before i was ever able to admit it to myself. she was awesome, really supportive.
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    Feb 23, 2011 4:52 AM GMT
    lmfao........ really.... ?

    YES!!