How to put yourself "out" there...

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    Feb 23, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    So I have this dilemma. The dilemma being that I live in a part of the country that isn't entirely cool with being gay, as a result, my chances of actually meeting and engaging with likeminded individuals is slim. I've been doing this online thing for a while, and it also kind of sucks. The idea that you can really get to know someone based on the 500 words in their profile and their hotlist is ludicrous and when/if you do meet someone who is cool there is an 89% chance that they live too far away for it to actually go anywhere or they aren't who they say they are. Now that I'm done venting at my disappointment...haha.

    How do you guys put yourselves out there in social situations, in order to meet guys without the risk of getting decked in the face because you just asked a dude if he was gay...you know what I mean? This whole "be lonely till you move" thing sucks as well. Any advice?
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    Feb 23, 2011 7:34 AM GMT
    I would have thought Tallahassee would have some gay bars, a gay organization, a gay sports group, gay support group, or gay social group. But in a search of things gay in Tallahassee there was absolutely nothing. Very sad for a city that is a state capital and has a population of 200,000. My suggestion is move.
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    Feb 23, 2011 7:37 AM GMT
    Focus on your education then get out just as fast as you can.

    Or hang around a deal with closet-cases.


    In the meantime look for men in similar situations. You can find emotional intimacy while you do your time in Tallahassee, even if you might not find someone to share physical intimacy.
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    Feb 23, 2011 7:49 AM GMT
    Ermine is right when he says focus on your education and get out. Looking at your profile, you say you will be finished with your masters by the end of the year. That is only ten more months and then you have your whole life ahead of you. In the meantime until you can get out of there, stick around here on RJ when you need a gay social scene.
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    Feb 23, 2011 8:04 AM GMT
    Wait you live in Florida..
    Not okay with gays.
    Ft. Lauderdale?

    The international circuit parties..
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    Feb 23, 2011 8:24 AM GMT
    cauzaseen saidSo I have this dilemma. The dilemma being that I live in a part of the country that isn't entirely cool with being gay, as a result, my chances of actually meeting and engaging with likeminded individuals is slim. I've been doing this online thing for a while, and it also kind of sucks. The idea that you can really get to know someone based on the 500 words in their profile and their hotlist is ludicrous and when/if you do meet someone who is cool there is an 89% chance that they live too far away for it to actually go anywhere or they aren't who they say they are. Now that I'm done venting at my disappointment...haha.

    How do you guys put yourselves out there in social situations, in order to meet guys without the risk of getting decked in the face because you just asked a dude if he was gay...you know what I mean? This whole "be lonely till you move" thing sucks as well. Any advice?


    That was off the hook ! 'Decked in the face?'I say, if you wanna quench your thirst while you're counting the days til' lift-off from Shit-city, where scooping out variables could leave you in a world of hurt, keep the virtual connection alive. Like you are doing now. You know, if thats' all you got. Imagine being born a few decades earlier, rather than what fate settled out for you. icon_eek.gifWhile you solidify your masters', its' liable to be good for you anyway. Time has a tendency to hurry itself along, especially in your last terms' .. . You'll be ready to sound thee 'ole clear and roll out before you know it icon_idea.gificon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 23, 2011 8:27 AM GMT
    mnboy saidWait you live in Florida..
    Not okay with gays.
    Ft. Lauderdale?

    The international circuit parties..


    South Florda and the panhandle are two completely different worlds.