How should I deal with this bitch at work?

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    Feb 23, 2011 9:16 PM GMT
    I started working in my current position four months ago. Everyone is great except this one cunt, who seems to have had it in for me since the beginning.

    She gives me dirty looks when we pass eachother, will not speak to me unless I say something first, and is just totally rude and unprofessional. Considering the bitch has seniority here after three years, I've tried to play it really cool and remain calm/professional....but she's really starting to get on my nerves.

    I share an office with another guy and she's constantly coming in and rattling her mouth about some bull shit while I'm trying to work. It's like she's trying to push my buttons.

    Thankfully, I don't work directly with her, but I need some advice here.
  • Webster666

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    Feb 23, 2011 9:41 PM GMT
    "Hi.
    Can I talk to you for a minute ?
    I know I'm new here; and I seem to get along well with everybody here.
    But, I can't help but notice that you seem to have a problem with me.
    Would you mind telling me what it is ?"
    --All said with a smile.

    If she denies it, call her on it.
    Tell her what she has been saying and doing around you.

    If she still won't cooperate, go to your boss and ask for advice.


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    Feb 23, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    I'm not so sure that approach is going to be effective. First of all, she has a very good relationship with upper management and going to one of them would just make me seem petty and trivial.

    I'm just going to focus on work and ignore this bitch.
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    Feb 23, 2011 10:20 PM GMT
    The_Austonian saidI'm not so sure that approach is going to be effective. First of all, she has a very good relationship with upper management and going to one of them would just make me seem petty and trivial.

    I'm just going to focus on work and ignore this bitch.


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    Feb 23, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    Focusing on work and ignoring her is the best think you can do. Deal with her in a professional, courteous and respectful manner. It takes two to make a fight and your being polite and courteous to her will drive her nuts.
  • TheIStrat

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    Feb 24, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    cold saidDefinitely take a dump in her shoes.


    But do it professionally
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    Feb 24, 2011 1:15 AM GMT
    kill her. Thats what I do when some one bothers me icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 24, 2011 1:17 AM GMT
    dekiruman saidkill her. Thats what I do when some one bothers me icon_smile.gif
    Then serve her remains at the next company BBQ. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 24, 2011 1:17 AM GMT
    antelope saidFocusing on work and ignoring her is the best think you can do. Deal with her in a professional, courteous and respectful manner. It takes two to make a fight and your being polite and courteous to her will drive her nuts.


    This^^^. You are there to work. Doesn't matter if you get along with everyone. Just do your job. If you have to interact with this woman to do your job, be courteous and professional. If she is just generally being an annoying and obnoxious office rat, tune her out and focus on your work. When she comes in and starts running off with the mouth, just say "excuse me but i'm trying to work on something. i can be with you in a moment if you need to speak with me." Then get back to work.
  • Syphon

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    Feb 24, 2011 1:24 AM GMT
    I'm sure she'll get fucked and come off her rag eventually. Just tough it out until then.
  • iowaguy000

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    Feb 24, 2011 1:24 AM GMT
    Ask her how her day/weekend/whatever is. What is she doing this weekend. Pay attention to her. When she stops by, is she talking to you or the other guy? Kill her with kindness.
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    Feb 24, 2011 1:26 AM GMT
    HR.
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    Feb 24, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    As the saying goes....

    Kill her with kindness.



    You watch....she'll be your fag hag by summer.
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    Feb 24, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    LeanathleticDC saidAs the saying goes....

    Kill her with kindness.



    You watch....she'll be your fag hag by summer.


    i laughed, hard
  • inmidair

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    Feb 24, 2011 1:36 AM GMT
    I had a situation like this at work for a long time. I don't know what the guy's problem was, but he always gave me evil face and never spoke to me, even if I passed him in the hall and said "good morning" or "excuse me" or whatever. Meanwhile, he would come talk to his crony who sat next to me all the time, and they'd be all snarky and gossipy and too cool for school. After a year of this, I just started ignoring him, and didn't let him affect my day. And one of my friends at work eventually confided in me that 'everyone' thought he was an asshole, when I thought it was directed just at me.

    Can you listen to music with headphones at your work? It would be an excellent way of shutting her out of your world and focusing on the work at hand, and of course people can always tap you on the shoulder or whatever if they need you.

    (Secret advice: if you can, try to position yourself so that you can see the door or entrance so it doesn't feel like people are sneaking up on you all the time. icon_wink.gif )
  • barriehomeboy

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    Feb 24, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    Invite her to lunch and get a couple of drinks into her. When she starts talking you'll find out that you look just like an ex husband or some other shit. Chics are fucked in the head. Something is bothering her. By becoming her friend you'll be a lot happier at work than by letting her turn you into her enemy.
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    Feb 24, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    typical sick fuck shit from RJ members....personally i'd boil her pet rabbit on her stove, shit in her shoes and piss in her purse, but over a period of time you understand..................Keithicon_wink.gif
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    Feb 24, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    I have to agree with the guys saying ignore her and do your job. There will always be assholes and bitches in every workplace. Might as well learn how to deal with them now. If it escalates be sure to document and take it to HR if it ets out of hand.
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    Feb 24, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    It's obviously a corporate environment, and she's got something against you. There are two choices, talk to her about it (confrontation) or find out what her beef is with you.

    Maybe she's afraid that her seniority means nothing. Maybe you took a position she or someone she knew wanted.

    Either way, she's trying to play a Game of Office Politics with you, that if someone actually listens to her, may end up causing negative things to happen for you.

    I sugguest also speaking with your Manager or Supervisor, as eventually it may effect your job performance.
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    Feb 24, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    mnboy saidHR.


    Ooh lets repeat that;

    H.R.


    And play the Discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation card. That'l Cut that bitch.
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    Feb 24, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    gigolo, yer so evil and cunty.............icon_lol.gifKeith
  • tuffguyndc

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    Feb 24, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    here is what i do to people like that. i avoid at all cost. i do not speak to them unless they speak to me. when she comes into your office act as if you do not notice her. dude, if she isn't your supervisor then you owe her nothing.
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    Feb 24, 2011 2:17 AM GMT
    Haha funny responses. If I killed everyone who got on my nerves I'd have sacks of rotting corpses under my house. And that wouldn't be very pleasant.

    Did I mention that I have an office with a nice desk and she's still in a cubicle? I thought that may be a contributing factor to the animosity.

    She's also a borderline midget, fat, and not very attractive, which is completely opposite of me. Her job isn't threatened because she works in content distribution while I'm an analyst.

    God, I really have to restrain myself from giving this bitch a good tongue lashing (no, not that kind :-D). Who knows, maybe that's why she's such a bitch, cuz she can't get her cunt licked???

    Hahaha
  • rebelbeard

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    Feb 24, 2011 2:32 AM GMT
    The best way to handle this is act like she does not exist. Have a good time with other coworkers. Just laugh and joke around (professionally of course) so she can see that you are a nice and fun person and that her snarky attitude does not affect you. Do not pay her any attention.

    When you speak to her be short, but really friendly. If you see someone you know when you are done speaking to her just walk away and chat with them and disregard her.

    It's a really strange mind game to play but it usually shuts down people like that. When they see they are just being disregarded and have no affect on you they will normally leave you alone. I have done this to several people in the workplace and the bar as well.
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    Feb 24, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
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