Sex drive

  • alphatop

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    Feb 26, 2011 3:29 AM GMT
    Here's the thing - recently my sex drive is totally not working, or it's slowing down. I am not interested in sex, not even masturbation. The other night I went home with this guy, and had sex with him, but didn't enjoy it, not a bit....Last night I was at gay Friday night in this club, and couple of guys tried to hit it off, but I wasn't interested, not even that much to flirt.
    I realised that I prefer being single, rather than in relationship ...somehow, all this gay lifestyle is geting me down, and I don't enjoy it as I used to. It might sound weird, but I find women more attractive and more desireable now. Also, beside my best ( male and str8 ) friend, all of my other friends are women, as I tend to built better relationships with them, in terms of trust and respect. Girls gets me better than guys, and I feel inspired in their company, and more relaxed. Am I turning the whole circle of being gay, so I am str8 again? icon_eek.gificon_confused.gif .
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    does it really matter if your with a male or female ? make love to whoever makes u happy and turns u on...
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    AntoNomad saidHere's the thing - recently my sex drive is totally not working, or it's slowing down. I am not interested in sex, not even masturbation. The other night I went home with this guy, and had sex with him, but didn't enjoy it, not a bit....Last night I was at gay Friday night in this club, and couple of guys tried to hit it off, but I wasn't interested, not even that much to flirt.
    I realised that I prefer being single, rather than in relationship ...somehow, all this gay lifestyle is geting me down, and I don't enjoy it as I used to. It might sound weird, but I find women more attractive and more desireable now. Also, beside my best ( male and str8 ) friend, all of my other friends are women, as I tend to built better relationships with them, in terms of trust and respect. Girls gets me better than guys, and I feel inspired in their company, and more relaxed. Am I turning the whole circle of being gay, so I am str8 again? icon_eek.gificon_confused.gif .


    You may never have been gay in the first place and are just beginning to realize this now.
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    Sexuality is very fluid....you may actually be Bi...
    Stress can kill sex drive, any thing can stress you to, so can health issues.....simple or undiagnosed.....get a check with your DR...if it really bothers you.....don't worry, it places more stress on you to perform....
  • alphatop

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    Feb 26, 2011 3:51 AM GMT
    Thanks, guysicon_wink.gif
  • Webster666

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    Feb 26, 2011 3:57 AM GMT
    My gaydar says you're 100% gay.

    I've gotten to the point where I don't enjoy going out to gay bars or sex clubs, anymore. And, I used to love it. And, my sex drive has really gone down. As far as finding a life partner, I just don't care anymore. It's too much work. I'm happy alone.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    You're becoming a lesbian.
  • alphatop

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    Feb 26, 2011 4:39 AM GMT
    DOMINUS saidYou're becoming a lesbian.


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    Like that time when Miss. Garison (South Park) realised, after sex change, that she is really, actually, a man? icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    I feel your heart brotha or sista! Allow yourself time to discover the things you want out of life on your own! It's never too late to save your life from physical abuse and misguided guilt. I have been abstinent for almost 7 years now and the road has only been difficult because I failed to look for a replacement. Now I know... The replacement is brotherhood and it works by finding at least one mentor you can trust... JUST ONE!!!! Someday, they will look right into your soul and you will be so afraid because your escape devices like physical pleasure won't be enough to answer the BIG QUESTION... "why so much pain?". Don't do like me though and run away because I am learning there are people that were sent to us by God. You won't forever be without sex but, you will learn to appreciate the difference between sex and love by separating the two, for your own sake and for his.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    Many gay guys have mainly girl friends. But it doesn't mean they are straight. Maybe chill out with the sex for a while, then see what turns you on sexually. Simple enough?
  • alphatop

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    Feb 26, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    KSUOWL saidMany gay guys have mainly girl friends. But it doesn't mean they are straight. Maybe chill out with the sex for a while, then see what turns you on sexually. Simple enough?


    Yes, but I had sex with girls few months ago, after a decade or so...I don't really care if I am going to be called gay or bi or whatever...I realised many years ago than I am just sexual being, and whomever attracks me, I'll go for it. I am saying, however, that guys don't attrack me that much anymore, and that my sex drive is going down the hill, in case of both sexes... On second tought, you might be right, I should chill out a bit, in a sexual way, see where it goes...Thanksicon_cool.gif
  • massbuildah

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    Feb 26, 2011 2:02 PM GMT
    AntoNomad said
    KSUOWL saidMany gay guys have mainly girl friends. But it doesn't mean they are straight. Maybe chill out with the sex for a while, then see what turns you on sexually. Simple enough?


    Yes, but I had sex with girls few months ago, after a decade or so...I don't really care if I am going to be called gay or bi or whatever...I realised many years ago than I am just sexual being, and whomever attracks me, I'll go for it. I am saying, however, that guys don't attrack me that much anymore, and that my sex drive is going down the hill, in case of both sexes... On second tought, you might be right, I should chill out a bit, in a sexual way, see where it goes...Thanksicon_cool.gif



    Definitely sounds like you just need a break from things, going out,gay life, etc. Chill out, hang out with friends, focus on other things that interest you whether it's reading, lifting, staying in touch with friends or work, whatever... chill out, destress and at some point, BAM that sex drive is going to kick back in big time and you'll be with whomever you feel like at the time, guy or girl and you'll be completely refreshed.
    Relax, bro and enjoy it.
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    Feb 26, 2011 2:06 PM GMT
    YOu just may be not experiencing the sexual tension around women that you feel around men...and men around you. You may be looking just for some companionship.
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    Feb 26, 2011 2:42 PM GMT
    Your profile says you are on Prozac and or Zoloft. Both of these drugs change sex drives over time. My neighbor also on Zoloft lost her drive but talked to her doctor and was able to switch to a different drug. Heard the other night some squeals when I was in the backyard! LOL. I think it worked.
  • LJay

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    Feb 26, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    Yes, definitely check out the influence of any regular medications with your doctor AND with your pharmacist. Often the pharmacist will know better than the doctor.