So Much Easier

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    Feb 26, 2011 7:19 AM GMT

    Realizing how very difficult it is to not be completely open. I get so frustrated with the fact that every time I go out I always meet some perfectly sweet cute girl that likes me. Its not that I am not flattered, its just that I feel bad because I just kind of let them sit there flirting and trying to get my attention. I guess it would just be so much easier to be 100% open.

    Do you have the same problem? WHether your out or closeted or in the process do you find that girls seem to be really attracted to you?

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    Feb 26, 2011 7:30 AM GMT
    Ever been in a gay bar and hit on by women....bizzare.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    What's interesting about that is...I started to notice more girls checking me out after I started to come out of the closet. I appreciate their non verbal compliments but I just don't acknowledge them because I don't want to give them the false perception that I am interested in girls. I also thought it to be kind of weird that I started to notice more and more women checking me out. I had to ask myself... When I was in the closet did I intentionally make myself oblivious to the nonverbal signals of females? Or was I just not attractive because I didn't accept myself for who I really was?
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    dimensiontraveler saidWhat's interesting about that is...I started to notice more girls checking me out after I started to come out of the closet. I appreciate their non verbal compliments but I just don't acknowledge them because I don't want to give them the false perception that I am interested in girls. I also thought it to be kind of weird that I started to notice more and more women checking me out. I had to ask myself... When I was in the closet did I intentionally make myself oblivious to the nonverbal signals of females? Or was I just not attractive because I didn't accept myself for who I really was?


    Interesting thread. I am starting notice this too. Usually, it involves a coy smile or suggestive comments from girls. I think it has partly to do with both-accepting yourself more and attunning to what's going on around you, rather than being self-conscious from being in the closet. The more you look at your surrounding, the more you appear confident and calm, which are good qualities that others look for in a potential partner icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 26, 2011 9:28 PM GMT
    I flirt back if they're hot, and if they're really sexy I bone them.
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    Feb 26, 2011 9:41 PM GMT
    I feel your frustration. I've met so many women who would be "marriage material". Pretty, great personality, smart, in-shape, and overall a joy to be around. They would be a perfect match for me. If I were straight, these type of girls probably wouldn't give me the time of day because they'd see my interest in them, whereas my lack of interest draws them more into me.

    Women...icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 27, 2011 2:53 AM GMT
    thanks for the responses guys, good to see others deal with the same things. It just kinda makes me feel bad because they try so hard sometimes. I need to find a way to reverse this charm to attract all the perfect guys icon_lol.gif