my ex

  • Noah_b87

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    Feb 26, 2011 8:29 AM GMT
    so i need to vent

    so me and my ex broke up about a month and a half ago. i broke up with him, but we're still fuck buddies. i knew he had a new boyfriend but i didn't care. well today we were talking about our new1s and now i feel like shit. he replaced me with a fat older guy. im 23. hes 21. today he told me that his new man is 45. when we first began fooling around 3weeks after the break up he told me his new boyfriend was 20. and now to find out that hes 45 just gets to me. i dont know why but it made me feel worthles. as if im so easily replaceable with a 45yr old. a 45yr old fat hairy guy. dont get me wrong i know im not fine.

    thanks for reading this i needed to vent to someone

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    Feb 26, 2011 8:36 AM GMT
    Maybe the fat, hairy 45yo has great qualities as a man that make it possible for your ex to overlook such disgraceful physical attributesicon_rolleyes.gif
  • Noah_b87

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    Feb 26, 2011 8:45 AM GMT
    dont misjudge me from my post im a nice guy. and im all for love.. but my ex is the guy i thought that i could see myself with for the long run. when he started creeping i ended it. when he wanted to keep his options open i ended it. then when i found out that the guy i was so lost in love with is with an ugly older guy i just got, well.... i dont know how to explain it i just feel so. i dont think i'll ever find that infamous ONE.
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    Feb 26, 2011 2:38 PM GMT
    Maybe the "ugly older guy" has more money.
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:36 PM GMT
    dude, it seems you're still in sort of the same situation. boyfriend was creeping, you dumped him. now he's creeping, you're still seeing him. he wanted to keep his options open and has got what he wanted, so the boyfriend seems to be the winner in this scenario.
    looks aren't everything.
  • rnch

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    Feb 26, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
    your ex is your ex for a reason.
  • Riahtherockst...

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    Feb 26, 2011 3:55 PM GMT
    Seriously?

    I think the situation is plain and simple... you broke up with a guy and can't deal with the fact that he is seeing someone new. Why does it matter if he is 20, 45, or 80? It still isn't you and from the looks of the situation... it will never be.

    I think a major thorn in the relationship is that you value the construct of monogamy. Making it seem like it is impossible to love someone if you and him are not monogamous and he thinks differently. You weren't able to work out these differences and thus the relationship ended.

    And I guess if I had to wonder... maybe your ex is less shallow than you. Maybe it is because I'm not a model but it seems like a majority of guys on this site are obsessed with appearances.... this guy he is with now is possibly a really great guy... I think you are just upset because he isn't you.

    And if that is the case you need to get over it, because it was your choice to end it and instead of moving on completely you kept strings attached thus opening yourself to more hurt.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    Well maybe your ex is just lonely and needed a person by his side? After all, he was the one that was dumped. Usually the rebound relationship is worse, because you just try to grab any avail guy to be by your side to escape the feeling of emptiness. Don't read too much into it as a blow to your self esteem, try to see it as a way that your ex is dealing with a broken heart and feelings of loneliness.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:19 PM GMT
    Hmmm I just read all the posts and I had a change of opinion.

    It sounds like you made the right choice to dump his ass. Forget about him and move on. Life is too short and you should do only those things that will bring you happiness. Don't see him anymore. Who cares about his 45yo new BF and who cares about his creeping around. YOUR happiness is the most important thing so don't dwell on it anymore. Rise above it and move on.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:22 PM GMT
    Grammar!
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    Feb 26, 2011 5:06 PM GMT
    OP, I think you need to reconsider this whole situation and make better decisions.

    1. He has a bf (and it appears you do too), and he is still sleeping with you. And neither of you seem to think that's wrong and messed up.
    2. You think someone is better than the other person just because of their younger age.
    3. You said you are the one who broke up with him but you are obviously stuck up on him. Why did you break up with him if you weren't ready to let go of him?


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    Feb 26, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    Some older men are crazy hot. I would know, I've only dated guys in their 40s. Plus they have stability and maturity that you can't find with a 23 year old.
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    Feb 26, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    When I was 34, my 41 yo ex replaced me with a 24yo... it happens. You guys are young, move on. Being a FB with your ex while he is seeing someone else is messed up though... Possibility of future drama, YA THINK?

    Can't wait to read about the next chapter.
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    Feb 26, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    Noah_b87 saidso i need to vent

    so me and my ex broke up about a month and a half ago. i broke up with him, but we're still fuck buddies. i knew he had a new boyfriend but i didn't care. well today we were talking about our new1s and now i feel like shit. he replaced me with a fat older guy. im 23. hes 21. today he told me that his new man is 45. when we first began fooling around 3weeks after the break up he told me his new boyfriend was 20. and now to find out that hes 45 just gets to me. i dont know why but it made me feel worthles. as if im so easily replaceable with a 45yr old. a 45yr old fat hairy guy. dont get me wrong i know im not fine.

    thanks for reading this i needed to vent to someone



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    Feb 26, 2011 5:33 PM GMT
    u did the right muthafucking thing by ending it.

    Go let him be with his 45 year old fat man icon_rolleyes.gif
    I mean honestly, I dunno what a 21 year old and a 45 year old would have in common, but whatever. I wouldn't let it make u feel like shit.
    Look at it as if he did u a favor, you're rid of him. You're rid of his negative energy.
    Try not to sweat it too much man, it sounds like he's just not ready to committ.

    Why are u still fuck buddies with him? U ended it, so break it off, stop playing games and fucking around. Just stop seeing him .

    Go let him fuck his 45 year old man, i dunnno
  • SuperDad

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    Feb 26, 2011 5:38 PM GMT
    Hey sorry about your bf.. I feel Ur pain man!! I turned 40 and most of the emails and messages I get on here are from guys under 23 - sucks! Lol. Don't feel worthless, a over 40 years old man also have great qualities and remember - you one day is going to be 45 y.o and perhaps U r going to feel even hotter than when U were 23 - stop having sex with Ur ex - my two cents icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 26, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    Well why do you care so much if you broke up with him?
    I
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    Feb 26, 2011 6:53 PM GMT
    he sound like a waste of time but it seems like you have hidden motives in your fuck buddy relationship
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    Feb 26, 2011 6:59 PM GMT
    Noah_b87 saidso i need to vent

    so me and my ex broke up about a month and a half ago. i broke up with him, but we're still fuck buddies. i knew he had a new boyfriend but i didn't care. well today we were talking about our new1s and now i feel like shit. he replaced me with a fat older guy. im 23. hes 21. today he told me that his new man is 45. when we first began fooling around 3weeks after the break up he told me his new boyfriend was 20. and now to find out that hes 45 just gets to me. i dont know why but it made me feel worthles. as if im so easily replaceable with a 45yr old. a 45yr old fat hairy guy. dont get me wrong i know im not fine.

    thanks for reading this i needed to vent to someone




    You're too young to "feel" worthless.....let alone he is a double dickwad.... 1st for cheating on his new boyfriend and 2nd telling you his new bf was 45.

    At this point.....you are 2 notches above him in the totem pole of life.


    And soon you'll be 3....4....

    Don't give it another thought....





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    Feb 26, 2011 7:14 PM GMT
    This is a good submission to failblog.
  • Noah_b87

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    Feb 27, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    yeahim40 said
    I can still spank you, junior! icon_wink.gif


    im not going to lie. i wouldnt fight it lol
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    Feb 27, 2011 1:50 AM GMT
    Get over and move on.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 27, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    I really do not like the inference that you feel you ought to be more desirable than the guy your ex is now dating.
  • neosyllogy

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    Feb 27, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    Um, maybe he "replaced" you because you're so focused on things like age and looks that you can't even imagine how a person who doesn't impress you with either could still be a great guy.
  • Noah_b87

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    Feb 27, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    just to put this out there. i am dating but dont have a boyfriend. i deleted him from my phone my email and my online accounts. so now there is no way for me to call him. when i get phone calls from numbers i dont have stored in my phone i dont answer them. so now even now if he calls i wont be answering him. i know im better then his new one. so i just wonder if i was to available. i have my own house, car, and a good job. his 40yr old doesnt even have a car. my ex has to pick him up. i did settle when i got with him. i know im not hot but i know i could do better. i hope him and his new1 have fun. im not going to dwell on them anymore.