This weird feeling I have lately...

  • austinlee

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    Feb 26, 2011 8:48 AM GMT
    Do you ever feel like that when you met someone online and he's not as good looking as you, when you go to meet the person, you dont care whatsoever. But when you went to meet someone that is hotter than you, you have this sort of fear that what he would think of yourself, and possibly fear of being rejected that he might not be even interested in making friends with you?

    Weird huh?
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    Yeah but then you realise that you're meeting up with a dude from the net and neither of you should be so quick to judge and the spontaneity of meeting someone you don't know could be exciting partly because you had your expectations exceeded albeit even for a brief period.
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    That's exactly what happens to me. So afterwards, I don't know if to text him or not, if to look interested or not. I hate that. That's why I'm not trying anymore and just let it come whenever it's the time for it. But yes, as of now I've met two that were Wow, but nothing happened, so then I ask myself, was that he was waiting for me to move on?, so basically we were both wanting but didn't make any move. Lol. I know, It's complicated, but feelings are hard to control in terms of like a lot of you guys say: "Take it easy and it will come in handy". So yup. Lol.
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:43 PM GMT
    Obtain a boy-savvy best friend and ask her for advice, that's always the best solution.
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:45 PM GMT
    AndrewDavidAlexander saidObtain a boy-savvy best friend and ask her for advice, that's always the best solution.



    Guuurrrrrllll, you aint lyin':

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    Feb 26, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    ....and pretty shallow. There is a hell of a lot more than looks that makes a guy, a lot more.

    ... but being overwhemed with a hottie is always nice.
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:50 PM GMT
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    AndrewDavidAlexander saidObtain a boy-savvy best friend and ask her for advice, that's always the best solution.



    Guuurrrrrllll, you aint lyin':



    That's hilarious. Trying to find a sassy gay friend now will help? Lol.
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:57 PM GMT
    I ve got a BF now. But guys i was chatting with and Meeting up with sometimes still email me with, WTF why not me?". Real simple, they never communicated their intentions. They left me hanging all the time about everything. My current boyfriend told me right from the get go what he wanted and when so he got the prize.
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    austinlee saidDo you ever feel like that when you met someone online and he's not as good looking as you, when you go to meet the person, you dont care whatsoever. But when you went to meet someone that is hotter than you, you have this sort of fear that what he would think of yourself, and possibly fear of being rejected that he might not be even interested in making friends with you?

    Weird huh?


    Hmmm...not so weird.
    1)
    You said that when you meet up with someone you don't think is very hot, you don't care whatsoever.

    2) You say that when you meet up with someone you think hotter than you have this fear " that what he would think of yourself, and possibly fear of being rejected that he might not be even interested in making friends with you? "

    Perhaps your fear is that the hot guy will feel about you the same way you feel about guys not as hot as you (see point 1).
    That's worth exploring a little. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug

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    Feb 26, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
    i work in pharma sales and ive learned you don't get the sale unless you ask for the business icon_wink.gificon_lol.gif

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    Feb 26, 2011 4:14 PM GMT
    hold_it_against_me saidi work in pharma sales and ive learned you don't get the sale unless you ask for the business icon_wink.gificon_lol.gif



    That's true. Wonder how I didn't come across with that thought. Lol.
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    Feb 26, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
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    austinlee saidDo you ever feel like that when you met someone online and he's not as good looking as you, when you go to meet the person, you dont care whatsoever..........

    Weird huh?


    Hmmm...not so weird.
    1)
    You said that when you meet up with someone you don't think is very hot, you don't care whatsoever.

    2) You say that when you meet up with someone you think hotter than you have this fear " that what he would think of yourself, and possibly fear of being rejected that he might not be even interested in making friends with you? "

    Perhaps your fear is that the hot guy will feel about you the same way you feel about guys not as hot as you (see point 1).
    That's worth exploring a little. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug


    Your quote are always so wise ....and i mean that as a compliment ..icon_smile.gif

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    Feb 26, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    Hot people are scary and intimidating. icon_surprised.gif
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    Feb 26, 2011 5:43 PM GMT
    _SAGE_ said
    AndrewDavidAlexander saidObtain a boy-savvy best friend and ask her for advice, that's always the best solution.



    Guuurrrrrllll, you aint lyin':



    OMFG, this was hysterical Photobucket
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    Feb 26, 2011 5:56 PM GMT
    I'm so glad I'm in a relationship. Being single, I always wondered if I was coming on too strong and didn't want to seem desperate. Then again, acting too cool can backfire too. I think the best approach is just to be honest and say that you're interested if that's the case. But give the guy some space too. A phone call or text every other day is fine but several a day is probably too much.
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    Feb 26, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    I know what you mean. It kinda goes for any guy you are real interested in. If you are going on a date with someone you are just "eh" about, you are relaxed and whatever. But if you are real interested in a guy and you are going on a date, you get so nervous that you won't say the right things, do the right things, look good enough, etc, etc...

    Funny because sometimes that attitude sabotages itself. If we were just "eh" about our date with the really awesome guy, he would probably be way more into it.

    Life's confusing when you grow up, isn't it?
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    Feb 26, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
    austinlee saidDo you ever feel like that when you met someone online and he's not as good looking as you, when you go to meet the person, you dont care whatsoever. But when you went to meet someone that is hotter than you, you have this sort of fear that what he would think of yourself, and possibly fear of being rejected that he might not be even interested in making friends with you?

    Weird huh?


    Do you mean by "don't care whatsoever" that you don't judge guys that you are not attracted to yet feel the ones you are attracted to will judge you? Or do you mean that you judge guys you are not attracted to and feel karma will come back around when you find a guy that you are attracted to? I'm confused by the question.
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    Feb 27, 2011 5:53 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    austinlee saidDo you ever feel like that when you met someone online and he's not as good looking as you, when you go to meet the person, you dont care whatsoever. But when you went to meet someone that is hotter than you, you have this sort of fear that what he would think of yourself, and possibly fear of being rejected that he might not be even interested in making friends with you?

    Weird huh?


    Hmmm...not so weird.
    1)
    You said that when you meet up with someone you don't think is very hot, you don't care whatsoever.

    2) You say that when you meet up with someone you think hotter than you have this fear " that what he would think of yourself, and possibly fear of being rejected that he might not be even interested in making friends with you? "

    Perhaps your fear is that the hot guy will feel about you the same way you feel about guys not as hot as you (see point 1).
    That's worth exploring a little. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug



    Oh that's so true.. see it helps to discuss ;)
  • austinlee

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    Feb 27, 2011 5:56 AM GMT
    Upryte said
    austinlee saidDo you ever feel like that when you met someone online and he's not as good looking as you, when you go to meet the person, you dont care whatsoever. But when you went to meet someone that is hotter than you, you have this sort of fear that what he would think of yourself, and possibly fear of being rejected that he might not be even interested in making friends with you?

    Weird huh?


    Do you mean by "don't care whatsoever" that you don't judge guys that you are not attracted to yet feel the ones you are attracted to will judge you? Or do you mean that you judge guys you are not attracted to and feel karma will come back around when you find a guy that you are attracted to? I'm confused by the question.


    What I am trying to say when I said dont care whatsoever. I still stay friends with the guy just not the dating level. Basically, I let the nature takes its own way.... but for the one that I like, ugh.. I can't help it!
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    Feb 27, 2011 6:03 AM GMT
    obviously...lol its horrible! I hate especially when you are actually with someone in real life and they are just so much cuter that you are and it's so damn intimidating because you think they are so cute
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    Feb 27, 2011 6:11 AM GMT
    KSUOWL saidI know what you mean. It kinda goes for any guy you are real interested in. If you are going on a date with someone you are just "eh" about, you are relaxed and whatever. But if you are real interested in a guy and you are going on a date, you get so nervous that you won't say the right things, do the right things, look good enough, etc, etc...

    Funny because sometimes that attitude sabotages itself. If we were just "eh" about our date with the really awesome guy, he would probably be way more into it.

    Life's confusing when you grow up, isn't it?


    Why would you go on a date with a guy you were just like eh about???? I don't settle mang!icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 27, 2011 6:15 AM GMT
    austinlee saidDo you ever feel like that when you met someone online and he's not as good looking as you, when you go to meet the person, you dont care whatsoever. But when you went to meet someone that is hotter than you, you have this sort of fear that what he would think of yourself, and possibly fear of being rejected that he might not be even interested in making friends with you?

    Weird huh?


    Exactly.
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    Feb 27, 2011 6:31 AM GMT
    austinlee saidThis weird feeling I have lately...



    Have you tried Tinactin?
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    Nov 21, 2011 7:22 PM GMT
    It's hard enough meeting people. So the best thing to do is to project positive & try not to think negative. Meeting someone that you think is less attractive & you give off a negative vibe reaction shows that you put too much thought into just meeting them. It's not that I don't care ...it's more like can they keep me interested.
    Being intimidated by a guy who is more attractive can happen especially if you don't deal well with being rejected.
    I am attracted to more attractive guys but there are times that this doesn't work for me due to my age.
    Best bet is to meet someone at a pool & if you don't like them at least you got to swim!
    So do you want to swim?
    I would rather meet someone who wanted to workout and swim that someone who was too hot.