ChocolateLuxe saidI was skimming through some profiles and had an Oprah "Ah Ha" moment... I think the term "straight acting" is a politically incorrect way of defining masculinity. As gay and/ or bi men a large percentage of us would like to have someone who is masculine in nature, Am I correct?! I feel like using the term "straight acting" is sort of derogatory to us as a whole because it portrays a stereotype that all straight men are masculine which is not always the case. I think masculinity is a strong enough definition to define a man's man.
What do you guys think
I think the term's as misused as is your generalisation of most gay men wanting a man masculine in nature. I myself have tended to prefer men that are more 'masculine' in nature but sometimes some guys who act a tiny bit camp i.e. not afraid to show their feelings, are really endearing and cute too. I guess it really comes down to personality and not how 'gay' you are.
Back to your question. I think you're right. I myself have never been called 'straight-acting' though, because the straights don't even know that term -- they just say 'oh I wouldn't have realized you were gay'. Of course it is slightly derogatory because the term implies that we all emulate heterosexuals, as if they are the epitome of excellence.
My view is that it also comes down to your own personal opinion on what masculinity is. Masculinity for someone could mean having big muscles and being interested in sports, whereas 'being a man' in another's books could simply mean just owning up to their mistakes and being honest. I know what I'd rather be!!