Do you think "straight acting" is a misleading and misused terminology?

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    Feb 26, 2011 9:28 AM GMT
    I was skimming through some profiles and had an Oprah "Ah Ha" moment... I think the term "straight acting" is a politically incorrect way of defining masculinity. As gay and/ or bi men a large percentage of us would like to have someone who is masculine in nature, Am I correct?! I feel like using the term "straight acting" is sort of derogatory to us as a whole because it portrays a stereotype that all straight men are masculine which is not always the case. I think masculinity is a strong enough definition to define a man's man.

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    Feb 26, 2011 1:12 PM GMT
    Yes i agree.
    This 'straight acting' bullshit is tired. That only works in porn.
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    Feb 26, 2011 1:21 PM GMT
    ChocolateLuxe saidI was skimming through some profiles and had an Oprah "Ah Ha" moment... I think the term "straight acting" is a politically incorrect way of defining masculinity. As gay and/ or bi men a large percentage of us would like to have someone who is masculine in nature, Am I correct?! I feel like using the term "straight acting" is sort of derogatory to us as a whole because it portrays a stereotype that all straight men are masculine which is not always the case. I think masculinity is a strong enough definition to define a man's man.

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    I think the term's as misused as is your generalisation of most gay men wanting a man masculine in nature. I myself have tended to prefer men that are more 'masculine' in nature but sometimes some guys who act a tiny bit camp i.e. not afraid to show their feelings, are really endearing and cute too. I guess it really comes down to personality and not how 'gay' you are.

    Back to your question. I think you're right. I myself have never been called 'straight-acting' though, because the straights don't even know that term -- they just say 'oh I wouldn't have realized you were gay'. Of course it is slightly derogatory because the term implies that we all emulate heterosexuals, as if they are the epitome of excellence.

    My view is that it also comes down to your own personal opinion on what masculinity is. Masculinity for someone could mean having big muscles and being interested in sports, whereas 'being a man' in another's books could simply mean just owning up to their mistakes and being honest. I know what I'd rather be!!
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    Feb 26, 2011 1:29 PM GMT
    i used to term "straight acting" but i made sure the quotation marks were there, then i changed it to "masc" hahaa
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    Feb 26, 2011 1:47 PM GMT
    Its ridiculous. If a guy feels the need to write that he is "straight acting" or that he only is interested in "Straight acting" or "masc" guys, it's onto the next profile with me. I wouldn't waste my time on guys who have hangups about that....

    They like to suck cock as much as the next queen, shit.
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    Feb 26, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    "Straight acting" is a term used in theater to describe a queeny flamer who plays the role of a heterosexual male.
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    Feb 26, 2011 2:36 PM GMT
    No i dont say i am str8 acting its more like str8 look
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    Feb 26, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    ZbmwM5 saidIts ridiculous. If a guy feels the need to write that he is "straight acting" or that he only is interested in "Straight acting" or "masc" guys, it's onto the next profile with me. I wouldn't waste my time on guys who have hangups about that....

    They like to suck cock as much as the next queen, shit.

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  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 26, 2011 2:43 PM GMT
    I would absolutely agree. I think somehow "straight acting" connotes "acceptance" by others in general... those two words
    can somehow communicate that it's better to fit in and be accepted by others in both the straight and gay worlds since you fit in the straight world.
    Maybe I'm going overboard, but it is a tired... and sad means of describing
    ones behavior.
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    Feb 26, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI would absolutely agree. I think somehow "straight acting" connotes "acceptance" by others in general... those two words
    can somehow communicate that it's better to fit in and be accepted by others in both the straight and gay worlds since you fit in the straight world.
    Maybe I'm going overboard, but it is a tired... and sad means of describing
    ones behavior.


    As is "masculine".
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    Straight acting is the biggest bullshit ever.
    I'm not "straight acting" but I have heterosexual male friends that have no problem hanging out with me, and no, I don't try to "convert" them. I just act in whatever manner I feel comfortable with and people seem to appreciate the authenticity of my personality.
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    Feb 26, 2011 3:16 PM GMT
    Acting belongs in the theater or movies. You either look straight or you don't...no amount of "acting" can change that.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:08 PM GMT
    What happened to "butch"?

    Straight acting is lame. One of my dearest friends, a straight guy with uber masculine features and hobbies dj'd a gay pride float in pink hot shorts last year. I guess that's straight acting. I believe truly masculine guys don't have to talk about how masculine they are.

    When I'm hanging with the straight folk and they mention "gay", it takes me a few minutes to figure out where they're going with it. Just an example of how infrequent the topic of sexuality comes up. After years of breaking down labels and definitions, the gays are right there ready to put 'em back...Straight acting straights don't care...
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:26 PM GMT
    "Straight Acting" and "Masc" are heavily overused and misused to the point that they mean absolutely nothing. They lie in a land far beyond cliché, and it's aggravating to hear someone use them as if they are somehow substantive descriptors.

    If I meet someone, I want to know about you, not about how you consider yourself "masc" or "straight acting." Those words/phrases mean nothing and generate a feeling of disinterest on my part; they hint towards personal discomfort with one's image and how one is perceived in a social medium.

    So, in summary, those words need to stop being used, period.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:26 PM GMT
    I normally consider guys writing str8 acting as guys always wondering oh no is that gonna make me look gay or not and not comfortable in their own skin.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    I think it is a misleading and inappropriate term because it reinforces the false stereotype that straight guys have masculine characteristics and gay guys have feminine characteristics. That said, I don't think it is offensive for a guy to state in his profile that he has masculine characteristics or prefers guys with masculine characteristics, or feminine characteristics, for that matter.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    paulflexes said"Straight acting" is a term used in theater to describe a queeny flamer who plays the role of a heterosexual male.


    I thought that was a drama queen.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:37 PM GMT
    you ever hear that david cross skit where he talks about gay voice and how not all gay guys have it but only gay guys have it? i feel like when guys call themselves straight acting all they mean is they dont have a lisp or talk with their hands. im gay acting. im also tough as nails and kinda crazy. i dont have a lisp but neither do most straight dudes i know who are fucking losers who i wouldnt wanna be anything like. same thing with most gay guys i know, to be honest. im just tryin to do me.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:48 PM GMT
    It's so overused that it has lost all meaning, no matter what meaning that is. I have met people who said they were "masculine" (bc straight acting is offensive) and I found them to be pretty feminine in general.

    At the same time its just another way to describe yourself really.
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    Feb 26, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    kevinap saidI believe truly masculine guys don't have to talk about how masculine they are.


    This.
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    Feb 26, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    i hadn't thought of it like that exactly but i think yeah, you may have a point. because it seems that even that term, 'straight-acting,' refers to a small part of the straight group. most straight guys i know don't look or act like the 'straight-acting' stereotype anyway.

    maybe if anything, these days, 'straight-acting' when referring to guys who have sex with guys just means guys who are uncomfortable with their sexuality.

    'straight-acting' referring to a look or something superficial like that (not that superficiality is necessarily bad, as oscar wilde might tell us) maybe is just an outdated term, and while it's OK to dig guys who have that 'straight' look, and who don't like broadway or lady gaga or whatever is not 'straight,' maybe it's just time to come up with another term, since there are as many masculine gay guys as effeminate ones and there are loads of straight guys who don't fit into that 'straight-acting' mold.

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    Feb 26, 2011 5:24 PM GMT
    Acting is defined as a person who tells a story by portraying a character. Everybody knows the character isn't real.

    If you define your life as "straight acting", you are either one of two things-
    1) Unauthentic - essentially saying that you define your personality as artifice.
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    2) Inarticulate- can't think of a more descriptive way of describing yourself.
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    Feb 26, 2011 5:32 PM GMT
    Yeah..."Straight acting".....until we get to the bedroom and you shove your cock up my ass......icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 26, 2011 5:33 PM GMT
    Chainers saidIt's so overused that it has lost all meaning, no matter what meaning that is. I have met people who said they were "masculine" (bc straight acting is offensive) and I found them to be pretty feminine in general.


    Agreed
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    Feb 26, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    Damn. They really are not thesbians?