Hookups: Are they usually just one time affairs?

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    Feb 27, 2011 5:55 AM GMT
    Something that frustrates the hell out of me is when I hookup with a hot guy, and we have great sexual chemistry which leads to a great sexual encounter....which leads to nothing. Not like I go into expecting anything but great sex, but sometimes I find myself wishing we could do it again. For me at least, an amazingly sex-charged encounter is almost always a one time thing.

    And it's like the accepted post-hookup etiquette to end with "we should get together again", which in my case, almost never happens.

    I think one of the reasons the gay community has such high STD rates is because a lot of gay men perpetuate a "once is enough" mentality when hooking up randomly. I guess I just don't understand why it's so hard to find a regular nsa buddy, without having to search for someone new every time I get horny.

    Does anyone else feel the same way?
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    Feb 27, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    Are you saying you contact him after the great sex encounter but he doesn't return your call/text?
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    Feb 27, 2011 6:27 AM GMT
    That has been the case a couple of times, but I am also guilty of that as well if for whatever reason I wasn't interested in seeing the guy again.

    What I'm talking about is great sex, followed by exchanging numbers, and a promise to see each other again. And it never happens.

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    Feb 27, 2011 7:18 AM GMT
    lol, karma is a royal bitch sometimes. Well its good that you are start calling them, if they don't return back, no sweat. Maybe you need to find guys who are also lookin for fkbuddies.

  • Feb 27, 2011 7:26 AM GMT
    I'm sure everyone's been there before--and on both ends of the situation you described.

    Honestly, when you're THAT horny, you'll lower your standards a bit--and maybe you'd get together with that same guy again if you're THAT horny and don't have a better option. But, maybe you realize you deserve better and you decide against it, even if you had good sexual chemistry.

    On the other hand--I've had a number of encounters where I've had great sexual chemistry with a guy, had a good convo, no awkward silence or anything (lol), and we're both hot guys...but then you hope to meet up again, and the other dude kinda blows you off...who the hell knows why? Guys are weird, and can be real assholes some times.

    I think it's one of those things where you just have to go into it with no expectations whatsoever, and hope for the best. And always keep in mind how guys can be so that you're never too surprised when a guy pulls some BS!
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    Feb 27, 2011 8:00 AM GMT
    GOD, the aftertaste... The same part I too changed my whole life because of!!!!

    It's better to go on living with yourself rather than living on puppet strings. AND GOD GOD GOD I know it hurts because you not only enjoyed the sex but, you found a brother and a friend. Realize it is just a slight representation of what is to come in your life.

    There are SOOOOOO many people that want to give their heart to you but, sex CANNOT be part of that agenda. The hardest thing a gay man will EVER do is tell why it hurts... YES, why love hurts. You were meant to experience the same heaven that you see so many great people around you experiencing.

    Imagine if you could have the BEST looking guy except this time he cares about where you are headed. You were never left out, you only thought with immediate pleasures that avoided the Truth. The next lesson to learn though, will be how well you can tell your next of kin that you contain that which was missing from their same mistakes.

    It is always going to be my responsibility to sacrifice a piece of heaven to those that are still out there doing the dirty things I did and running from the same truth exactly like you. Sex and love are two separate things and I know you see that.

    Don't promise the world more changes, just do your best to be yourself... It's all the next of kin really requires. You've been there, you know it doesn't work. Now reflect what you have learned from it...
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    Feb 27, 2011 12:53 PM GMT
    The_Austonian saidThat has been the case a couple of times, but I am also guilty of that as well if for whatever reason I wasn't interested in seeing the guy again.

    What I'm talking about is great sex, followed by exchanging numbers, and a promise to see each other again. And it never happens.



    Some o you are too funny. Imagine expecting something more from a cum dump session icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 27, 2011 12:57 PM GMT
    The_Austonian saidHookups: Are they usually just one time affairs?
    Yes.
    Friends with benefits pwns hook-ups.