DATING MARRIED MAN !!

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    Feb 27, 2011 8:31 PM GMT
    sorry guys my profile is very minimal . but just want to find out how some of u guys cope wit dating a married man. when i met him i thought it would b easy . its been 6 months and i think the boundaries are getting to me. but please do not say leave him . i just wanna know how u would cope in the situation . thanks
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    Feb 28, 2011 2:25 AM GMT
    what do you mean when you say the boundaries are getting to you?
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    Feb 28, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    Zimboi123 saidsorry guys my profile is very minimal . but just want to find out how some of u guys cope wit dating a married man. when i met him i thought it would b easy . its been 6 months and i think the boundaries are getting to me. but please do not say leave him . i just wanna know how u would cope in the situation . thanks


    Just forget it! Not good idea of ruining someone marriage, is it?
  • DCEric

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    Feb 28, 2011 2:32 AM GMT
    Let me see now. You are dating someone who is in a committed relationship, doesn't have the balls to end the relationship and makes you dance around his arrangement. I say, you are getting what you paid for. Maybe it's time to shop somewhere else.
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    Feb 28, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
    I don't think that there are many of us who have dated married men. I'm sure there are a few trashy people who have slept with them on occasion (yep, I am judging).....

    In any case.... I think the best way to cope with it is to get some self-respect and date a guy who you can have, and who cares for you back.... Sorry for being so harsh.
  • toybrian

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    Feb 28, 2011 2:47 AM GMT
    Zimboi..know what you are talking about there...leave him? yes if you cannot be there when he needs you because he will not always be there for you because family comes first and always will...do you have a lot in common..hope so because if only sex then i would say leave him. If he does not talk after sex to you and stay a few minutes after then see are the boundaries worth it...
    Been there and it is hard on both and sometimes the boundaries need to be broken if he cares for you than just sexually...good luck to you....
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Feb 28, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    Boundaries are getting to you? what do you expect? for the guy to ask the wife to break down the walls and share you?


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  • barriehomeboy

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    Feb 28, 2011 2:53 AM GMT
    Is he meeting your needs at the moment? If so, keep him around. There are over 6 billion people on the plantet. Nobody cares what you're doing!
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    Feb 28, 2011 2:58 AM GMT

    Sorry but "dating" a married man isn't possible. It suggests you're building something with him. And you're not. Call a spade a spade... You're the
    mistress. I'm not judging but don't be so fucking delusional.
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    Feb 28, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    Look at it from the perspective that you deserve better. You don't need to be with someone whom you have to lurk around in the shadows or in seedy motels. And to be honest IF he did end his marriage, statistics show that relationships that are begun in adulterous affairs very rarely endure after the marriage/relationship ends. He is not looking for a long term relationship. He already is in one and apparently is not satisfied. Chances are he will not be satisfied with you. Guard your heart and don't let it get broken.
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    Feb 28, 2011 3:12 AM GMT
    I cut her...yes i did gurl, oh yes ah did!

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    Feb 28, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    what a terrible thing to do.
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    Feb 28, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
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    Feb 28, 2011 3:18 AM GMT
    i dont get why people post questions like this. if you have to ask, that means it doesnt sit well with you so why not just amend the situation?
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    Feb 28, 2011 3:19 AM GMT
    I'd say to each his own. Just enjoy the moment and take it one day at a time. Chill and relax--if it doesn't work out, there are other gay guys out there.
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    Feb 28, 2011 3:40 AM GMT
    Sorry....Couldn't resist...

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  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 28, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    It would be too hard for me... I would be coping with his issues and I'd rather
    not do it.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Feb 28, 2011 3:45 AM GMT
    dude i am sorry but i am going to tell you what you do not want to hear. you need to leave him. what do you really think can come of this? he is not going to leave his family for you. what about his family and the people who will be hurt because you are breaking up there family. dude, stop being selfish and cut that dude loose.
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    Feb 28, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    DOMINUS saidI'd say to each his own. Just enjoy the moment and take it one day at a time. Chill and relax--if it doesn't work out, there are other gay guys out there.


    Yes... Enjoy being the other man. What fun. Chill. Enjoy.

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  • turtleneckjoc...

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    Feb 28, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    Years and years ago when I didn't know better, the first man I ever fell in love with ended up dumping me to re-marry his wife.

    I cried for days because I was never really loved by anyone before. It took me the better part of a year to get over this as it was one of the biggest heartbreaks I have ever had.

    Don't let it happen to you.
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    Feb 28, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    Hey guys the honesty . . its not just about the sex . after we have sex we can sit and talk for hours . when i say boundaries i mean i can't call at night and expect him to answer texts . its difficult in that way !yes i do not think i would like him to leave his family . i am still very young and could not offer him anything as i am focusing on studies . . i just really thought i could control what i felt when i met him . . . its tough . when u younger u say i will NEVER do that . but u find yourself dating marrieed men ha ha
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    Feb 28, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    No, I am young and I can guarantee I will never knowingly date a married man. Just as I will never cheat on someone I am in a committed relationship. For some people, these things are a huge deal. They are part of what makes me who I am.
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    Feb 28, 2011 4:21 AM GMT
    how would you feel if your husband/wife/boyfriend is cheating on you? I mean do you feel bad for his wife that her cheating husband is "dating" you? If you like him you should tell him to embrace his marriage or move on. And if he likes/loves you, he'll deal with the situation his own term (either divorce his wife or dumping u).

    Your story kinda reminds me of brokeback mountain lol

    which has sad ending....
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    Feb 28, 2011 4:26 AM GMT
    why do we presist on things we just can't have...something about it, maybe the fight and struggle that makes its soo much more..
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    Feb 28, 2011 4:38 AM GMT
    I hope you and he both get everything you deserve. You are both selfish fucking little pricks that don't deserve a real relationship.