Isn't my lifestyle my business?

  • hilpa491

    Posts: 43

    Feb 28, 2011 8:42 PM GMT
    So, I am in a place in my life right now where I am focusing on social studies and trying to find strength as a person. I do not want a relationship... yet. I want to learn a little more about myself so I have something to actually, truly offer in a relationship. I don't want to go into something I can't finish right, you know?

    That doesn't mean I don't want to have some fun in the time being. Yeah, I am looking for hookups. What of it? I have my reasons, and I don't like people seeing that and over-judging my lifestyle. I have only had sex once in my life, so it isn't as bad as it looks...

    Am I really off here or what?
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    Feb 28, 2011 9:09 PM GMT
    FINALLY!!!
    A young man: not looking to get married, tired of dating at a ripe old age, whining about how all guys want is a hook up; instead, he is more concerned about getting threw school and developing himself; how freaking novel...it's your summer; wear the speedo.
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    Feb 28, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    No. You are not off. While I don't know you personally, it sounds like you have put some thought into this. As long as you are not hurting anyone or yourself on any level AND all parties involved are on the same page of communication, then I see nothing wrong with gaining experience along the way to the point you are ready to get involved in a dating or permanent relationship. Of course, remember to always play it safe.
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    Mar 01, 2011 2:28 AM GMT
    Your just hitting on the world like the rest of us, nothing unique about that...
  • MuscleComeBac...

    Posts: 2376

    Mar 01, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    Fuck like a stud, break hearts, make them beg for more, move on to the next one, get a degree, get a great job, earn tons of money and hand pick the guy you want when you're damn well good and ready. Until then, see items one through three and repeat at will.

    Dude, we'd KILL to be you. Go for it!
  • TheIStrat

    Posts: 777

    Mar 01, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    I think you're doing the right thing. you only live once. If you want to focus on you and have hookups, then do it.

    Sex is a positive thing.

    Just use protection.
  • HndsmKansan

    Posts: 16311

    Mar 01, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    More power to you! Glad you hear you can state clearly whats up with you.
    Make decisons that are important and for which you are comfortable. Learn and enjoy.. just be smart and think... good luck and have an awesome time!
  • turtleneckjoc...

    Posts: 4685

    Mar 01, 2011 2:45 AM GMT
    MuscleComeBack saidFuck like a stud, break hearts, make them beg for more, move on to the next one, get a degree, get a great job, earn tons of money and hand pick the guy you want when you're damn well good and ready. Until then, see items one through three and repeat at will.

    Dude, we'd KILL to be you. Go for it!


    I agree completely, however, I want to add something:

    Be kind and respectful to others, especially to the gay men (women too) that have blazed the trail for you to enjoy life as you know it. There are many older gay guys out there that are not treated very well by younger dudes. A healthy number of the RJ population is over 40, so respect us. Let us be your mentors and guides. Call on us to when you need guidance or someone to talk to. We would love being included and will respect you greatly for this.

    And....give back. Make time for kind deeds for those less fortunate than you. With everything you have going for yourself, that is the one piece of the puzzle so many guys fail to locate--and it makes them less than complete.

    Go get 'em, buddy! You are gonna be a success!
  • FloridaGuy71

    Posts: 93

    Mar 01, 2011 2:45 AM GMT
    Have fun . JUST PLAY SAFE!! icon_smile.gif
    There is nothing wrong with casual hook-ups, just protect yourself.. Enjoy!
  • MuscleComeBac...

    Posts: 2376

    Mar 01, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
    icon_redface.gif okay, me bad...I forgot to add the part about being mindful of other men's hearts and using condoms...they're right. They are.

    Tell you what, give me your address, I'll have some rubbers delivered. Better yet, I'll deliver them and teach you how to let me down gently but firmly without leading me on. That should get you through at least one box of trojans. icon_twisted.gif


    I'm going to bed now....I'm having a seriously unedited day of RJ posting. icon_eek.gif