Do you Keep RJ to your self?

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    Mar 01, 2011 4:45 AM GMT
    In other posts there have been discussions about you or your significant other keeping acounts in obvious dating/crusing sites, but what about RJ?
    I mean this site is not a place to hunt men exactly; it has forums, news, blogs you name it, and yet there are a lot of shirtless JOCKS here, that you can search by location!!! lol

    So my wonder is: have you told your significant other about your RJ account? or Should you even do it? is it that big of a deal?
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    Mar 01, 2011 5:31 AM GMT
    Yes my boyfriend does know. but is so technology-illiterate that he does not use a computer, smart phone, iPad, etc, so it means little to him. I try to explain it him, and he can't understand why I want to communicate with all these people.

    And everyday when I update him the latest gay news, he aks. "Where the fuck do you hear all this stuff?"

    "metta8," I tell him and he just gives me a look.

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    Mar 01, 2011 5:55 AM GMT
    Writrboi saidIn other posts there have been discussions about you or your significant other keeping acounts in obvious dating/crusing sites, but what about RJ?
    I mean this site is not a place to hunt men exactly; it has forums, news, blogs you name it, and yet there are a lot of shirtless JOCKS here, that you can search by location!!! lol

    So my wonder is: have you told your significant other about your RJ account? or Should you even do it? is it that big of a deal?


    Of course do it. It IS that big of a deal, because it's to do with a part of you that has likes and dislikes when it comes to socializing, which affects you both. It has to do with intimately sharing, which is partly (I'm assuming) what brought the two of you together in the first place.

    -Doug
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    Mar 01, 2011 6:59 AM GMT
    LOL...I've used the medda8 comment too

    yeah no secrete here...He has his face book and BigMuscleBears and I have RJ.
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    Mar 01, 2011 4:33 PM GMT
    My other half knows I have an account here on Real Jock. At first this site does look like a dating/cruising website but it is not. It has a lot of great featured articles. The forum and community keeps me coming back for more.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 01, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    My partner knows all about RJ. He refers to it as "my sex site" when exasperated. It doesn't really bother him as he knows it is a social site, but
    thinks I spend to much time doing what I am at this moment.
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    Mar 01, 2011 4:51 PM GMT

    My other half has an account on here too, so he can stalk me if he wants to.

  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Mar 01, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidMy partner knows all about RJ. He refers to it as "my sex site" when exasperated. It doesn't really bother him as he knows it is a social site, but
    thinks I spend to much time doing what I am at this moment.


    Oh C'mon Kansan, you mean your BF hasn't figure out yet that you're really networking sales leads for the inevitable "HandsmKansan Calendar" that you're going to publish? It's not a sex site, it's a retirement fund!

    RJ is hardly a secret for me, and in fact any guy I'd get involved with (knock wood, spit three times, light a candle) will know that it's my 'water cooler' and nothing more (well, once the time comes...nothing more).
    In fact, it's not even a secret among my straight identified friends. I show it to my trainer all the time. Mind you sometimes he's cool with it, sometimes he throws up in his mouth a little - straight boys are so threatened by guys who are obviously hotter and more adept at something and gay - scares the shit out of them. Poor fragile tykes. LOL He even made a point of printing out the home page on the day I was MOTD and uses it to market his training. It was very sweet and goofy that day, he was like a fucking father peacock.

    No, RJ is hardly a secret.
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    Mar 01, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    my boyfriend knows I'm on this site. he's ok with it but I think he's afraid i'm hooking up with people from it.

    I too get all the gay news from "metta8" and I like that.

    I also get my workouts from here because I don't know how to make up my own. well, I can make up my own but often they're not as productive.

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    Mar 01, 2011 5:18 PM GMT
    This site is OK to use if you have a boyfriend, but it depends on how you use it.

    If you're here looking at the shirtless guys trying to see 'what else is out there' then you're not ready for a relationship.

    If you are here utilizing the workout programs and seeking advice from fellow members then it's ok.
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    Mar 01, 2011 5:45 PM GMT
    DJdorchester said
    My other half has an account on here too, so he can stalk me if he wants to.

    I'll bet it's hard for him to stalk you when you know his screen name though! The rest of us however, can stalk you much more easily! LOL
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    Mar 01, 2011 5:49 PM GMT
    My bf knows I'm on here and when I'm signed on and he's around he checks out what's on here too. He also knows when I meet guys from on here for lunch or coffee and encourages me to develop friendships. He trusts me and we share everything so there's nothing to hide. He does see it as more of a 'hook up' site than I (and most of you) do because of some of the profile pics out there icon_smile.gif But then he likes looking at them too....
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    Mar 01, 2011 5:52 PM GMT
    I knew there had to be more Mett8 subscribers out thereicon_biggrin.gif

    My last bf knew but wasn't thrilled about countless hrs I spent when I first joined (I was silently addicted) mostly because I was usually logged on while he was sleeping. Rj lasted longer than he didicon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 01, 2011 5:54 PM GMT
    My hubby knows about RJ. He's even met a couple of guys from the site with me. But there are a couple of private pics he hasn't seen yet.icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 01, 2011 7:37 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidMy partner knows all about RJ. He refers to it as "my sex site" when exasperated.


    May I just say your boyfriend us hillarious lol

    and yep I think this is a Boyfriend approved site, I was just wondering how it would look from the outside.
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    Mar 01, 2011 8:02 PM GMT
    DJdorchester said
    My other half



    why have I never heard this used before? Ew...I mean thats worse than middle-aged white women asking about your "life partner".
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    Mar 01, 2011 8:22 PM GMT
    cromiel34 said
    DJdorchester said
    My other half



    why have I never heard this used before?


    Because you are 18......icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 01, 2011 8:37 PM GMT
    My husband knows about RJ cause I usually turn my laptop towards him in the bed and say "check this guy out!" He appreciates seeing a man that takes pride in his physique as much as I do, and since we're both secure in our relationship he doesn't see it as a threat. The articles are great and the banter in the forum is a fantastic stress relief from work.

    Like so many others have said, it's what you do with the technology. You can hook up through Facebook too. As benign looking as it looks it has the same tools.
  • mizu5

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    Mar 01, 2011 8:40 PM GMT
    cromiel34 said
    DJdorchester said
    My other half



    why have I never heard this used before? Ew...I mean thats worse than middle-aged white women asking about your "life partner".
    I suppose you COULD live under a rock. It's fairly commonly used phrase, along with "my better half" and it is majority wise a straight term, as oppose dto life partner, which is more homosexual.
  • Tiller66

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    Mar 01, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    I talk about the things that I read and RJers that I talk to,to just about all my friends and family gay or str8.In fact when I'm talking to anyone about health and fittness I tell them as much as possible about RJ and I do make sure to tell them"It's a fittness site not a hook up site".I don't work out or do much that may be seen as healthy but I like being on here.It's like a have a huge family all over the world of every walk of live and they all have something I can learn and when my working out time comes then I know I will have alot of brothers to help me do it right.
  • shawn33

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    Mar 01, 2011 10:17 PM GMT
    Yeah, my man knows. We actually met on here. He doesn't have an account anymore, but he has no problem with me using RJ. I'm not actually on too often anyway. But yeah, even if I was on more, he wouldn't mind. Like some of the other partnered guys on here, my bf and I are secure in our relationship. He knows I love him more than anything I might find on this or any other site. icon_biggrin.gif
  • DCEric

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    Mar 02, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    Hey knows (he actually showed me the site), but does not have an account on here.
  • turtleneckjoc...

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    Mar 02, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    cromiel34 said
    DJdorchester said
    My other half



    why have I never heard this used before? Ew...I mean thats worse than middle-aged white women asking about your "life partner".


    Hey, be thankful he does have an "other half." Some of us guys here don't have one......
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Mar 02, 2011 3:19 AM GMT
    I for one never have thought of this site as a hook up site. I mean it could be used that way but I don't think of it as one.