How can I stop sucking so much dick?

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    Mar 01, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    First off I want to say that this is a serious post and is something I've struggled with for awhile. I post this looking for advice and guidance not judgment and ridicule.

    I've been using craigslist's m4m section pretty regularly for the past three years. It goes something like this - post an ad describing myself, ten minutes later an inbox full of pics and descriptions, and fifteen minutes after that some random guy's penis is down my throat.

    A lot of gay guys would probably fail to see what the problem is. But I honestly believe I'm a sex addict. I mean, over the past 3 months alone, I've sucked off over 40 different guys. I've done it at my house, at their house, in public, in a driving car... I even sucked off two guys back to back during my lunch break from work one time.

    I know I'm not alone because if you read craigslist's m4m section you'll often see its the same guys posting over and over. And I'm no different... I'll spend hours and hours posting ad after ad until someone I like responds. I've wasted entire weekends with this kind of thing. It's like sucking cock is all I can ever think about and I'm always horny. I realize my behavior has the potential to be very detrimental and destructive but I'm too embarrassed to get help.

    I really need help guys.
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    Mar 01, 2011 9:46 PM GMT
    You need to see a sex therapist.

    and I am no sex therapist so I can't help you there bud.
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    Mar 01, 2011 9:50 PM GMT
    Therapy, therapy, therapy. Good luck, bud.
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    Mar 01, 2011 9:53 PM GMT
    Gotta agree with the two guys above me.

    You can think about sex all you want, but you shouldn't always act on it...except maybe it's within a committed relationship and your partner is down.

    I haven't even sucked a dick within the last 3 months icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 01, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    I used to compare my behavior to what I know a lot of other gay guys do... that have a lot of sex partners. But I don't want to be like this anymore. It actually disgusts me.
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    Mar 01, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    Find another outlet and interest and ween (no pun intended) yourself off it.
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    Mar 01, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    Yeah, as others pointed out, you have a problem. We're not going to be able to solve in in this forum.

    Put some site blocking software on your computer for starters... maybe make it more inconvenient for you to get dick?
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    Mar 01, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    Check your IMs SEC! I'm messagin ya.

    And yeah, I agree with vic as well...find something else you love to do, and do that more and more as you start suckin dick less and less!
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    Mar 01, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    Or simply, you need distraction.
    It might be that you always think of sex because you do not really have anything serious to do.

    Btw, I always want to try something like what you did, but I am alway scared of doing it. I worship you !
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    Mar 01, 2011 10:22 PM GMT
    Doesn't work... I'll go to the gym thinking about cock, think about it during my workout, and by the time I'm done I'm horny as hell.

    I'm going to just try and keep myself as busy as possible with other stuff.
  • BardBear

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    Mar 01, 2011 10:48 PM GMT
    Thing is, no matter what we say here, you have to want to stop. That means not sitting in front of a computer and actually talking to a therapist.

    Peace,
    Bardy
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    Mar 01, 2011 11:46 PM GMT
    SEC1986 saidDoesn't work... I'll go to the gym thinking about cock, think about it during my workout, and by the time I'm done I'm horny as hell.

    I'm going to just try and keep myself as busy as possible with other stuff.


    I believe making yourself busy will help!
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    Mar 02, 2011 12:42 AM GMT
    I have been abstinent for many years now but, many of those years were a struggle... So much unnecessary guilt. I've always looked for love in all the wrong places.

    I just started reading an incredible book that I can FINALLY relate to in terms of where I want my sex life to go in the future. It's written by David Zailer called When Lost Men Come Home, A journey to sexual integrity.

    Already I am getting teary eyed when I read it because it is literally like looking in the mirror and letting go of the things I am not in order to enjoy the person I am.
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    Mar 02, 2011 1:01 AM GMT
    Why would you want to??? .... icon_eek.gif

    The serious problem I see here is the greatly increased probability for contracting an STD. You might want to review the list of potential STDs you could contract and see if that dampens your ardor for sucking anonymous cock.

    Otherwise, I don't see a problem at 25 sucking til your lips fall off. I figure you'll get bored with it eventually. Then you'll stop.
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    Mar 02, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    you join RJ, no pics, no profile and the 1st thing on the 1st day you come out with is you're sucking a ridiculous amount of cock ?
    *amused*
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    Mar 02, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    xassantex saidyou join RJ, no pics, no profile and the 1st thing on the 1st day you come out with is you're sucking a ridiculous amount of cock ?
    *amused*

    Hes prolly already a member, but eants to discuss this anonymously. So he created a new profile.
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    Mar 02, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    Destroy your computer, disconnect your cell phone, and terminate your Internet access. Then move to Alaska.
  • Nizzo

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    Mar 02, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    I have the same problem, lol. Like I even set up a glory hole in my apartment. I don't care tf
    @h. I'm scared I will get herps though.
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    Mar 02, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    Caslon17000 saidWhy would you want to??? .... icon_eek.gif

    The serious problem I see here is the greatly increased probability for contracting an STD. You might want to review the list of potential STDs you could contract and see if that dampens your ardor for sucking anonymous cock.

    Otherwise, I don't see a problem at 25 sucking til your lips fall off. I figure you'll get bored with it eventually. Then you'll stop.



    Right, other than the potential for STD's .... the problem is what again?!
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    Mar 02, 2011 4:13 AM GMT
    I love this thread title. That is all.
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    Mar 02, 2011 5:13 AM GMT
    Nizzo saidI have the same problem, lol. Like I even set up a glory hole in my apartment. I don't care tf
    @h. I'm scared I will get herps though.


    Glory hole in your apartment? for whom?
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    Mar 02, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
    Biguy711 said
    Nizzo saidI have the same problem, lol. Like I even set up a glory hole in my apartment. I don't care tf
    @h. I'm scared I will get herps though.


    Glory hole in your apartment? for whom?


    he's quantum : he goes through one hole and interacts with himself.
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    Mar 02, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    xassantex said
    Biguy711 said
    Nizzo saidI have the same problem, lol. Like I even set up a glory hole in my apartment. I don't care tf
    @h. I'm scared I will get herps though.


    Glory hole in your apartment? for whom?


    he's quantum : he goes through one hole and interacts with himself.


    Impressive!
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    Mar 02, 2011 7:54 AM GMT
    Perhaps having your jaw wired shut?
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    Mar 02, 2011 8:46 AM GMT
    Sex addict? Alcoholic? Etc etc etc? Really? Have we come to a point in our society where we don't scold those who need it? You are a whore, you are what, we used to call a skeevy perv, in my day. Just STOP, how gross can you be? Don't give me this "in powerless again it" bullshit. Get a hobby for fucks sake. Have some self control dude. Gross