Guys who can't communicate

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    Mar 02, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
    I've always found self-expression to be an important trait in a mate. However, even those who seem articulate tend to lose their ability to communicate about relationship matters. Is it just me or are any of you experiencing the same thing?
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    Mar 02, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    Hardcore.

    It's also a cultural thing. In North America, guys are socialized at a young age to be independent, to not talk about their emotions, and to internalize everything. It's sad, really.

    My current boyfriend is that type. My ex (a French guy) was far from it, he would express anything and everything. While I don't miss him, per say, I do miss easy communication in a relationship.

    Stoic and silent guys are hot. But when you actually date them, it's a headache
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    Mar 02, 2011 7:01 PM GMT
    The point of a relationship is communication. So when there's no communication, there's little point. I know its not easy for everyone to do that but being able to communicate is a sign of maturity.
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    Mar 03, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    blactor saidThe point of a relationship is communication. So when there's no communication, there's little point. I know its not easy for everyone to do that but being able to communicate is a sign of maturity.


    ... I totally agree!
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    Mar 03, 2011 5:40 PM GMT
    I tend to keep almost everything in, definitely been called "a man of few words". I usually don't look for a relationship for that reason, anyone close enough to me is close enough to pry. I usually don't want to talk about anything thats bugging me, just because vocalizing it usually makes me feel like shit. I think there might be someone out there for me, but I would rather stayed married to my music. A boyfriend would have to deal with coming in 2nd to my synthesizers, which take up most of my time.
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    Mar 04, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    There is such a thing as too much communication in a relationship. It gets to a point where it is no longer effective. Less is usually more.

    My experience has been the opposite. Guys I've dated never shut the *bleep* up...always wanting to talk about something, always a problem and always with the "I feel" , "you made me feel", the "what if's", "whys", and the "how come" .....Jesus Christ, no wonder why when I saw my ex on the weekends all I did was drink