FU Lack of Gay Dar

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    Mar 02, 2011 7:09 AM GMT
    Does anyone else have this problem. Unless the guy is a flammer, come up and kisses me, or tells me he is gay I can not spot a gay guy in a crowd to save my life.

    Had this guy in one of my classes and did all the things you would expect out of masculine gay guy minus tell me he was gay. Then tonight we were studying together...which he was really excited to do....and I may not have a gay dar but know how to ask all the right questions. Finally figured out he was straight icon_sad.gif which is usually how it goesicon_mad.gif and he found out I was gay, which always makes things awkard at first icon_confused.gif . We will be back to normal in no timeicon_lol.gif yet it my lack of gay dar still bothers me!!

    Oh and there is always those odd remarks after you tell him like "really" and "oh well you are a cool guy" WTF really well I know I'm coolicon_cool.gif

    I WANT A GAY DAR THAT WORKS!!
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    Mar 02, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
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    My gaydar is pretty flawless.
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    Mar 02, 2011 1:19 PM GMT
    limited lifetime warranty...does not apply to all states and/or countries...see manufacturer for full details or visit www.fuckedupgaydar.com.........icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 02, 2011 1:23 PM GMT
    Mine never worked.
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    Mar 02, 2011 1:34 PM GMT
    My gaydar worked even before I knew I was gay myself. I never heard the term until my gay mentor said it, and when he explained the word to me I replied what's so special about that? Can't everybody do that? I always have. He just gave me a big "DUH" and said of course you can, because you've always been gay, even when you didn't know or accept it.

    But then I'm also very perceptive in "reading" people in other ways, too. And that's all gaydar is, picking up on subtle personality clues. It's certainly not psychic or supernatural. And so just like I can tell when someone is lying to me, or really likes me versus putting on an act, I can tell if he's gay. It's just a matter of being tuned in.
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    Mar 02, 2011 1:53 PM GMT
    I can spot a cocksucker 5 miles away, and sniff a big bottom 10 miles away. I've concluded that I actually honed my gaydar during the time that I was completely in the closet--I had no choice but to make the gaydar laser-like because one mistake would have been catastrophic.
  • inuman

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    Mar 02, 2011 2:14 PM GMT
    Hahahahaha oh thank you guys, you all know how to start a day right with just the right words icon_lol.gif


    As for the OP I don't think its broken, its just a thing you need to work on and focus on more, sorta like that stupid "force" thing from Star Wars lol icon_lol.gif



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    Mar 02, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    Haha it develops in time! I used to have fucking awful gaydar. Now it isn't bad! Its a lot harder in the predominantly straight conservative areas that I live in. But if I go to midtown in Atlanta (gay central) it is a lot easier haha.

    The best I can do in normal situations is assume a gay MIGHT be gay. But closet cases really throw it off bad. If there was no such thing as in the closet gays, I think everyone's gaydar would be a hell of a lot better...
  • starboard5

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    Mar 02, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    You're not alone. I got my gaydar at Big Lots.
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    Mar 02, 2011 6:20 PM GMT
    I haven't tried this yet but ive heard it works. Go to a straight setting (bar etc) bring your open straight friend who likes to dance, dance with said friend at the dance floor, let gay men come to you. I'm told the results are surprising then again I am in San Francisco so it may be location based.
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    Mar 02, 2011 6:32 PM GMT
    There's no such thing- so don't feel bad.
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    Mar 02, 2011 6:47 PM GMT
    Gaydar is as funny as it is false. Anyone who says they can spot a gay person from a mile away and is never wrong is full of shit unless the person they see is crazy flaming and setting off all the fire alarms. LOL. Hell, a lot of times gay men mistake metro-sexual guys as being gay because they are so ambiguous. Usually people who say that go around assuming everyone is gay until proven wrong which is a bogus way of saying they are never wrong.

    I've easily fooled the best of guys who have this mythical gaydar power and still do. Hahahahaha. I don't assume a person is gay unless I'm given a reason to think otherwise. Really not that big of deal to me. Live and let live I say. Anyone can say and act gay but being gay is a different story and the best way to figure that out is by doing the obvious.

    Don't rely on gaydar. It'll get you in more trouble then you think.
  • momewrath

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    Mar 02, 2011 6:58 PM GMT
    I just use Grindr. I assume that anybody that doesn't have Grindr is straight. It's amazing how there's sometimes only two gay guys in a crowded gay club...
  • Jockularone

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    Mar 02, 2011 7:01 PM GMT
    Doesn't really work for me either.
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    Mar 02, 2011 9:43 PM GMT
    I have an incredibly accurate gaydar. It comes in handy, but had its drawbacks...just because a person is gay doesn't mean that person is into you...it just means he's gay.

    And, when it comes to "straight" (closeted) guys, sometimes they won't even admit it DURING sex. One guy told me - while sucking my dick - that's he's not really gay, he just thinks I'm a cool guy and doesn't mind "helping out a friend." I just went along with it. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 02, 2011 9:45 PM GMT
    A1BOT saidThere's no such thing- so don't feel bad.


    Yeah, I also think it's a myth.... And how I would love to see a Mythbusters special about "The Gaydar" icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Mar 02, 2011 10:38 PM GMT
    judoguy said
    A1BOT saidThere's no such thing- so don't feel bad.


    Yeah, I also think it's a myth.... And how I would love to see a Mythbusters special about "The Gaydar" icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
    I wanna be on that episode, so I can "out" both of those guys. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 02, 2011 10:52 PM GMT
    Mine is soooo bad that I saw two guys making out in a gay club and turned to my friend and seriously asked "Do you think they are gay?"
    He got a good laugh out of that one...icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 03, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    I have no gaydar whatsoever. And since I am discreet, this explains why I am single.
  • Syphon

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    Mar 03, 2011 12:56 AM GMT
    My gaydar tends to work on wishful thinking, so I usually just ignore it, unless it's blatantly obvious.

    What does work for me is watching a guy to see if he checks out other dudes and/or me. That's pretty indicative.
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    Mar 03, 2011 12:59 AM GMT
    nycusa05 saidI have no gaydar whatsoever. And since I am discreet, this explains why I am single.


    same man. exactly the same. except you're hot =)
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    Mar 03, 2011 1:00 AM GMT
    Oh, honey. Ok. So … I'm going to take pity on your lack of gaydar (which most certainly DOES exist) and give you an effective, albeit crude "gay test."

    When a man of questionable sexual orientation is in your presence, non-chalantly itch your side or something and very slightly pull your shirt up to expose just an inch or two of your stomach. It doesn't matter if you have ripped abs, if he's hot … whatever … he WILL look at your exposed skin. Like moths to a flame.

    You're welcome. icon_twisted.gif
  • starboard5

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    Mar 03, 2011 1:20 AM GMT
    FierceEyes saidOh, honey. Ok. So … I'm going to take pity on your lack of gaydar (which most certainly DOES exist) and give you an effective, albeit crude "gay test."

    When a man of questionable sexual orientation is in your presence, non-chalantly itch your side or something and very slightly pull your shirt up to expose just an inch or two of your stomach. It doesn't matter if you have ripped abs, if he's hot … whatever … he WILL look at your exposed skin. Like moths to a flame.

    You're welcome. icon_twisted.gif

    Bogus. Straight guys will look, too. Just like they'll look when in the locker room and there's a lot more than two inches of belly showing. It's human.
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    Mar 03, 2011 4:19 AM GMT
    The gym is the WORST place to "gaydar" - just going to say. Everyone looks at everyone.

    I've been trying to figure out gaydar...I'm pretty intuitive so I'd like to think I have it. But I've never really hit on anyone, so I'm not sure if I'll ever know I'm right.
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    Mar 03, 2011 6:17 AM GMT
    closer85 saidI've never really hit on anyone


    I think we know a certain boy at a certain gay club in NYC who might disagree with you on that one. icon_rolleyes.gif